So, when a expectation breaks, the pain is real bad and is to such an extent that we try to forget the incident; instead of learning from it & thus may again do the same mistake & again bear the pain. But when a hope breaks, we suffer only minor dissapointment which goes of quickly. And we learn from the incident & become thankful for it cause the new lesson we learned helps us in becoming more cautious in our future considerations.
5a. I
believe that the Expectation is advantageous when we've it only from ourselves.
Since, we know & can be fully sure of only ourselves & the circumstances
we are in ; we should expect things from self. And also, there should be 'limited
expectation' among lifepartners. This is, I guess, necessary for them to get
that feeling of having 'Exclusive & Special ' devotion of the partner.
But the expectation should be very limited, otherwise, if expectation is very
high then they may start treating their partner as a perfect being instead
of a human. And if this happens, then even the minor fault/mistake of the
partner may look as a major flaw/blunder leading to trouble in their relationship.
I
would say that Hope should be always there in every relationship. We should
always have hope from the concerned people . So, the right place of hope is
'with others', since we can't know the other person completely & so can't
be sure about that person or the circumstance he/she is in.