Ref: Kajir Lecture 4

Karian, Notes Section 05D

What are we doing in ircGor? - training, learning, growing, substituting


Always remember that ircGor is not real life. We are here for very specific reasons, however. We are here to train for real life, to learn about Gor and it's Ways, to share and grow amongst ourselves in the Ways of Gor, amongst good and like-minded friends. And for some of us, we are here to substitute, to 'get a Gor-fix' instead of the real life Gorean Way that we desire.

Yes, some are here for other reasons, to find a Master, or a slave, or to simply experience Gor vicariously when real life Gorean living is denied us for whatever reason. Some are here simply for the possibility of cybersex. If cybersex is a priority for you, there are numerous non-Gorean cybersex oriented channels which will cater to your every whim.

Everyone has thier own reasons for coming to ircGor.... But consider this; being in ircGor effectively, takes a great deal of one's time and energy. So make it *worth* your time and energy, not to mention what you're paying for access to the Net.


Living the Gorean Way in Real Life

Can it be done? Can a Master or a kajira be of Gor all the time? The answer varies quite a bit with individual circumstance, however, it can indeed be done. Consult KN 06C-3_Disciplines.txt for an example of how to mesh Gor with reality on Earth, for the kajir.

The bottom line is that it can be done, and *is* being done by many Goreans; Masters, Mistresses, and kajir. Once you have lived it, very much of what may be difficult to understand, becomes crystal clear.


Chains of authority and command

Who is in charge, and when? This seems like a simple question, yet, too many kajir seem ignorant of this very basic aspect of Gorean interaction. What follows is the order of authority which exists over any kajir, based upon where you are and how long you have been there.

1) Your Master or Mistress, the One who Owns you.
2) If in a channel collar, then the Ops of that channel
3) The first girl or second girl of the channel you are in
4) Any Free Person who commands you
5) Any kajir who is senior to you in the channel you are collared to

The reason for the first one, and the second, is obvious.
The first or second girls of a channel have been placed in that position by the Ops of that channel. Thier authority comes directly from those Ops. Failure to obey them is akin to failing to obey the Ops. While they may not be able to deal with you directly, you can be sure that they will speak to the Ops and that thier word will be taken very seriously.

Any Free Person is automatically in authority over any kajir. There may be some question when it is a first or second girl, versus a Free Person who is not of channel, however, again, the Free Person usually understands that the first or second girl is following the direct orders of the Ops, and takes that into account. The first or second girl, on the other hand, is still required to behave with proper decorum and respect to all Free People, Masters and Mistresses alike. If a Free Person not of the channel gives the first or second girl of that channel an order which is against the directives of the Ops, the kajir is not likely to obey. Most likely, at best, the kajir will leave and go get one of her Ops to come and deal with the situation. Of course, it would be very well for the first or second girl to be in the right, and have acted properly and courteously in all things, and with absolute honesty. Logs are always a good idea in the event of any dispute.


Curiosity is not becomming in a kajira

This is a common Gorean saying, but one which is often just as commonly misunderstood. It does NOT mean that the Gorean Master disapproves of curiosity in a kajira. This phrase refers only to the times when the kajira is sticking her nose into the Master's private business, at a place and time where it is inappropriate. Thus, it is a very relative thing, depending on many factors. In general, most of the time the Master approves very much that the kajira is curious about things which are her business, curious about her own self-improvement and development, her training and the ways and means she formulates to please him. Curiosity is closely linked to intelligence, and intelligence is highly prized in a kajira. No one wants a stupid slave.


How to address one's own Master, versus other Masters

When speaking to one's own Master, or to say it another way, when speaking to the Master who Owns the kajira, the kajira will address the Owner differently, and more intimately. Sometimes a kajira who is owned by another Master will address the Master whom she desires to have own her, by these forms, as a way to let him know that she wishes to be owned by him. This is, however, while a good way for the kajira to make her desires know, also considered in bad taste, and will almost certainly get the kajira in trouble if her actual Owner hears of it.

