List of Hilwan's Book Library on Parenting
(Warning: these books are not The Bible, believe nothing in it no matter
how persuasive is the author until you try it out in your life and discover
that what the author wrote works for you.)
TITLE AUTHOR
1.Baby and Child Care Dr.Spock
A classic, world-famous book for parents. Gives practical and easy-to-
understand suggestions for hundreds of problems. Excellent for helping
parents deal with problems of feeding, daily care, illness, sex, sleeping,
play. The focus however is not on the parent-child relationship, nor will
parents learn how to communicate with children or resolve conflicts.
2.Dr.Spock Talk with Mothers Dr.Spock
This book begins where Dr.Spock's Baby and Child Care leaves off and
discusses various aspects of the behaviour of children from infancy through
adolescence.
3.Problem of Parents Dr.Spock
This book focuses more on parents and their feelings than Dr. Spock's
previous books. He discusses such topics as the quarrels of mothers and
fathers, their guilt over favoritism of a child, their resentment at
interfering grandparents and difficult neighbors, and their difficulties in
talking about death and sex with children.
4.How to Parent Dr.F.Dodson
A must reading for new parents because this book is full of things that are
not covered by Dr. Spock. Becoming a parent does not automatically provide
wisdom or effectiveness in the art of being a parent. To do a good job, it
is essential to know quite a bit about the way children grow. Dr. Dodson
emphasizes that it is not enough to know about successive stages and then
sit back and wait for them to occur. This book provides generous
information about child behavior, specific advice about what to do and what
not to do. Also it provides lots and lots of references for further
reading and on how to become more effective parent.
5.How to Father Dr.F.Dodson
How to Parent was written sometimes with mother as the "parent" or the
reader because in the old days, mother who is supposed to be principal
person in the family doing the task of child rearing. So this book is
written by Dr. Dodson to complement How to Parent.
6.How to Discipline with Love Dr.F.Dodson
Love alone is not enough but must be coupled with discipline to make sure
the child grows up right. That is the message Dr. Dodson wants to convey in
this book. It provides practical, flexible strategies for teaching children
desirable behavior are focused on every stage of the children's
development.
7.Your Child's Play Arnold Arnold
A sensitive, down-to-earth book which can help a parent understand the play
of her child and participate in that play.
8.Play Therapy Virginia Axline
The first book describing the application of the client-centered approach
to therapy with children. Demonstrates use of active listening. Deals with
concept of limits. Presents a variety of case material and recorded
interviews. Techniques described may be applied by parents in the home.
9.Child Behaviour Ilg & Ames
A classic (million copies sold). Beginning chapter gives a very helpful
summary of different stages of development in children from birth to ten.
The rest of the book discusses various areas of child development which are
important to parents: eating, sleeping, elimination, fears, mother-child
relationship, father-child relationship, brothers and sisters, school, sex
behavior, and others.
10.Between Parent and Child Dr.H.Ginott
Best-selling, easy-to-read book that shows parents the difference between
destructive and constructive (therapeutic) conversation with children.
While rich in brief examples, the book does not present longer cases
showing how active listening can be used in counseling children. This book
is full of helpful ideas for dealing with specific problems-jealousy,
getting up and getting dressed, bedtime, TV, sex, etc.
11.Between Parent and Teenager Dr.H.Ginott
Focuses primarily on how parents can use the language of acceptance to
respond to teenagers' messages. Shows destructive effects of criticism,
insults, praise, and lecturing. Offers parents advice on handling problems
of dating, dress, sex, drinking, drugs.
12.Summerhill, A Radical Approach To Child Rearing A.S.Neill
Report of a pioneering school in England in which an attempt has been made
to incorporate in an education institution the principles of democracy and
the elements of a therapeutic community.
13.How to Really Love Your Teenager Dr.Ross Campbell
A Christian psychiatrist who specializes in working with problems of
children and teenagers, Dr. Ross Campbell has written this book to help
parents with difficult matters relating to teenagers. He believes many
teenagers feel unloved though
their parents provide for them and actually love them. Dr. Campbell
outlines ways parents can move closer to teens and let them know they're
really loved and accepted.
14.Yes Virginia, There Is Right and Wrong Dr.Kathleen M.Gow
The quest for morality without God, for Eros without procreation, for
happiness without tears, has led twentieth century men and women into some
bizarre and disastrous courses. Dr. Gow has charted one of them - the
systematic debauching of children in the name of liberating them from
bondage to Good and Evil. Her scholarly and exhaustive study of moral
values and education, provides much needed guidance, equally for bewildered
parents and teachers assailed by doubts about the validity of current
syllabuses.
15.401 Ways To Get Your Kids Work At Home Mc.Cullough & Morson
It is a book for busy parents who would like to get their kids to share the
housework and who would like a systematic program to ensure that their kids
know all the basic living skills by the time they leave home at age
eighteen.
