DEFINITION.
Too many authors of web sites have their own page which is labeled as a "biography" where they write the description about themself. A biography is a review of you, done by someone else. An autobiography is your story, told by you.
This is my story.
WHAT'S THIS ALL ABOUT?
This is me--what makes me who I am. This page is about my beliefs, my goals, my aspirations. Its about the person I present everyday to those I work with, love, and cherish. This is a representation of me without the masks.
This part of the web site was inspired by a very special group I've been with for many years now that have helped me delve deeper into my spiritual/inner world. They don't all meet as a group, but instead are the people I see as "coaches" as I live. This is dedicated to those who have helped me to live, learn, and grow. I thank and love you all so very much--you know who you are.
This is not a literary piece of art. This is not written as a scholarly piece. This is me talking to you. This is me forgetting the rules of grammar, the rules of ettiquette, the rules of rules.
WHO AM I?
I see myself as one who is different from social groups. I am not in a social group--never have been. I am instead an outsider with a unique view. I see through other people's eyes. I hear through other people's ears. I'm a listener, an understander, a helper. While I'm not one of those people who say nothing or speak very quietly, I am someone who sees things outside the box.
This is what I see
We all want to be and feel very special, very unique.
We love when others make us feel good, and feel bad when we know we're deserving of it, yet do not receive. At the same time, we are very focused in our own world, our own goals, our own personalities and traits. So focused that we often times pass over the "little things" that make life so great.
None of us are alike.
Although we'd like to think we're the same as the next guy when it comes to dying our hair, getting the same kind of shoes or clothes. We were made to be genuine. We were made to be very special. That's why we each have a different fingerprint, why we all have unique DNA. But try telling that to the followers of the Spice Girls or the mass numbers of people buying platform shoes.
We crave attention.
We can't get enough of it. Yet, we don't often give enough attention. I've seen two people who have known each other for a long time just walk past one another and not even make eye contact, yet they saw the other one coming.
We remember our history in stories.
Studies show people remember things in stories. Our life is one big story, broken down into chapters called years, then sections called months, to paragraphs called days, then sentences called hours, and words called minutes. The key is to take each word, find or know its meaning, then move onto the next one without anticipation or expectations. True happiness is remembering the past, but not living in it. True happiness is understanding the past for a more hopeful future. As one of my best college instructors taught me, "understand the past, or you are doomed to repeat it."
We want more than anything to be loved.
We want someone to deeply care about us--whether its our parents, our boyfriend/girlfriend, our husband/wife, or even our best friend. We'll convince ourselves its real when sometimes its really not.
Our body wants, more than ever, for us to love it.
Our body is willing to take us on a spiritual journey of a lifetime--it wants us to use it to its full potential. A recent study says everyday, people use 10% (or less) of their potential thinking capacity. Imagine how much more we could use if we took care of our bodies by feeding it the right foods, healthy exercise and social involvement, a time of being silent everyday, etc.
We do things we don't like doing.
There are some people on planet Earth who absolutely despise their job. Yet when an opportunity comes around for change, they pass it by. Some people actually fear success or a better life.
We make decisions in wierd ways.
In America, there are people who do not watch the evening news or read a newspaper. They have no idea what is going on in the world, or what stance they are taking on the issue. And they don't care. Yet, they vote in elections and comment to others about the issue in casual conversation like they are experts.
People are weird.
They sit on trains and airplanes in mass numbers and do not say anything to each other. They know every catch-phrase from Seinfeld, yet do not know who is called the "father of our country." They consume things that are poisionous for their bodies and call it a "good time."
WHAT AM I ALL ABOUT?
A few years ago, a very wise teacher told me, "There are two things that cause distruction: disease and ignorance." We find solutions or "antidotes" for diseases, but they are still searching for the cure for ignorance.
I'm not saying that you have to be Albert Einstein to successfully live on Planet Earth. It just takes some basic common sense:
If something is bad for your body, why consume it? And while we're on the topic, why do we call consuming bad things a "good time?"
If you do not like your job, find one that you do like.
If coffee is hot, don't spill it all over your lap--it will burn you.
Learn the skill that is in high demand--it will make you the most money.
Don't depend on someone else to take care of you.
A complete education (high school and college) is a requirement for avoiding the title of "Fries Manager" at McDonalds for your entire life.
In a second, you have the power to change your life. No one tells you what type of life to lead--its your decision. What a powerful ability. Use it.
Here are the basics that I base my life on each day:
Tell someone you love them each and everyday.
Do something good each day.
Eat something that is proven to be good for you everyday.
Learn something new everyday.
Look at each moment as a special moment. Even if its something as simple as filling up your gas tank or washing the dishes. It will never come again.
Look for the meaning in everything you do. You do it for a reason, believe it or not. Know what that reason is, or try to find it.
In the end, its all about YOU vs. YOU. But at the same time, in our world of wanting to be loved and wanting attention, we need to learn to reciprocate the courtesy better. We need to be more open to new/different people and ideas. We need to smile at people as they walk towards us in the other direction. We need to smile when we talk with people.
A lot of people confuse stereotypes with common sense.
Probably one of the biggest social problems we have in the United States. For example, I find rap music to be filled with a lot of nothing. Many rappers swear in their lyrics like sailors. The lyrics that you can understand without a translation book from the ghetto usually reinact a sexual encounter or some violent crime. As you can see, I find very little meaning and almost no reason to listen to most rap music--its a waste of my energy to listen because it does not say or do anything very positive. When someone hears that I don't enjoy that type of music, they stereotype me as a racist because the rap industry is 99% African-American. Common sense says that by listening to the lyrics of songs you should be able to determine their usefulness in your life. That's what I do--I'm critical of things that come into contact with me and then I determine their usefulness. In general, rap, to me, is not useful--it does not promote anything positive in life, which is what I am all about.
We need to do more productive things with ourselves.
We need to spend more time on things like "good" music, the arts, and learning the basics of common sense and common decency. We need to look at life with a much more positive view and do things that enrich our lives instead of take away from them. Consuming foods and drinks that are good for you, surrounding yourself with people/things that make you a better person, keeping your body a well-oiled machine with exercise and a mindfulness attitude, etc. -- these are all things that are the start of living what I call the "good life." "Good" not meaning elaborate or extended, but instead the life of taking good care of yourself and living each moment for something that enriches you.
WHAT DOES ALL THIS MEAN?
In using these morals/values/goals in everyday life, I believe myself to be more "real," more genuine, more me. I understand who/what I am and stand for, and take those "good" values out there and spread the word.
MY HOPE
My hope is that you'll take these words and see how they may apply to your own life. Why are you doing something? Is it for you or for someone else? Are you the person on the airplane who doesn't introduce yourself to the stranger next to you? Are you the person who does things because its stylish or because you really like the idea? Think, think, think. Analyze, analyze, analyze... Do things for your REASONS, not as a follower.
Someone once told me this line, and I'll never forget it.
I hope it helps you as much as it does me:
"Everything you do, says everything about you."