Book25, page 425
The kajir is not permitted to use the Owning Master's name when speaking to the Master. This is a fundimental matter of courtesy and respect, proper protocol when being of Gor and communicating with the Master. It is considered a highly punishable offense if the kajir lapses in this particular.

Book19, page 361
When speaking to the Owner, the kajir may use the phrase, "my Master" to him, and him alone. The phrase is specifically reserved for use with the Owning Master, and is considered an intimacy, as well as being indicative of the desire of the kajira.

Book24, page 264
When greeting one's Owner for the first time in the day, usually in the morning, the proper protocol is to perform a full and deep obeisance, and then to say, "this kajira hopes to be pleasing to you this day, my Master." There are variations on this theme, however the core greeting always remains the same. For instance, the kajir might say, if it is morning, "Good morning my Master, I hope to be pleasing to you this day.", or "Greetings my Master, it is this kajira's deepest desire to be found pleasing to you this day." Such greetings are almost always certain to please the Master, and begin the day on the proper footing.

Book22, page 165
Whenever approaching, or leaving the Owner's presence, in public (in Gorean public, that is) or in private, the kajir should perform a full obeisance to the Master, unless the Master indicates otherwise. This is the affirmation and reaffirmation of the relationship between Master and kajira, and demonstrates clearly to any who are watching that the kajira is owned, fully.

Book13, page 198
As an aside note, be aware that the unbinding of a woman's hair is, by the Gorean culture, the act of the one who owns her, the Master. It is considered very sensuous, and enjoyable for both the Master to perform, and the kajira who's hair is being unbound, and perhaps also, brushed out.


How, and when, to perform a proper obeisance

Perhaps the single most complex maneuver for a kajir to fully understand and properly employ at any given time, for any given need, is the obeisance. There are a number of variations, and each is suitable at different times, but rarely will the Master tell the kajir precisely which one to use. In this, a great deal will be up to the kajir to decide, in terms of how the maneuver is performed.

There are many ways to perform an obeisance, and just as many variations on each type, for different circumstances and situations. It is one of the ways that a kajira can demonstrate, beyond any slightest shadow of a doubt, the depth of her devotion and love for the Master.

There are two basic forms of obeisance which may be considered and used as appropriate. First, the kneeling obeisance. The kneeling obeisance is used when the Master is simply passing by, perhaps he doesn't have the time to wait for the kajir to go to thier belly, or perhaps it is simply a Master passing the kajira in a hallway. In such circumstances, normally a kneeling obeisance is considered both sufficient, and appropriate.

In the kneeling obeisance, the kajira drops to her knees and bends forward at the waist, bringing head as close to the ground as is feasible. The arms may be fully extended towards the Master, to touch his feet, or if in a confined space such as a hallway, the arms are held close to the kajira's body, with wrists crossed over her breasts. Alternatively, the kajira could intertwine her fingers behind her head, holding her arms out to the sides as she bows as low as she can. The kajira's face should be very close to the Master's feet, and if he is not moving, she will adjust if at all possible to cover his feet with kisses.

The second form of obeisance is the belly obeisance. This is considered to be a much deeper demonstration of submission to the Master. In this, the kajira goes first her knees, and bends forward just as she would in a kneeling obeisance, but this time she places her hands on the floor to steady her position, and slides her knees backwards until she is fully prone upon her belly. Next, she can either wiggle forward to the Master's feet, or, if the distance was gauged properly, her head should already be positioned within a few inches of his feet. In the belly obeisance, there is no half-measure, it is full, all-out display of abject submission to the Master, in no uncertain terms. The kajira will begin by moving her hair over the Master's foot, caressing it with the strands, and thereby sensitizing it to the next step. Then, she uses her lips, and tongue, licking and kissing the foot of the Master. To demonstrate sexual desire as well, the kajira may also nibble or suck upon the foot. The allowable range is from the toes, up as high as mid-calf, for the kajira's attentions. Often a Master will permit a kajira to continue at some length when doing this, so be prepared to do so. When the Master signifies that the oral display is sufficient, either through movement of the leg/foot, or by word, the kajira brings her head down to the top of the foot, her mouth maintaining constant contact to the Master while making this transition, and slowly turn her head to rest her cheek against the top of his foot.

