Headed Down Under, super songstress Mariah Carey tells Bronwen Gora how she's taken control of her own life. Eighty million records sold - and counting. Mariah Carey's star is shining so brightly she admits it almost blinds her. From her newly bought apartment in Manhattan's fashionable Upper East Side, the gorgeous 27-year-old singer grapples with how it feels to be a phenomenon. "It's incredible," Carey acknowledges. "I don't really think about it because the enormity of what that means is something other than the reality of who I am." [huhh??] "It doesn't feel like that." Carey is indisputably the biggest selling female artist of the decade - and more. Her albums shoot to number one and turn platinum at lightning speed. She is the only female artist to have had three albums sell more than eight million copies each. She has had more charts toppers than any other solo female artist in the rock era. Carey also married one of the most powerful men in the music industry, Sony president Tommy Mottola. But if the last decade has seen Carey arrive, this year she's well and truly grown up. Early this year she formed her own record label, Crave, in a joint venture with Sony. The in June she split from Tommy. On her latest album, Butterfly, she's teamed up with rappers with names like Bones Thugs and Harmony. Any on her sassy videos, she is showing a lot more of her shapely body. "Well that's who I've always been," Carey says, speaking like a woman suddenly set free. "It's just that (before) everybody felt that was a little bit threatening for me - and for the public. "Everybody's just always had me covered up." For "Everybody", read the record industry which has cossetted her ever since Mottola discovered her as a teenager. How the tables have turned. Nowadays, Carey calls the shots in a game that she says has been controlled by others for too long. She talks of "my decisions", "my music", "my image". "I used to feel a little bit insecure and cautious," Carey says. "I'd edit myself and really listen to what other people said - and they said: 'If you wear this you may not succeed; if you do this stye of music it might not work' - even though my gut would always be to go with what I liked. "Now I'm doing what I want musically and image-wise and I'm responsible." Carey even talks about "trying to fit in some fun," perhaps a holiday sailing with friends, as though it is a long-forgotten feeling. She is careful not to name her estranged husband as one of those who have cramped her style. the much older Mottola was said to be so obsessed about losing his young wife that he had her tailed earlier this year. "I care about Tommy as a person and I always will," Carey says. "He represents a large portion of my life. I've really known him since I was really a kid, a teenage girl, and we've been through a lot together." Any men in her life post-Mottola? "No, unfortunately," she laments, explaining she is lying in bed with a cold after a hectic day rehearsing in wintry New York. "I'm just sitting here alone about to take a bath and waiting for my dogs (terriers Jack, a Jack Russell, and Ginger, a Yorkshire) to get home from doggy day care." For all her success and it's lavish accompaniments - including her $500,000 wedding four years ago attended by such heavy weights as Barbara Streisand and Bruce Springsteen - Carey attests she remains unchanged by fame. "I still feel like the same person from before this all started," she says. "Because of the way I grew up I felt the rug could be pulled from me at any time. I'm never really at ease with the fact that everything is going to be OK." Carey's parents - her father, Alfred, a black aeronautical engineer and her Irish-American mother, Patricia, a vocal coach and opera singer - divorced when she was three. She has an older sister who became involved in prostitution and drugs and is HIV positive, and a brother with cerebral palsy. Carey says she was saved from falling by the wayside because of her mother's constant reassurances. Patricia spotted Carey's talent and five-octave voice when her daughter was barely out of nappies. "I always had this great hope for success," says Carey. "My mom always told me to believe in myself and to visualise myself doing what I wanted to be doing and that it could happen if I did that. I prayed and hoped and I focused from a very, very early age." At 17 Carey headed for New York to seek the fame she craved. With one set of clothes and her mother's borrowed shoes, Carey lived in a tiny loft in a friend's apartment, waitressing and hawking demo tapes to the recording industry. "I would walk to my little job and my feet would be in the ice and snow because of the holes in my shoes," Carey says. "But I knew that this was going to happen for me. I knew that was part of what I had to go through. I didn't feel sorry for myself." Her life changed forever when she met Mottola at a New York party and gave him a demo tape. He listened to it in his car on the way home and spent a week tracking her down. Ever since, Carey has endured taunts that her success is due to her relationship with Mottola. She points out she almost skipped that fateful music industry party because, days earlier, Warner Bros had drawn up a contact for her - she just hadn't signed it. All the Sony meeting did was give her more leverage when she eventually did sign with them. Australians can thank Carey's new-found boldness for her tour here early next year. She says she desperately wanted to head Down Under after her last Japan tour but "nobody booked it". "Now the decisions I'm making are up to me and I really wanted to come here," she says defiantly.