Companion Meditation Suggestions
© J'Karrah EbonDragon, 2002
Okay, so you've successfully performed the To Contact A Companion Dragon ritual, and have felt the presence of your new friend. But you are still having trouble developing a firm contact with him or her.
First, remember that having such problems are not uncommon in the early stages of bonding with one's Dragon partner. To be honest, meeting with one's Dragon partner is the easy part. The hard part is working on strengthening the new ties between you, and *that* will take dedication and perseverance.
Continue daily meditations where you concentrate on that initial glimpse. While doing so, practice calling your Dragon partner to mind deliberately. Build a mental image that is as accurate as you can. If you have actually *seen* your Dragon partner in meditation what color was he or she? If you are creating an image, what is the first color that pops in your head? Let's assume in either case it was "blue-green." Now try to add more detail... Was he blue with a greenish tint? Green with a bluish tint? A mix of blue scales and green ones? Did he *have* scales? What color are his eyes? Do they have visible pupils? What about horns? Ears?
Once you get a good visual image, start on the other sensations during subsequent meditations. Reach out and touch him. What does his/her skin feel like? Is it rough? Smooth? Warm to the touch? Cool? If she/he has spoken to you in such a way that you "heard" her/his voice... what was her/his voice like? Deep and booming? Soothing? Musical...?
The more detailed an image you can build the more "real" he/she will become to your conscious mind and the less it will interfere in future encounters with your Dragon friend. Another thing that helps to establish the connection is to just *talk* to him/her. Tell him/her what your day was like; engage in "small talk" (something woefully underrated as a means of establishing communication and friendships). Listen when you get answers to questions or comments.
Initially your conscious mind will tell you that the responses you are getting are "all in your head." The trick here is to tell your conscious mind "so what?" If the advice and comments you are getting are pertinent to the conversation, and especially if it helps you with questions, does it really matter? Your subconscious knows the truth, but unfortunately it tends to be drown out by that old "doubting Thomas" that is the conscious, waking, "rational" mind. You just have to make sure you are more determined (read stubborn) than it is.
Eventually, one of two things will happen: either your conscious mind will be convinced that your Dragon partner is as real as your unconscious mind *knows* he/she is, or it will decide that your Dragon partner is a "harmless delusion" and leave the two of you alone. Either way, you get what you want/need: a good firm bond with your new friend.
I have been with my mentor for over twenty years. To be honest with you, I really couldn't tell you (objectively) which of the two above options *my* conscious mind has settled on (subjectively, I *know* he is real and not a delusion, but it took me years to get to that point) BUT... I can tell you that it has made no difference in our relationship or in the positive benefits I have garnered from that relationship. I have learned things from him that I don't believe I could have learned anywhere else. He has given advice that has proven sound and of tremendous value. He has give emotional support when I needed it and has jumped my case when I needed that. He has been the truest, most loyal friend anyone could possibly hope for. And in the end, that is all that matters.
I have no doubt that if you truly want a similar relationship with your Dragon partner, and you are willing to work hard to develop the skills and mental tools that will allow the relationship to exist, you and your friend can have just as close and fulfilling a relationship as my Dragon partner and I have.