This is a semi-comprehensive guide composed of excerpts from women's health and sexuality books designed to answer:
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Virtually everyone has heard stories about a magic spot inside a woman that, if properly stimulated, will send her to unbelievable heights of sexual ecstasy. Known as the G-Spot,
The G-Spot is simply an area of increased sensitivity in many women. It was named after Ernst Grafenberg, a German medical doctor who wrote about "an erotic zone located on the anterior wall of the vagina along the course of the urethra that would swell during sexual stimulation." All women have a G-Spot, but not all women notice anything different when it is stimulated, and some actually dislike the sensation. So, don't be discouraged if you can't find your own, or that of a partner.
The G-Spot is embryonically analogous to the male prostate. What that means is that, in a human embryo, certain cells will develop one way if the child is female and another way if the baby turns out to be male. In girls, the area that would have been the prostate becomes the G-Spot. The reason that some medical authorities have said that it doesn't exist is because it is an area that engorges with stimulation, thus it is very hard to locate in autopsy studies.
So, where is it? The G-Spot is located along the upper/front wall of the vagina, about two inches in, towards the stomach. The best way to locate it is by inserting a couple of fingers and crooking them up. Make a "come hither" motion. The area is about the size of a pea, but can enlarge to the size of a walnut when stimulated. You should also know that many women feel like they need to urinate when this area is stimulated. This is due to the fact that, as it enlarges, it presses on the same nerves that signal a full bladder. Most women find, however, that as stimulation is continued, this feeling goes away and is replaced by pleasurable sensations.
That's all there is to it. No magic. Some women can orgasm from G-Spot stimulation alone. Some say it increases the strength of their orgasms or allows them to be multi-orgasmic. A few even say that stimulation leads to ejaculation. Others actively dislike stimulation of the area. So, experiment, and see what feels good to you or your partner. Most of all, have fun!
One of the more hotly contested debates concerns whether women can ejaculate. Reports have generally dismissed as tales told by women trying to cover up the fact that they'd "wet the bed." Many sexologists and physicians continue to label it "urine" (despite the fact that there is no telltale ammonia smell), "vaginal secretions," or even "leftover bathwater" (a la Masters and Johnson). Beverly Whipple is one of the several sex researchers who have conducted studies on female ejaculation, and her findings, while not definitive, are intriguing. Whipple and others have analyzed women's "ejaculate" and found that it is chemically similar to men's ejaculate. They've also idenitified tiny glands embedded in the dense tissues surrounding the urethra that may be the source of this fluid.
So, if all women have these glands, why don't we all ejaculate when we climax, just like men do? Researchers speculate that the amount of fluid varies, as it does in men, and may at times be so small as to not be noticed; may be confused with other vaginal secretions that occur during arousal; or, during heterosexual sex, may be mistaken for a man's ejaculate.
Does any of this matter? Some people find it preposterous the idea that women have have Prostate glands. But as Whipple says, "Women who experience this have reported secretly suppressing orgasms out of fear of wetting the bed." She notes that some women have had unnecessary surgery to cure "incontinence." Knowing that ejaculation maybe perfectly normal is an important step in owning and accepting our sexuality.
The New Our Bodies, Ourselves by the Boston Women's Health Book Collective:
"Two researches have recently identified what they call the Grafenberg spot (G-spot), a sensitive area just behind the front wall of the vagina between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix. They say that when this spot is stimulated during sex through vaginal penetration of some kind, some women orgasm with a gush of fluid FROM THE URETHRA, which is NOT URINE. [emphasis mine]
This is at present a controversial theory among sex researchers. It's a relief for those women who feel a urethral gushing of liquid during orgasm to find an explanation for this apparent ejaculation, and for some others to find what may be another source of pleasure"--pg. 211
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, Cathy Winks and Anne Semans:
"Continuous stimulation of the urethral sponge can cause the paraurethral glands to fill up with a clear, odorless fluid which is sometimes expelled frm the body THROUGH THE URETHRA. This ejaculation can accompany orgasm or simply be part of arousal. Ejaculation and orgasm are two distinct physiological phenomena in both women and men. Female ejaculation has been around as long as females have been around. Until recently, however, medical literature dismissed anecdotal evidence, suggesting that instead ejaculation was urinary incontinence...
In recent years, female ejaculate has been chemically analyzed and determined to be DISTINCT FROM URINE [emphasis mine] in its composition...
If you've never experienced ejaculation and would like to, try incorporating G-spot stimulation into your usual masturbation techniques. As your urethral sponge grows more swollen and sensitive, bear down with your pelvic muscles. Women's experiences of ejaculation can range from simply feeling more wet than usual to shooting jets of fluid... We are pleased that female ejaculation is now acknowledged as a genuine sexual response, but we don't like to see it promoted as a new goal that every woman should stive to achieve."--pgs. 27-8
Lesbian Sex, by JoAnn Loulan:
"The urethra also carries ejaculate from the Graftenberg spot to the outside... The paraurethral sponge is a dense concentration of blood vessels wrapped around the urethra with the largest portion under the urethra next to the outer wall of the vagina. Within the sponge is the paraurethral gland. This gland produces a watery fluid which is sometimes called ejaculate." Little is known about the paraurethral gland while much research has been done on the corresponing prostate gland in the male. Big surprise.
The commonly heard term, Grafenberg, or "G" spot, refers to the place in the vagine where one can stimulate the sponge. It is about two inches up from the entrance to the vagina towards to front of the body. To find it, put your fingers inside your vagina with the finger tips towards your front and move the fingers up and down. The sponge swells when stimulated, and you may feel like you have to pee, or it may give you a pleasurable sensation. With continued stimulation, a fluid (ejaculate) is produced in the gland and through its ducts in the sponge is sometimes sprayed out of the body via the urethra. It may feel like a lot of liquid, but it usually is a few teaspoonfuls to half a cup...
Ejaculation usually happens at a different time than orgasm. Some women who ejaculate don't have orgasms at all. Others do both, but ejaculation and orgasm are different processes and are not tied to one another. Some women in fact don't even feel it when they do ejaculate.