DO'S AND DON'T'S

This page will be to help your family and friends to help understand what is going on with you. If they read this, they can see what they should do and should not do to help you get through a panic attack. This will also help them to see what they may be doing to make things more nervous for you. At times they don't realize that what they say or do may send you into a panic if you are already nervous. Please either print this page of write down the info. It is very important for people that are close to you to learn how to help when times are tough.

1. DON'T criticize. Sufferers of panic attacks have real physical symptoms. They are probably more hard on themselve than you are. Keep in mind that negative comments can contribute to slowing down their progress by adding stress and making them feel guilty for their feelings.

2. DO encourage rather than shame of embarrass them. They are already tackling a difficult situation, so they need some positive support.

3. DON'T express disappointment, anger or frustration if a setback happens. When trying to overcome a problem like this, every effort is an accomplishment.

4. DON'T e indulge guilt when the anxious person is unable to do certain things. It is hard enought for them to deal with their limitations and the added guilt will only make them feel worse.

5. DO notice and compliment their efforts to conquer their fear and their success. This builds self-confidence.

6. DO be empathic. Try to understand the problem from their point of view. They don't need pity, but they need your support.

7. DO be willing to accompany them on practice sessions if they ask you. This means you are going along to help, not to feel obligated.

8. DO be quick to point out their positive qualities. Give them the same consideration you would want for yourself.

9. DO listen when they need to talk. Keep the communication open. Listen to what they are telling you. What they are saying could help you to help them in determining what they need to go on with.

10. DO allow them to take charge whenever you can. The ability to make decisions and take action is a real aid to self-confidence and helps them to realize that control is possible.

11. DO help them to identify success. Change can be so gradual that improvements may go un-noticed and a sense of progress is very important.\

12. DO work with them to identify family patterns, situations or concerns that may contribute to the problem.

13. DO be patient. You need to realize it will take them time. And the more you realize this, the more you can help.

I hope the above information helps you. It is SO important that you be there and back them up 100%. I have had so many people say that they are so glad to see someone that cares and will listen. And it is a shame that they can't recieve that from someone closer. This is like the biggest step to recovery. You can be a part of this to help them gain control. They need you, they care and love you. Be there for them. It is hard to do I know, once they regain confidence you will be glad you did.