If the kajira has displeased the Master, or suspects that she has or will do so, it is advisable to take the obeisance yet another step forward. After resting the cheek against the top of the foot for only a moment, the kajira may move her head sideways just far enough to clear the Master's foot, lift it gently, slide her head back beneath where the foot is, and bring the sole of the Master's foot to the the upwards facing side of her head. This demonstrates further to the Master that the kajira is placing herself utterly beneath his his mercy, and his judgement.

A full obeisance varies depending on whether it is to just any Master, or the Owning Master. To just any Master, lean forward and put lips to the top of the foot, let your hair brush across it and kiss three times, then lay your cheek to the top of the foot. To the Owning Master, use both lips and tongue after caressing the foot with your hair, demonstrate absolute devotion with that, and display sexual need by what you do with your bottom - for instance, if your tail is wagging in the air, that sends a message!

When does the kajir perform an obeisance? When commanded, of course, but there will also be times when it is not commanded. Perhaps the Master is not considering it, at such times the obeisance has the greatest effect, and be the most pleasing. The first time that a kajir goes before the Owner in a given day, always perform the full obeisance. Also, before the kajir parts from the Owner for the rest of the day, again, perform the full obeisance. When seeking the Master's forgiveness, perform the most abject of obeisances that can be concieved. When seeking especial favour, it is also appropriate.

Understand that the full obeisance can be a very intimate thing, and very arousing. As with anything which can be done, if you have formulated your own special twist to the obeisance, reserve that and do not do it often. Let it be something that the Master will know and recognize as carrying especial meaning. Anything which is done too often, or overdone, loses it's specialness.


Compressing a serve

Often the Master does not have the leisure to wait while the kajir works on a lengthy serve. In irc, this is frequently the case, the Master has things going on, or simply does not have the time that he would like to have, to devote to a single task or to being on-line. In real life, this is not so much of a problem because in real life, a serve is much faster than it is on-line. Therefore, the kajir needs to find out if it is feasible to do so, how much time the Master has available. If it is not much, then the serve needs to be compressed.

Compressing a serve is done by paring it down to it's essentials. Often you will see a kajir doing a simple serve of black wine that takes upwards of 45 minutes to complete. In real life, you could have ground the beans, made an entire pot of coffee, and served it, in a maximum of 15 minutes time. If the coffee was already made, 5 minutes is more than sufficient.

When the compressed serve is performed on-line, there needs be only two paragraphs in a really tight serve. One showing the getting up to get the refreshement and the return before the Master, the second one is the girl's litany, speaking to the Master. Done. At most, it can be strung out to three paragraps, one going, one returning, and the last, the litany to the Master.

On the same note, in ircGor, when the kajira is serving, the intent of the serve is to interact with the Master. And for the Master to interact with the kajira. This becomes difficult when the kajira writes one paragraph of her leaving him to go to the servery, one paragraph of her return, and then the litany of the serve itself, but writes for 45 minutes to generate 10 paragraphs in the servery of her detailed preparation of the food or drink. What's wrong with that picture? Quite simply, the kajira appears to be off roleplaying with the pots and pans! Do you honestly think that the Master will care about every last detail of the preparation, other than perhaps to use as a punishment?

The point here is this; focus on the Master at all times. Interact with the Master, not with the pots and pans. That ratio shown above should be reversed, on a highly detailed serve, 10 paragraphs of interaction with the Master, and 3 in the servery. Compress the parts which are not interacting with the Master, and expand the parts which do.


What does the Gorean Master wants from the kajira?

