It is said that men, generally, will engage in a sexual relationship with any woman he finds physically attractive, any place, at any time and perhaps later, think to inquire about her name.  Women, on the other hand want to be romanced.  They are particular about the location and time and are interested in the character and personality of the man involved.  A woman will want an acceptable relationship to be established before entering into sexual activity.  Many times a woman will want a 'commitment' before going further.  This is at best a stereotype but lets accept it for the moment.

The relationship required by the woman will have at its center intimacy.  It will be marked by periods of silence, sharing, and quiet mutual appreciation.  Sexual activity will take place in the context of this intimate relationship.  According to the stereotype given above this will never genuinely take place between a man and a woman.  However we know that such experiences do happen.  It may still be that the intimacy mentioned is a feminine characteristic.  When such an intimate relationship between two people happens it is the feminine characteristic of each person that is being expressed.

Perhaps the above can be most easily seen in a relationship between two women.  However it is well known, (even if frequently denied), that neither man nor woman is purely masculine or feminine.  Every woman possesses a masculine dimension and every man a feminine dimension.  It may well be that when a man and a woman establish an intimate relationship it is the feminine in each of them that establishes the relationship.  Such relationships may be difficult for men who resist their feminine nature.

If the above is true then all intimate relationships could be called feminine and possibly called lesbian (even if between two men).  After all there is nothing wrong with being a lesbian even if you are male.

This may well be nuts - but it is an interesting thought.