
8.
Gay Men's Issues in the South
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One man's experiences.
" We always
hear about men's health issues such as prostate cancer, aids and other
conditions, but never much about men's sexuality like bi sexual or gay
issues. I'm a very proud gay men with a partner of 29 wonderful years
where we have shared love and compassion for one another.
Questions that are
often asked by people about gay men include:
1. What is like
to be a gay man?
2. Can you have a meaningful relationship with someone of the same gender?
3. Can you have a long term relationship?
4. Can you be happy
5. Are services available for gay and bi sexual men? (Yes)
6. What about aids? ( If not sure use protection or ask someone who
is informed about health matters,
7. Can you live a "normal life"? (Yes you can)
8. What do people say about me personally? (Who really cares)
9. Can I really be myself?
10. How do I fit in with general society?
The above questions
are just a few frequently asked by both men and women. Some people also
ask about the Spiritual side of life? In reply, I usually inform people
that my partner and I are members of the Metropolitan Community Church
which is a church open to everyone - with a special ministry for the
lesbian, gay, bi, and transsexual community. For a more detailed listing
of gay services see "the Blaze" a newspaper which serves the
gay, lesbian, bi and transsexual community which is published fortnightly
and can be obtained from all good newsagencies or bookstores. "
- Leslie
A thought for the
day!
We create our own feelings by the thoughts we choose to think,
We have the ability to make different choices and create different experiences.
9.
My Journey through Maturity
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" I was once
a middle class citizen with a steady full time job and an average wage.
I had a three bedroom home with a wife and two children. My tea was
always on the table at six o'clock and I had a cut lunch and thermos
during the day. However, after 20 years service I became retrenched
because of new technology. This meant my life had to change. I have
been unemployed and this is a difficult issue in anyone's language.
The next step was
a divorce and this can be painful for everybody. I do not see my two
children but I hope they are in good hands. I have tried a de facto
relationship, but with life's ups and downs I have always come back
to square one again. When it all boils down to it the most important
thing is number one.
Prostitutes can
be helpful as long as you use them and they do not use you. There are
certain rules, ethics, and policies that go with the profession and
sometimes you have to learn these steps the hard way without being bitter.
However, lets look on the bright side and I now have a disability support
pension and I can just live and survive."
- Anonymous
10.
Mental Health - A social club in the South
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Are you looking
for somewhere to go during the week, then try the Panangga Activity
Drop-In Centre located at 64 Elgin Avenue, Christies Beach SA. The Centre
is open from Monday to Friday from 10:00 am to 4:00 PM, excluding public
holidays.
Apart from the activities,
the pool table, and reading the daily newspaper, I think the main attraction
is a cheap lunch. The cost can vary from one to two dollars. To assist
with catering, lunches should be ordered by 11.30 am each morning. Coffee
or soup is only twenty cents per cup. Spring water is free from the
dispenser.
The Panangga Centre
is staffed and managed by the Schizophrenia Fellowship of SA Inc; and
focus on people suffering from any Mental Disability. The building itself
is owned by the State Government. One of the mains aims for establishing
the Panangga Centre is to assist people with social rehabilitation.
You can catch a
bus from Noarlunga Centre, a 723 or 733 which runs along Dyson Road
Christies Beach and you will need to get of at bus stop 66.
If you need more
information or a guided tour of Panangga telephone 8382-5588 during
office hours and speak to Kathy or Yvonne.
- Graham D Richards
11.
Aberfoyle Uniting Church - Men in The New Millennium Conference
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On Saturday 6th
May 2001 over sixty men from across Adelaide got together at the Aberfoyle
Uniting Church, Aberfoyle Park to hear well known speaker Rowland Croucher
explore issues facing men today. Rowland spoke on a range of issues
including:
- · Men
the second most confused Group in our culture (Teenagers first)
- · Masculine
Spirituality
- · Why
Can't A Woman Be More Like A Man
There was plenty
of time for discussion, telling our stories, learning how to be a real
man and communicate. Gaynor Hallows from the Adelaide Central Mission
gave a special presentation on Domestic Violence and what men can do
to bring about change in this area. Gaynor also shared with us some
outcomes from the Domestic Violence workshop given at the Common Ground
conference in April.
Overall the Men
in the New Millennium conference was well received and the feedback
has been encouraging. If you know a man that attended you may have already
noticed the difference.
- Robert Humble
Coordinator of Ucount Support Services Inc (08) 8370-6472
12.
Parenting and Fatherhood... A rewarding and valuable experience
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The following information
has been drawn from extracts of an unpublished paper developed by Jim
Walker, a co-facilitator at the recent Common Ground Men's conference
held at the SEM Centre in April 2001. The workshop content reflects
a cross section of opinions and thoughts of a diverse group of men from
the local community and drawn from personal experiences of being a dad.
What has being a
father taught you?
- how to survive
with less sleep,
- Surviving on
less money,
- To be scared,
- How to enjoy
life and bring out
to bring the child in men.
What challenges
do you face as a father?
- Being a better
dad than my dad was
- How do I find
time for my partner
- What will the
future hold and how can I help my child be ready to deal with the
world
What do you enjoy
most about being a father?
- Unconditional
love from my children
- Watching my
daughter breathe when she is asleep, a sense of peace
Extracts from the
conference draft statement on Fatherhood...
The Common Ground conference acknowledges the important and significant
role that fathers play in the lives of their children.
Fathers are:
- increasingly
willing to take their responsibilities seriously in relation to raising,
nurturing, caring for, and loving their children.
- are committed
to building respectful relations with their children and their children's
mothers to do what is in the best of their children.
13.