16.Dare to Discipline Dr.James Dobson
Written in mind to address parents' questions such as "should a child be
allowed to decide for himself about his concept of God?", "am I wrong in
not spanking my children?", has permissiveness failed?", etc., etc. These
are just a few of the problems Dr. Dodson covers. He explains why children
crave for firm control, how the best parent-child relationship is built on
respect and ultimate loyalty to God - and why discipline is the key to the
real love.
17.Children the Challenge Rudolf Dreikurs M.D.
A widely read book for parents that presents an approach to child-rearing
rooted in Adlerian theory. Dreikurs' approach has some distinct
similarities to the P.E.T. philosophy, but also some differences,
particularly in the area of discipline and conflicts. Parents will find
this book helpful in understanding their children better, even though
certain recommended techniques will be seen as inconsistent with the P.E.T.
approach.
18.How to Raise a Brighter Child Joan Beck
A very fine book instructing parents in how to provide a simulating
intellectual environment for their children in the first five years of
life.
19.Toughlove Phyllis and David York
Thousands of parent are finding new hope in dealing with rebellious
teenagers through Toughlove, a self-help program which has grown to over
800 groups throughout North America. Toughlove is a concept for parents who
feel helpless and unable to cope with their teenagers' behavior or they
feel victimized by them, disappointed as parents, guilty because they think
they have done a rotten job.
20.Toughlove Solutions Phyllis and David York
Provide stories and reports of Toughlove implementation in many families
that had chosen to try the method. As well it summarizes again and
strengthens the concept. Good reading for those who feel that Toughlove
principal is suitable for them and want to implement it.
21.Parent Effectiveness Training Dr. Thomas Gordon
Contain method to bring parents and their children together and to show
parents how to help their children become mature, healthy, happy and
loving. Dr. Gordon is a licensed clinical psychologist, founder and
president of Effectiveness Training Associates, a training institution for
parents, teachers and others working with children.
22.The Hurting Parent Margie M. Lewis
Conflict in life is part of most relationships, but it can be particularly
painful when it involves one's children. This book will provide help for
parents to understand the pain and recover from the hurt. It is written by
a Christian and would help more for Christian parents.
23.Control Theory William Glasser, M.D.
Dr. Glasser is well known for his many books on mental health and
education. He is the founder of Institute of Reality Therapy in North
America. In this book he shares his "control theory" on how each of us can
better control our emotions and actions and to live healthier and more
productive lives. He explains that everything we do, think and feel comes
from inside us and is not, as most people believe, a response to things and
people around us. Marital problems, raising children, alcoholism, diseases,
psychosomatic illness, weight problems, are only some of the difficult life
situations explored. For each situation discussed, Dr. Glasser ties
behavior to the pictures in peoples' heads. He analyzes how the pictures
got there and what can be done about them, using examples and case
histories of people who have learned to take effective control of their
lives.
24.Control Theory in the Classroom William Glasser, M.D.
This book is a further implementation of Control Theory in the schools. It
provides model of team learning with emphasis on satisfaction and
excitement. It presents an insightful analysis of what is wrong with
traditional schools and what could be done about it. Working in small
teams, students find that knowledge contributes to power, friendship and
fun. Because content and the necessary student collaboration skills must be
taught, teachers need to develop skills if they are to use this method
successfully. It is excellent reading for those who teach.
25.Reality Therapy William Glasser, M.D.
Reality Therapy outlines a new and positive approach to helping the
emotionally distressed. Dr. Glasser contends that the "mentally ill" are
unable to satisfy their needs realistically and behave irresponsibly
because they "deny the reality of the world around them." As a therapeutic
method, Reality Therapy emphasizes moral values but it does not concern
itself with the patient's past, but with his present and future. The
therapist has the task of teaching his patients to "acquire the ability to
fulfill their needs and to do so in a way that does not deprive others of
the ability to fulfill their needs."
26.Grown Up Children Who Won't Grow Up Dr. Larry Stockman and Cynthia
Graves
Written with compassion and empathy for parents of adult adolescents, this
is a valuable resource for parents struggling to manage difficult
situations. Dr. Stockman is a family counsellor for twenty nine years and
has worked with hundreds of families suffering from adult adolescent
problems.
27.Who Speaks For the Children Peter Silverman
Peter Silverman has been a construction worker, paratrooper, advertising
executive and professor. He gives the young generation a voice in this
book. Some of them are still at home, but cut off from parents. Others have
hit the street, hoping to leave their troubles behind. Still others are
fighting their way back into society, but with few signals to guide them.
According to Silverman, the following has caused the younger generation of
Canadians to lose their way. Parents preoccupied with "grown-up" concerns -
the search for possessions and professions. A school system that treats
students as so many names on attendance register. A society set up for
adults only, one that strips children of the basic necessities, whether
physical or emotional. He also shares experiences from talking to them,
from interviews with social workers, judges, police and lawyers. He helps
parents get in touch with the young generation.
