INTRODUCTION

Is Cross-dressing"Normal"?

As we all know, our society has established norms by which all things are judged. These norms fall into several categories, some of which are good/bad, acceptable/unacceptable, etc. By society's standards, we are largely unacceptable deviates. "Societies" verdict NOT MINE!

So why do Men Want to Wear Skirts?

Individuality, nonconformist?

Let me say first off that I am not a homosexual (not that there is anything wrong with that!), but I absolutely love ladies in short skirts, tight skirts and black boots (who doesn't), and always wondered what it would feel like. Dressing in suits trousers and shirts felt boring, so I started to occasionally wear leather trousers out clubbing which I felt quite sexy, individual and comfortable in, and was fairly acceptable.

Then one day I had the courage to buy a skirt in a closing down sale.

Experiences of Buying Dresses?

The first time I had enough courage to buy a dress, I am sure in my own mind that the young lady serving looked at me and thought I was some sort of pervert. The whole experience was made worse when the garment didn't have a ticket price. This meant her holding the skirt up in front of a long queue and calling the supervisor over. I must have blushed badly!

It becomes a lot easier and more comfortable with time. The last time I bought some stockings, the lady joked "I won't ask any questions". I just blushed and humbly joked "shhhsh... Don't tell everyone." Making a joke of it makes it easier for all. Most people don't want to think that crossdressing goes on so she still probably thought I was buying it for a girlfriend.

Is it Socially Acceptable in Western Culture?

Wearing a skirt round the local supermarket will probably get a lot of smirks, aggressive anti-homosexual comments, or kids pointing, and saying fairly loudly to their mother "Oh look, why is that man is wearing a dress", and even though it is not a criminal offense to walk the street in a frock, and you have the right to wear whatever you like, you have to remember that not everyone is a liberal as you would like, in fact there are some nasty vicious bigots out there, all to readily looking for trouble, and you would be considered easy prey as "not conforming to their norm", SO BE CAREFUL! I personally do not want to antagonize the situation, so as exciting it would be to go down my local high street in a frock, I personally have decided against as I am not a very convincing female (in fact I would say only about 5% of tranny's I see down a nightclub would get away with it, 60% look OK, and the other 35% look like something out of a pantomime, but good luck to them!)

Even though I do not want to live the lie of the closet cross-dresser, I am still uncomfortable with friends, family (they are "Evangelical committed Christian's") and work colleagues knowing, and I especially do not want to embarrass anyone (especially myself) or make anyone feel uncomfortable, and the possible ridicule and disapproval of others.

I keep my dress wearing for my nights at transvestite clubs. They are not always the best clubs, in fact far from it, but they do provide a SAFE environment to wear a skirt, and is also quite reaffirming that what you are doing is normal acceptable behavior when surrounded by fellow crossdressers and transvestites.

To Shave Those Legs/facial hair

According to my limited research, hairy legs are not good, but be careful, scarred legs would look even worse. You may get away with thicker hosiery. Tights are very comfortable as well.

I have tried waxing my legs, but I find it too painful, and not very successful. I stick to normal shaving foam and razors, which takes quite a while, as I have quite thick hair. I then apply lots of moisturizers, and it lasts for at least two weeks, before it grows back with vengeance. I find two/three days after shaving my legs, they become extremely itchy, and occasionally get infections. It gets easier with time.

Facial hair is extremely difficult to hide, even after a close shave. Normal foundation hides it a bit. Apparently hormone tablets do not get rid of hair growth totally, and the only way to remove hair properly is with expensive and painful laser treatment.

Long or Short Skirts

Personally I prefer slightly shorter skirts, or around the knee length, but long skirts look just as good.

Skirts with splits in them have the ability to rise more when you sit down, so a whole new way of walking and sitting has to be learnt. Short steps with one foot almost crossing the other looks best, and sitting down with your knees together should eliminate flashing!

Bare Legs, Stocking or Tights

I have always hated tights on ladies, and prefer the slightly saucier stockings, but with my limited research have discovered that tights are far more comfortable to wear, and not going to flash your thighs. Stockings have the ability to climb down, especially as mens legs are slightly more muscular and fatter.

If you have got the legs for it bare legs feel nice against the fabric, oh, and I love my black thongs!.

