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~ Too Much To Do
I feel this way most of the time. There are always things to do and never enough time to do everything you really want to do. I don't have a to-do list in my head, but I am conscious of the things that I know I will have to do, to make everything run smoothly. They aren't the kind of things that I think about every waking hour of the day either. They are all those little chores and pick-ups and deliveries that will somehow "fall into place" when you get some open time during the course of the day. There is no panic and no worry because somehow you will get them all done. The real problem is trying to do too much in one day.
Deciding what is a priority can be your greatest challenge but can also be your greatest asset. Working from a priority system will only enhance your lifestyle and make it more enjoyable and definitely more organized. Worries and fears will disappear. Don't forget that you can mix things that you have to do with things that you really want to do and make them both a priority. This way you don't feel cheated and you will have some balance.
Doing what absolutely has to get done today should be your first priority. People are relying on you (in all likelihood) to uphold your end of the bargain and may be delaying something, waiting for you. Don't make people wait if you don't really have to. The inconvenience on them (whether it is okay or not) will make them think less of you in the long run. You are unreliable. This is especially true if you work for a large company. There are so many different people that could be looking to you, for input or advice, that meetings (formal or not), are a regular occurrence. If you have to attend more than one meeting a day, get yourself a "day-timer". You will not be able to keep track of all your meetings in your head. It is the number one rule of business, if you are a manager. Time that is scheduled, is time well spent (when it comes to work). The better organized you are, the better and more productive a manager you will be. This is easy stuff.
Doing everything you can comfortably handle in one day is always a very good idea. Do not put-off to tomorrow what you can still accomplish today. You have no idea what tomorrow will bring, so why try and push-off more stuff. If you have some extra down-time during the course of the day, do it today. It is better to get these kinds of things behind you while it is still fresh in your mind. It will make you feel a lot better when they are done and it will give you freedom.
Freedom is the key word here. If you have freedom from doing all these necessary things (because they are now done), you will have all this free time to do the things you really want to do. It is the difference between needing to do something versus wanting to do something. Rather than needing to do little things, you can actually take pleasure, in doing more little things, for yourself and for other people. It is all a matter of control. The good news is that you are the one who is in control, so you have the ability to change things around.
People have this perception that everyone else is running their lives and they have no control over the situation. They say it is a matter of responsibility and parenting and being a good spouse. They always have to do things for other people and they never have time to do their own things. This is that "martyr complex" and it is totally wrong. You are letting everyone take advantage of you and you are abandoning your own personal needs and wants. You can only do this for so long before you "burn-out", have a nervous breakdown or completely alienate yourself from everyone, out of sheer resentment. This is a big warning signal. Start delegating and then pampering yourself through your own agenda. You will have to somehow force yourself to regain that freedom.
Other people have their own agenda whether you want to believe it or not. If you fall into the trap of doing all these extra little things for other people (out of obligation), you will find that most people don't care about it after awhile. They just know you will do it (you always do), and will now expect you to do it. Your sense of duty has now changed from a priority (willingness to do it), to a necessity (forced to do it out of obligation). Be very careful. This has been the grounds for many a divorce and it is fatal to most relationships. All the fun and love is gone. Your pets show you more respect and attention than that.
So, you've read all of this and figure I haven't a clue about the "real" world. I make it sound so easy. You still have too much to do and I have no sense of what your life is truly like. How could I possibly know all your responsibilities ? The truth is, I don't have to. You are the one in control.... remember ? If you choose to try and do everything yourself out of responsibility (another good word for obligation) and can't find quite enough time to do everything, then I am sorry to say, "it is your fault". You are obviously not treating yourself with any sense of self-respect. You obviously can't trust anyone else to help you with anything.
I like to end with just one thought. You can overload yourself with too many things. Only you know your own limitations. Try to say "no" occasionally and buy yourself some time. It won't be the end of the world, if you have to postpone some things.
Pure and simple...
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