28.Don't Say No Just Let Go Maria Von Couver
Maria Von Couver who have had the responsibility for a total of eleven
teenagers and who lived to tell about it offers the solution of power
parenting in this book. She has learned the hard way that pleading, crying,
threatening and understanding are equally ineffective in dealing with the
teens. She then developed the Power Parenting method, which teaches you how
not to deal with your teens. Reading this book you have nothing to lose but
anxiety, guilt, rage, and embarrassment that are so much a part of your
life with your teens.
29. All Grown Up & No Place to Go David Elkind
Dr. Elkind is a Professor of Child Study at Tufts University and Senior
Resident Scholar at the Lincoln Filene Center, Tufts University. As a
psychologist he helps parents cope with the pressures facing today's
adolescents and offers insightful advice that will help parents guide their
teenagers through their turbulent years. Today's teens are expected to
confront adult challenge at an early age, without any preparation. The
normal adolescent rituals have disappeared causing drastic increases in
drug and alcohol abuse, psychological withdrawal, crime, and even suicide
among teenagers. Using case studies, research and examples he gathered from
his own practice and travels, he maintains that today's teens suffer
drastic repercussions because of today's social pressures. Teens are
pressured into taking on adult responsibilities by parents more committed
to their own self-fulfillment than to their children's. This book gives
parents the tools to cope with the problems of teenagers of today and help
them become the responsible adult of tomorrow.
30.The Hurried Child David Elkind
Often with the very best intentions, North Americans expose their children
to overwhelming pressures, pressures that can lead to low self-esteem, to
teenage pregnancy, and even to teenage suicide. By blurring the boundaries
of what is age appropriate, by expecting or imposing too much too soon, we
force our kids to grow up too fast, to mimic adult sophistication while
secretly yearning for innocence. In this book, Dr. Elkind takes a detailed
and up-to-the-minute look at the world of today's kids in terms of
education, movies, television, music, and social trends, to see where the
hurrying occurs and why. He offers parents and teachers insight, advice,
and hope for encouraging healthy development while protecting the joy and
freedom of childhood.
31.Raging Hormones Judith and Jack Balswick
What to do when you suspect your teen may be sexually active? Judith, a
professor of family therapy at Fuller Theological Seminar in Pasadena,
California and her husband, Jack, professor of sociology and family
development at Fuller provide some answers to that question and others.
More than half of American teenager are sexually active by the same time
they are seventeen. According to separate polls conducted by George Gallup
and the Presbyterian Church, church kids are only slightly behind than
secular counterparts when it comes to sexual activity. If you suspect your
teenage son or daughter may be sexually active or is being pressured to
have sex, this book is required reading. The authors believe sexually
active teens can return to celibacy with proper parental guidance.
32.Have You Hugged Your Teenager Today? Patricia H. Rushford
Subtitle of the book states: A Six-Point Strategy for Maximizing Love and
Minimizing Guilt. It's infuriating how teenagers always know which buttons
to push to make parents feel guilty. Pat knows how easy it is to give in to
guilt and frustration. This boos contains lots of practical advice on being
a better parent, including that six-point plan. It's written for less-than-
perfect parent to discover that it's okay to make mistakes, laugh at
themselves, and start over again.
33.In Pursuit of Happiness E. Perry Good
Perry Good explores the four area of basic needs based on the concepts of
Reality Therapy - love, power, fun and freedom that we all have and must
meet to lead satisfying lives. She explains that all our actions are
directed towards meeting one or more of these needs and shows how to choose
the most effective behavior to meet each. The achievement of happiness and
personal fulfillment is possible when we maintain the balance of love,
power, fun and freedom in our lives.
34."It's not fair, Jeremy Spencer's parents let him stay up all night!"
Anthony E. Wolf, Ph.D.
This groundbreaking book focuses on the most difficult challenges or
parenting post-infant to pre-teen children - setting limits and making
demands. Dr. Wolf covers all the classic parenting problem areas: family
disputes, including who is in charge (Mom or Dad), sibling fights, and
divorce; day-to-day issues such as bedtime, grumpiness, and public tantrums
and problems that might not be problems after all, like aggression, lying
and spoiling. Positive, loving, and above all, effective,
this guide offers parents what they want most: more time to enjoy their
children.
35.Codependent No More Melody Beattie
By its nature, alcoholism and other compulsive disorders create victims out
of everyone close to the afflicted person. Whether the person you love is
an alcoholic, a gambler, a foodaholic, a workaholic, a sexaholic, a
criminal, a rebellious teenager, or a neurotic parent, this book is for you
- the codependent. This book about codependency details its
characteristics, where the behavior comes from, and how it affects us and
those around us. It offers hope and guidance, discusses several options to
controlling behavior and helps us understand that letting go will set us
free.