I have a number of stupid questions about sex that I can't ask anyone. If I ask Felicia she would immediately make assumptions again and she would be wrong (unfortunately). If I asked Brenda she would laugh her head off. (Ilaugh, too, when I think of them, but that doesn't give me any answers.)
These questions aren't physiological (or obviously I could research them) and are not ideoloigcal (or I could probably figure out what I think). They are more logistical--nitt-gritty kinds of things. They aren't even as sophisticated as who does what to whom first. (There I am willing to be surprised.) They are as dumb as how do you get yor clothes off gracefully.
I mean it is very nice to think about his removing them, but even then there are awkward elements. What if he has trouble with your bra? Do you help?
When you see these explicit scenes in movies there is always a fade-out just at the point where it would get clumsy. Then they fade back in and the principals are unclothed on some horizontal surface with a cover of some sort delicately draped. (Or not, depending on the rating.) One way or the other, you probably did't see them take their shoes off.
Shoes might not be a prolem if you're wearing something simple that slips off sexily, but then you have the problem of socks or pantyhose, both of which are a little ridiculous. Or what if you're wearing shoes that have to untie--maybe even tennis shoes? (Granted you probably wouldn't wear tennis shoes to have sex, but what if you didn't plan on it that day when you got dressed?)
It must have been a lot easier in the Old Days when you got married first and came out of the bathroom in a peignoir. (I know this from fifties movies on TNT.)
Then there is the further problem of Protection. How and when does this occur? Obviously things have progressed to a reasonable point before this can happen. So it seems to me some time in the throes of passion everything comes to a sudden halt while he gets this dumb thing on. Doesn't this break the mood?
Well, I suppose it has to do with Felicia's statement--that passion can be overwhelming. Mabe you're so into it you just don't ntice. Clearly people are managing. But this is the kind of thing that prevents me from having an adequate fantasy life.