Love is the question?
She/he loves me? Loves me not? …Loves me? … Loves me not? This seems like an unsolvable puzzle. But wait! Don’t get hassled. No one can answer this question better than yourself, and the person in question. It’s better to be clear and practical about your feelings at the initial stages, rather than being regretful and shocked later. But, how am I to find out if my to-be is in love with me? Love is such a crazy emotion, there’s no definite answer to this. Yes, it seems difficult, but certainly not impossible. Does she/he love you from the bottom of their heart? Well, grill yourself first and then seek answers from your love to-be. Feeling excited at the prospect of being in the company of that person is not the right indicator to know your true feelings. Are you ready to spend your lifetime with them? Do you wish to share your inner most feelings and all your experiences with them? You know how they feel and can sense their thoughts with just little efforts, do you? If you have responded positively to all the questions, then Bingo! You are in love. Observing the person closely provides enough clues to know whether they are in-love with you? Watch the way they behave and treat you? Are they very caring? Do they pay special attention to you? They remember all the trifle things you have said or done for them. They go out of their way to help you when you need them. Are they extra soft and behave in a charming whenever you are around? If yes, then it’s time you show your green signal. But just be careful not to confuse whole lot of emotions with love. If you intend sleeping with the person not wanting to spend lifetime with them, it’s Lust not love. Also do not confuse your dependence on the other person and their helpful nature as love. May be you are just good friends. Nor is it a good idea to fall in love just for the fear of being left alone. And most important if you are best of buddies, see that you do not hurt each other’s feeling. Do not ever enter a relationship thinking that the other person might feel bad if you refuse. Learn to love yourself first. It is an easy way to learn how to love others. Basically, the question of whether or not you are in love with someone is pretty simple: either you are or you aren't… and deep down, you know the answer. You just have to trust yourself to recognize it.
stuffy.* :: gbook ::
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Just read . . .
The experience of love is an inner state. When this is present, you are happy, alive and free. You feel good about yourself and good about life. As you bring the experience of love into your life, life works effortlessly and great things happen. The opposite of love is fear and upset. When this is present, you close down inside. you lose your creativity and your ability to see clearly. You get tunnel vision and you interact in a way that almost always makes your situation worse. To live in the experience of love, and to create a life that works, you need to stop the fighting and resisting. You do this through a process called "letting go." Letting go is the inner action that releases the fear and upset. The moment you let go, everything seems to change. With the fear and upset gone, you see your situation very differently. You become creative and discover solutions that you could never have seen before. To let go, you need to do the opposite of fighting and resisting. You need to let go of your demands and expectations for how life should be and make peace with the way life is. Find what you are resisting. Then give it full permission to be there. If you have a fear of losing a relationship, be willing to lose it. If you are resisting the way someone is, give the person full permission to be that way. Be willing for anything. Set yourself free inside. Then take whatever action you need to have your life be great. Keep in mind that letting go is a state of mind and has nothing to do with your actions. Letting go is the process that removes the fear and upset so you can see what action you need to take. In your heart, you can be willing to lose someone, but in your actions, do everything you can to make sure the person feels so loved that he or she would never want to leave. To make letting go a little easier, there are several steps you can take. The first is trusting. Trust that no matter what happens, you will be okay. When you know that you will be okay, letting go becomes relatively easy. Trusting is also telling the truth. You really will be okay no matter what happens. Life is only threatening when you resist. So stop resisting and trust. Trust that no matter what happens, you will be okay. The second step in the process of letting go is to be willing to feel your hurt. Be willing to feel all the hurt and the feelings of being not okay that your circumstances reactivate. Be willing to feel the hurt of being worthless or not good enough. The avoidance of this hurt is what makes you resist. Once you are willing to feel this hurt, the need to resist disappears. You can then let go. This is what happens in life. The more you are able to let go and flow with life, the more life takes care of itself. You may not always get what you want, but you can always be free inside. You can restore both your peace of mind and your effectiveness. You can create a life that works.
stuffy.* :: gbook ::
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I reckon most of you will say that the latter is the lesser evil because at the very least, we got to choose our own fate - and I agree. However, I still maintain that familiarity DOES breed contempt, and that there is such a thing as dating too long, and that not ALL blind dates go awry. In fact, some, like poi and paula, can be as romantic as hell, where two lovely people are thrown together by the hand of chance, and against all odds, are able to fall madly in love. If nothing else, I'd like to believe that serendipity is still alive and well! chow~
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