How Does One Choose A Mate?

By Mary Lois Bierman

I hear so many times people state that there is no one in their assembly for a mate. They consider marriage out side of their faith. Yah tells us to not be unequally yoked. Now do you think He would tell us to not do that then there be no one in all world for us?

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? - 2Co 6:14

What therefore Yah hath joined together, let not man put asunder. - Mar 10:9

He knows in all the world where there is a mate He has choosen for them. He is not beyond bringing them together. When it is our Fathers choice for us when we meet we are not a stranger. Something inside us draws us to each other. Deep down in our spirit we are what seems like soul mates. There is no way to explain it.

I guess for young people I would want to say. Go to your Father in heaven and let Him do the match making. Ask Him where is that person that needs you exactly like you are. Yes, exactly like you are. Fault, assets and all. Also where is the one that you need exactly like he is. The one that Yah has choosen for you.

Most important to remember. When you think you are ready to marry may not be the time our Father has for you to marry. I know when the time came that my husband and I were brought together we were who we were because of what we had been through up to that time. We had things to learn, and all those things we went through taught us those things. Things that were needed in marriage. Things needed to be a parent if children were also to be born to the two of you.

It starts long before you meet. He choose you to be His child before the foundation of the world.

According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love: - Eph 1:4

We are told to not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. Also that it is the Father that binds a marriage. So if we chose a mate that is not a believer, going against His rule, will he bind that marriage?

Life in a marriage is so sweet, wonderful and does not have to be like the worlds marriages that are made in the flesh . A child of our Father has a built helper at all times.

Lois Bierman