"The time has come for me to break out of the shell.  I have to shout that I'm coming out." - Dianna Ross

It is my commitment to help our closeted sisters in Colorado, wishing to come out, to do just that.  There are hundreds of you in Colorado, maybe thousands and this page is dedicated to you.  I know you’re out there.  The fear, self-doubt and uncertainty you may be feeling are all too familiar to me.  And I’m here to help.  So are many others in the community.  You’re not alone.  If you’re a closeted T-girl living in Colorado , I invite you to use this page as a resource for coming out. And I invite you to e-mail me and introduce yourself.  If you are not in Colorado, I invite you to e-mail me as well.  I may know of resources in your area to help.  

Having a feminine side when you’re a genetic male can be a real bitch, especially when you’re not able to express those feelings.  Bottling it all up inside can negatively impact your life lots of other areas.  Some of us handle it better than others, but not being able to freely be who you are can be very stressful.  Take me for instance;  if I go a few weeks without letting Markie lose, I’m not very pleasant to be around.  Ask any of my friends.  Letting lose and expressing your girliness is very liberating.  

On this page I’ll offer suggestions on great places to shop, get make-overs and friendly places in Denver to go and be yourself.  I’ll offer all the moral support I can, but remember, this is your step and no one else’s.  The rest will be up to you.  Ready?

HERE WE GO GIRL!

If you’re a crossdresser completely in the closet and want to take the steps to get out into the community, there are a few things I’d humbly ask you to consider. 

1.     It’s wonderful out here.  You’ll find that a lot of the things you were so worried about in the closet aren’t such a big deal after all.  The world didn’t blow up!  The people you meet are nicer and more welcoming than you thought.  There are many places to go and feel safe.  Sure, there are certain precautions to be taken.  But making room in your life for your feminine side can be very rewarding.  Of course, it always helps if you apply yourself to the community and forge new friendships.  You may be shy, but just a little effort goes a long way.  Come on, you can do it!  

2.     Embrace the T-girl community, we need you.  The more we expand our numbers, the stronger we are as a community.  By coming out, you’ll won’t just be helping yourself.  You’ll bring something new to those of us who are already out here and you’ll help to blaze a trail for those T-girls who will be coming out in the years after you.  We’ll all benefit from you taking this important step!  Our community is so specialized and so easily forgotten in the spectrum of gay, lesbian, bi and transgendered people.  Our place in the community is ambiguous and over-generalized.  A bigger t-girl community will spread awareness about who we really are.  You can join us and contribute, even if you're not ready to be "out" to your family and co-workers.  Come girl, we need ya!  

3.     Don't flake out!  So many times my friends and I meet a new T-girl on the internet that wants to get out.  We reach out to them and agree on a time and place to meet and then they are never heard from again.  Listen, there’s absolutely no shame in getting cold feet at the last moment.  We can all appreciate how scary this step is.  Sometimes T-girls, at the very last moment, decide they are just not ready. That’s ok.  But the real world rules of common courtesy apply here too.  Make up a lie about something coming up.  No, seriously, tell us you won’t make it.  We really will understand.  There’s always next time.  

4.     Size really doesn’t matter.  I hear it all the time:  “I’m too big.”  “My features are too manly.”  “I won’t pass.”  Some of the most beautiful T-girls I’ve seen are very very large.  There’s no manly feature that can’t be overcome with the proper clothes, hair, make-up and a little work.  Believe me, its work for all of us.  For the record, I stand about 6'5" in these heels.  Five of the Denver Nuggets are shorter than me when I have these heels on!  As far as passing goes, there are a lot more T-girls that boast about passing than actually do.  I myself do not pass and I don’t really worry about it.  It would be great to pull it off, but being a T-girl doesn’t have to be all about passing.  The really important thing is to feel great about how you look and to fully express your feminine side.  This is very achievable no matter how big you are.  And you don’t have to trick anyone.  Unless, of course, you want to.  ;)  

5.     Don’t wait forever!  So many t-girls wait until their 40s, 50s and even 60s to come out of the closet.  And they all say the same thing:  “I wish I’d come out when I was in my early twenties.”  Your twenties are such a whirlwind, it’s no mystery so many stay closeted.  But closeted T-girls in their 20s are my primary focus, if only because there appear to be so few 20 something T-girls out and about.  But I’m working on it, one T-girl at a time.  And by the same token I must add that you're never to old to unleash the T-girl within.  This fabulous and beautiful girl on the right, Gina, is old enough to be my mother.  She's sweet enough too!  Hi Gina!

Ok then, now the fun stuff!

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