Domestic Violence Safety Plan
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Prepare
a safe exit from your dangerous situation. Print & follow
this plan.
This Domestic Violence Safety
Plan was created to increase your safety and to prepare you to protect yourself in case of further abuse. Although
you can't control your abuser's violence, you do have a choice about how
you respond to that violence and how you get to safety. You
must decide for yourself if and when you tell others that
you have been abused, or that you are at risk. Friends, family,
neighbors, and co-workers can help protect you, if they know what is happening, and what they can do to help
you.
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1. |
Safety During an
Explosive Incident |
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a. |
If an argument seems
unavoidable, try to stay out of a room or area that does not have access to an
exit (like a bathroom) and also try to stay out of the kitchen or anywhere else
that may contain items that can be used as weapons. |
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b. |
Practice how to get out
of your home safely. Find out which doors, windows, elevators, or stairwells
would be the best ones to take if you need to make a quick escape. |
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c. |
Have a packed bag ready
and keep it hidden in an easily accessible place in case you have to leave
quickly. |
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d. |
Find a neighbor that
you can tell about the violence and ask them to call the police if they hear a
disturbance coming from your home. |
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e. |
Devise a code word to
use with your children, family, friends, co-workers, and neighbors to let them
know when you need for them to call the police. |
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f. |
Decide where you will
go if you ever have to leave your home. You need to make an escape plan even if
you don't think that you will ever need to use it. |
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g. |
Use your own instincts
and judgment. If the situation is very dangerous, consider giving the abuser
what he wants to calm him down. You have the right to protect yourself until you
are out of danger. |
~ YOU DON'T DESERVE
TO BE HIT OR THREATENED! ~ |
2. |
Safety When
Preparing to Leave |
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a. |
Open a savings account
in your own name to establish or increase your independence. Think of other ways
in which you can increase your independence. |
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b. |
Be prepared to leave
quickly by leaving money, an extra set of keys, copies of important documents,
and extra clothes with someone you trust. |
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c. |
Find someone you would
be able to stay with or who could lend you some money if you had to suddenly
leave your home. |
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d. |
Keep the shelter phone
number close at hand and keep some change or a pre-paid calling card on you at
all times for emergency phone calls. |
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e. |
Review your safety plans as often as possible in order to plan the safest way to
leave your batterer. |
~ LEAVING YOUR
BATTERER IS THE MOST DANGEROUS TIME! ~ |
3. |
Safety in Your Own
Home |
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a. |
If you want to stay in
the home that you previously shared with the batterer, you need to change the
locks on your doors as soon as possible. You should also buy additional locks
for your doors as soon as possible as well as additional locks and safety
devices to secure your windows. |
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b. |
Inform your neighbors
and landlord that your partner no longer lives with you and that they should
call the police if they see your partner near your home. |
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c. |
Discuss your safety
plan with your children so that they will know what to do when you are not with
them. |
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d. |
Inform your child's
school, day care, etc. about who has permission to pick up your child. |
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e. |
If you have moved out
of the home that you previously shared with the batterer, you should never call
the abuser from your new home. If he has caller ID, he may be able to locate
your residence. |
4. |
Safety with a
Protective Order |
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a. |
Keep your Protective
Order on you at all times. When you change your purse, the first thing that you
should move to the new purse is your Protective Order. |
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b. |
Call the police if your
partner violates the Protective Order. |
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c. |
Think of alternative
ways to keep safe if the police are unable to respond right away. |
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d. |
Inform your family,
friends, and neighbors that you have a Protective Order in effect. |
5. |
Safety on the Job
and in Public |
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a. |
Decide which people at
your workplace you want to tell about your situation. This should include office
or building security. If possible, provide them with a photo of your batterer. |
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b. |
If possible, arrange to
have someone screen your telephone calls. |
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c. |
Devise a safety plan
for when you leave work. Have someone escort you to your car, bus, or train. If
possible, use a variety of routes to and from your home. |
6. |
Your Safety and
Emotional Health |
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a. |
If you are thinking of
returning to a potentially abusive situation, discuss an alternative plan with
someone you trust. |
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b. |
Determine the safest
way to communicate with you batterer, when you have to inform them of something. |
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c. |
Have positive thoughts
about yourself and be assertive with others about your needs. |
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d. |
Read books, articles,
and poems to help you feel stronger. |
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e. |
Plan to attend a
women's or victim's support group at least 2 weeks to gain support from others
and learn more about yourself and relationships. |
CHECKLIST: WHAT YOU NEED TO TAKE WHEN YOU LEAVE |
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Identification |
___ Insurance Papers |
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School Records |
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Checkbook |
___ Driver's License |
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House Keys |
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Money |
___ Your Birth Certificate |
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Car Keys |
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Bankbook |
___ Children's Birth Certificates |
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Medications |
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Passport |
___ Social Security Cards |
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Divorce Papers |
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Jewelry |
___ Welfare Identification |
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Pictures |
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Green Card |
___ Small Sellable Items |
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Address Book |
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___ Work Permit |
___ Child's Favorite pillow, blanket, small toys, etc. |
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