Emilie's answer:
There are several reason why a person may gain weight. Did you just recently move in with him? Has the weight gain occurred since you two moved in together? In that case, it may simply be that he's getting "comfortable" and doesn't even realize he's gained some weight as a result. Should you have seconds yourself? It doesn't sound like that is what you really want to do, so I'd say no. What I would suggest would be for you to suggest to him that the two of you do some more physical activities together. That way you can BOTH stay in shape a little better. If you don't like any sport you could compete in together (such as volleyball, raquetball, tennis, etc.) you could do something like water ski, roller blade, or simply just take walks together in the evening. Any physical activity you do on a daily basis will help. And you don't have to tell him you think he's a fatty - you could simply say, "I know how good it is for me to go on walks (or insert other physical activity here) and I thought it would be fun if we could go together. I would love to spend a little extra time with you in a fun activity!" (And if it's walking, include "It will give us some more time to talk and relate to each other and I love talking to you!")
There is, of course, another possibility. Perhaps he's gained weight because he's depressed and in that case, this is something you will have to dig a little deeper to find out. Did he just lose his job or have any other event cause (even a small) crisis in his life? If this is the case, believe it or not, the same solution I suggested above would work well. Physical activity gets your body moving and you're not just sitting there being depressed. It's hard to continue to be depressed if you have just scored the winning point or are trying to keep yourself from falling on your face & skinning your knees, and even walking and talking can help combat depression. Getting him out of the house and into another location is a definite plus of physical activity, too. Hopefully one of these suggestions will help your man become fit & trim and there will be a little less of him to love in the future ;)

Recently, Marlena Q. Blenderhead ((age) 25-34 (visit) weekly) asked a question. She asked:
Dear Emilie:
Why is it that when you don't talk a lot, people think you're boring? I've always been a good listener, but so far it hasn't seemed to be getting me anywhere except being ignored. What can I do to change this? I am almost always shy with new people until I become comfortable enough with them to open up a little more. When I'm with friends I don't have this problem. Help!
- Socially Crippled Butterfly

Emilie's answer:
I would have to say that perhaps the people who think you are boring are too insecure to understand that there may be something deeper beneath your surface than lots of babble to keep them occupied. I, too, have a hard time opening up to people until I get to know them a little better and am shy because of it. I, too, have passed by opportunities to make friends because of being too shy to make the first move. I don't have this problem with friends either. But relating to other people who you don't know very well is a difficult task. I have by no means mastered it. In many situations I am still afraid to take the first step, especially in situations where pretty much everyone there knows each other except me. But I am slowly getting better. Something important to ask yourself is: "Why am I so quiet? Is it because I am afraid people won't take me seriously or won't understand me, or is it because I am afraid to take the risk of opening up in case I get hurt, or is it because people won't think I have anything interesting to say... or something else?" Then once you know what the problem is, you can work on solving it. For example:

• "I don't think I have anything interesting to say." Get some self esteem, girl! Yes, you do! How could you ever open your mouth around your *friends* if you had nothing interesting to say? =)
• "People won't take me seriously or understand me." Maybe not, but that's ok. It's not the end of the world. We're all misunderstood at various points in our lives and we get over it. Correct the person if they don't "get" you and if that doesn't work, who wants to hang around that person anyway? Initial conversations with people are a way of feeling them out and seeing who is worth being your friend and who isn't. I'll warn you now: the higher your standards are, the less people qualify. But THIS IS NOT A BAD THING! It just means you'll spend less time being misunderstood and uncomfortable around those people you do choose to spend a good portion of your time! Another function of the initial conversation is to amuse yourself and others while you have some time. In that case, who cares what they think of you? Be yourself.
• "I don't want to take the chance that I will get hurt." This is just the same as saying "I don't want to take the chance to be happy and find a new friend. Think about it... life is about taking risks. Sometimes you get something good out of it, sometimes you get something bad. But you can't get the good things (and friends) without taking a risk...
• "...something else..."Since I can't read your mind, I can't help you with this one (yet) but feel free to ask me again when you are clearer on this one...