This is very straightforward... the Gorean Master wants everything, and more. It is not sufficient for a kajira to be merely a sex-toy, the Master will take that just for starters, or as an aside. The true Master is not satisfied unless he owns the kajira fully, mind and body, heart and soul. He owns her, and will not accept anything less than all of what he owns. The kajira's thoughts and emotions, her talents and skills, her hopes and her dreams, and yes, even her nightmares. All of her, belongs to her Master.

In the Gorean Way, in the total ownership of the kajira, the Master also aquires certain responsibilities. Yes, she is his property, but that will mean that he takes care of his property as best he can. The kajira is *human* property, and humans have needs and requirements which must be met in order for them to be at thier very best. In the ownership of the kajira, the Master will foster those things which are best in the kajira, and not tolerate those things which are are harmful to her, or make her less than she should be. The Master will be proud of his property, and will require that she be such that he can take pride in her, and his training of her. After all, his choice of the kajira is a direct reflection upon him, his tastes and his abilities as a Master. If she is serving, others will look upon her service and it's quality will reflect *directly* upon the Master. Others will know by her behavior, her service, her demeanor, how much effort the Master has put into the girl, and how good a Master he is. Or is not.

On-line, in whatever venue of Gor you are in, it is not possible to fully own the kajira, in all ways. For true Mastery, the relationship must move to real life, sooner or later, where the Master can be a true Master to the kajira, and the kajira, a true kajira. However, on-line is not a bad place to start.


Why is bondage such a large factor if Gor is not about bondage?

Book17, page 206
In Gor, bondage is used to impress upon a woman her vulnerability, helplessness, and subjectiveness to the Master. To make fully manifest her slavery to him, in no uncertain terms. Also, of course, for many, a woman is made even more beautiful and exciting when in restraints, utterly subject to the Master's Will. This latter reason is almost incidental, however. Gor is not about BDSM.
Book2, page 53
In fact, in Gor, sado-masochism is considered an aberration, a sickness, and it is almost never encountered. These things alone would vastly separate Gor from BDSM venues, but of course, there are other very telling differences to consider, as we have covered in earlier lectures.

Ritual and symbology are very important to the Gorean Way. One such symbol is the collar of the kajir. It is the physical, manifest icon of the kajir's nature and servitude, removing all question as to the status of the kajir. It need not be a band of steel, it can be something as simple as a velvet choker, in real life. The kajir knows the reality behind it.... that a more substantial collar can be placed on the neck at any moment, if the Master deems it either necessary, or pleasing to him. This symbol of the kajir's bondage to the Master is but the first of many, and one leads directly to the next. Will the Master place cuffs on the kajir? Or perhaps the sirik, the chains? A slender, attractive walking chain? Each thing that the Master does adds not only a physical bond, but trains the kajira in no uncertain terms that she is controlled, absolutely, by the Will of the Master.

Often it will be noted that a newer kajir is far more heavily laden with these symbols of servitude, than a more experienced kajir would be. The reason is simple; the new kajira is still learning, perhaps even still testing the limits of her imbondage to the Master. As such it is a kindness to keep her confined within the space of these sorts of physical symbols, so that she *can't* exceed them, and get herself into trouble. Moreover, it trains her body, her reactions and her reflexes, to operate within the boundaries set by the Master, even as the symbols themselves help her to condition her mind to it's fullest, deepest understanding of her circumstances, and her nature. A more experienced kajira already knows these lessons, and usually wears the physical symbols for the pleasure of doing so, as they are a constant reminder that her Master not only cares enough set her limits for her, but also takes both comfort, and even joy, in knowing that she cannot be displeasing by inadvertantly exceeding those limits. It permits her to relax fully, and find the freedom of the chains.

And of course, many who come into Gor, do so from a BDSM venue, and while Gor has it's own particular reasons for using the implements of bondage, many enjoy the chains and whips and whatnot, for all of the sexually charged pleasures they can bring. But understand clearly this; those BDSM reasons are not the primary reasons in the Gorean Way.


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