| "Become a repository of your child's successes. As soon as she has done something you want to remember, jot it down...on a piece of paper you stash in a box..Include everyday instances of good behavior, like being ready on time, as well as major projects like running a successful lemonade stand...One of the best times to tell your child successs stories about her past is right before she goes to sleep."
| "WHAT YOU SAY TO YOUR CHILD BECOMES WHAT YOUR CHILD SAYS TO HERSELF"
| "MAKE THIS A DAILY HABIT: Remember the best thing your child did today, and tell her tonight at bedtime."
| "You are NOT the enemy and NEITHER is your child. You and your child are allies against a common enemy, or rather common enemies. They are the enemies we all face: fear, stress, intolerance, misunderstanding, discouragement, exhaustion, disappointment." |
"If you have learned a relaxation procedure that works for you, share it with your child. Do this on a good day, when you and your child are on especially friendly terms. Try deep breathing with him, or tensing and relaxing muscles from head to toe. Ask your child to close his eyes and think of a favorite place that's out-of-doors. Ask him to describe it to you. Help your child learn to identify his own early warning that he is gettting too excited or upset." |