100 WORDS- MEN'S STORIES PROJECT
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The City of Onkaparinga
in collaboration with The Adelaide Central Mission, Healthy Cities Noarlunga,
Noarlunga Health Services, Men Accessing Community Health Services (MACHS)
and the City of Onkaparinga, wishes to invite visual artists and photographers
to make a unique visual contribution to the 100 words project.
One hundred words
is a project that has discovered from local men what it means to be
a man living and working in the Onkaparinga region. Men from different
backgrounds have reflected on their lives and shared their thoughts
and feelings in brief, written statements of up to one hundred words.
" Being an
Aboriginal man is a struggle at times. We are faced with many issues
in our day- to- day life. I think these issues stems from historical
trauma and cultural differences of the past. One main issue is the problem
of Racism. Direct and indirect racism is a barrier to gaining self-respect
and respect from others. Racism destroys the confidence of Aboriginal
men and for some, this makes them feel there is no other option other
than to be the typical stereotype "Aboriginal".
" The cycle/
process of helping Aboriginal men through their problems and issues
is a
difficult task. In particular for Non Indigenous people and agencies,
they are faced with: cultural barriers and differences and their own
attitudes and these can be difficult to overcome."
- Corey
14.
The Onkaparinga Collaborative Approach
for the Development of Men's Services
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One of the key outcomes
for the Common Ground Men's Conference held on April 19/20th 2001 at
the SEM Centre, Grand Boulevard, Seaford SA was an agreed 'heads of
agencies' statement of collaboration. This important historical social
document was signed on behalf of five key community sector agencies
that deliver services in the southern regional area of metropolitan
Adelaide, and Men Accessing Community and Health Services, MACHS.
Participant signatories:
- Adelaide Central
Mission
Sue Park, CEO,
- Anglicare SA Simon
Schrapel, Executive Manager, Family and Community Development
- City of Onkaparinga
Services Beth Davidson-Park, GM,
- Healthy Cities
Noarlunga Inc Vicky Rowland, Vice chair,
- Noarlunga Health
Services Richard Hicks,
Director CAHS
We, the undersigned agree to adopt a collaborative approach in the
provision of programs and projects that address the health and welfare
needs of men and encourage them to participate fully in community
life. Our shared commitment will enable men and their families within
the Onkaparinga region to access health, welfare and community development
programs based on the best available knowledge, skills and experience.
This commitment
will be to work together towards making the Onkaparinga region a leader
in the provision of targeted services for men. We will support the development
of partnerships that use the strengths, skills and expertise of those
individuals and organisations within the region who provide and support
targeted programs for men. We will support the activities of MACHS (Men
Accessing Community and Health Services) in its efforts to build a strong,
community-based coalition for the development of men's services.
We will strive towards
a coordinated and collaborative response to the development of men's
services that encourages respect for diversity, personal responsibility
and accountability and participation.
15.
MACHS Planning Outcomes - Incorporation 2001/2002
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Following a public
meeting on the 17/12/1998 at the Noarlunga Health Village auditorium,
later the formation of MACHS in 1999, and more recently the outcome
of the Common Ground Men's conference, the committee has initiated the
necessary processes for becoming an incorporated body. On June 1st a
formal planning day attended by the committee and interested members
of the community outlined proposed activities for the next 12 months.
Briefly these include the following:
- Incorporation
of a board of management/committee,
- Implementation
of key recommendations from the Common Ground conference,
- Strategic plan/key
objectives to be developed in July-August,
- Men's Journeys
community publication, / Maintaining the Web Site http://au.oocities.com/machsmen,
- Common Ground
Male Singers,
- Common Ground
Theatre Group
- Men's Journeys
Open Support Group,
- Development
of a range of policies/objectives towards establishing 'The Men's
Place as a resource/contact centre south,
- Social enterprise
initiatives towards accessing funding sources,
- Continued support
of collaborative projects with other agencies that highlight community
issues impacting holistically on men's well being,
- Support for
the 100 word community project
- Participant
in a proposed SA State Men's Conference.
On behalf of MACHS we would sincerely like to thank the following committee
members for their valuable support and energy over the past 3 years:
Gaynor Hallows, and Monika Baker.
More recently social
work students, Jim Walker Sean Rosewarne and Colin Burns.
MACHS meetings are
held on a regular monthly basis and if you would like attend these open
meetings, participate in project activities, or otherwise contribute
toward our goals and objectives then please contact
Jules Van Kekem
(08) 8-8381-9408 or Vicky Rowland (08) 8329-1700 for more information.
E-mail: machsmen@senet.com.au
Postal correspondence
address, MACHS PO Box 769, Noarlunga Centre SA 5168.
Use
the Men's Journeys to have your say in the community.
We
want your poems, stories, thoughts and ideas on the issues that impact
on men & boys health & well being today.
This
is an opportunity to share with other men in the community was has impacted
on your life; you can write as much as you like or as little - it's
up to you.
If
you prefer to state your thoughts, ideas, comments over the phone then
please ring Philip Crouch on (08) 8381-9408
or E-mail: on philip.crouch@senet.com.au

We
welcome your thoughts, ideas, contributions or poems, letters to the
editor, articles, which can assist this publication in raising the
level of awareness of men & boys health & well being.
Future
publications of Men's Journeys will feature and include constructive
and open comment on the issues raised earlier.
We
welcome letters to the editor, community information or organisation's
calendar events, articles of 50 -100 words, poems, short stories, and
more formal submissions which address the social, political, spiritual,
educational, & general health & well being of men & boys
in the community. All correspondence should be forwarded no later than
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reflect the views of MACHS, it's members and supporters, editorial team
or other contributors. No guarantee is made of the accuracy of information
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good faith and makes no apology for raising issues which stimulates
discussion and action towards improving the health & well being
of all men & boys in the community.