Discipline Policies

      

I would never use ANY physical force on any child.  I also will not raise my voice or yell at any child.  Both of these forms of "punishment" only belittle children. 
      

      I have been using the “Love and Logic” technique in my parenting and teaching since 1998.  I am a STRONG advicate of this technique and have seen it work wonders with every child I have used it on including my own children.
      

      Very breifly stated "Love allows children to grow through their mistakes.  Logic allows children to live with the consequences of their choices."
      

      

      
A further definition of the THE LOVE AND LOGIC PROCESS® includes the following:
      
• Shared control: Gain control by giving away the control you don’t need. 
      

      • Shared thinking and decision-making: Provide opportunities for the child to do the greatest amount of thinking and decision-making.
       

      • Equal shares of empathy with consequences: An absence of anger causes a child to think and learn from his/her mistakes. 
      

      • Maintain the child’s self-concept: Increased self-concept leads to improved behavior and improved achievement. 
      

      
THE RULES OF LOVE AND LOGIC
      

      

      
Adults take care of themselves by providing limits in a loving way.
      

      • Adults avoid anger, threats, warnings or lectures. 
      

      • Children are offered choices within limits. 
      

      • Limits are maintained with compassion, understanding or empathy. 
      

      

      
• Childhood misbehavior is treated as an opportunity for gaining wisdom.

      
• In a loving way, the adult holds the child accountable for solving his/her problems in a way that does not make a problem for others. 
      

      • Adults use enforceable statements. (Visit Love and Logic for a list of these statements.
      

      • Adults provide delayed/extended consequences. 
      

      • The adult’s empathy is “locked in” before consequences are delivered. 
      

      

      
If you would like to know more about this technique I would be happy to do my best to explain or you can go to www.loveandlogic.com and explore it for yourself or order information on how to use this WONDERFUL parenting and teaching technique in your home.  My clients also offered have the option to borrow from the Parent Lending Library any of the material that we have avaiable to them.  That would include all the Love and Logic tapes and books that we have.
      

      

      

      
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