Heals/Boots

I personally love my boots, and feel comfortable to walk in. Men have bigger and wider feet than women, and are usually less well groomed for dainty high heals, which I should imagine are awkward to walk in. I can last only about 3 hours in women's shoes before it gets too tight and painful.

Hiding Your Penis

Apparently there is a way of tucking your balls inside, and sticking and taping your penis between your bum cheeks. How, I don't really know, so I do not want to damage myself! I do not wear tight ladies trousers, so tight thongs hide most of the bulges.

What do Women think about Men in Skirts?

I am researching this currently. Again from very limited research 20% of women would go out with a man in skirt. What the other 80% would be interesting. I would love to know what women really think! I think it is the Beaumont Society that offers support for women with cross dressing partners (http://www.beaumontsociety.org.uk)

Coming out the "closet"

One of my best friend suspected I was up to something, especially as it took 3 minutes to answer the door every time he came round, giving me time to hide the evidence of wigs, skirts, shoes and tights. We arranged to go to a fetish club which he was quite comfortable with, until I informed him I would be going in a frock. This freaked him out a bit, and felt that he couldn't talk to me in a frock, and so didn't go. At least I was upfront and honest to warn him in advance rather than turn up in a skirt which was the other option

Evangelizing the "Good News" of Cross dressing

I have been asked to appear on Kilroy (UK chat show), but despite the fact how passionate and evangelical about the issue I am, and the buzz I'd get in wearing a frock on national television, I declined in fear of being seen by mainly family (how would they feel if they saw me for the first time on national television in a frock) and also friends, and the fear of being made to look a twat, and believe me some of the most good looking and confident transvestites have been misquoted and made to look stupid on national television.

What would the Church/God think of Crossdressing?

I am sure if you turned up at your local church, you may get a sympathetic response from the hypocrites, but I sure that it would be disapproving from the bigots.

I have read one positive argument of the bible being twisted in favour of crossdressing. Article from The Grace & Lace Letter International (G&LLI) written by Lee Frances Heller...

...Each person must deal with his own situation. You may condemn yourself in the light of your church membership or your relation to God. We are moral men with families and responsible jobs and positions in a very large number of cases, we do an outstanding job in those positions. Does God, favorably judge our work, our love for our families, and all of the "good" things we do and then turn around and condemn us for our crossdressing? Do you see what I am trying to get to? We operate on a system of human values and concepts and this is vitally necessary to live in society. Imagine a society with our norms and standards! They ARE necessary and they do cause us so much misery in our "secret" life. " … 'For the Lord sees not as man sees; for man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart". (I Samuel 16:7. Amplified Bible)" Which of us has gone in our closet with intent and purpose to do a sin against God? If crossdressing is a sin, which it is not. We look on our outward appearance, however we are being what we are. All the time God is looking into our heart and He sees what we are going through in anguish. He hears all of our thoughts and knows of our apprehensiveness. "What if my wife or one of the kids comes home unexpectedly, or a neighbor knocks at the door?" No, God does not approve of crossdressing because this is not the issue. He has no need to approve. He has already made provision for you in Jesus Christ. So you say, "If I turn my life over to Christ, then He's going to take this lollipop from me." No. He is going to make you a son of His and afford you all of the privileges of sonship. Forgiveness of sins, the gift of faith, a solid foundation for your life. Those of us who are Christians can attest to that. Pants or skirts don't make the difference. Our heart's attitude toward God does. "For without faith, it is impossible to please God." Start pleasing God and exercise the faith that He has given to you. Don't allow yourself to be brainwashed into thinking that crossdressing is a sin that stands between you and God. It's not. The indwelling Holy Spirit has cleared the way for you. Go to God with your prayers. He will hear you. Rest yourselves in the arms of Jesus Christ. He who invited us to … "Come unto Me all you who labor and are heavy-laden and are overburdened, and I will cause you to rest. (I will ease and relieve and refresh your soul." Matthew 11:20. Amp. Bible) Wow! I never had such a hard time as I did writing the above and trying to get a point across. But only by God's grace it was completed. It's only a page and a half, but there is enough in it to curl a preacher's hair and make him gasp for breath and I am ready for the flak. I have my tummy full of trying to accommodate "the establishment". I am a crossdresser writing to and exclusively for other sister-crossdressers of mine, the devil take the hindmost.

I am not a Christian, so this is just one persons view. I am absolutely sure that there are a lot more "Christians" against the whole idea... But it is not them who have to eventually judge you, (if judged at all)!