Young Women's Motive for Dating You

By R. Don Steele
 

HER MOTIVES FOR DATING YOU

You're asking her to go against everything parents, boyfriend, church, society and girl friends have drilled into that pretty young head and heart of hers. Why will she do it?

One element of her motivation is the desire to be seriously fucked, the way she's heard it's supposed to be done. As you now know her best experience does not begin to measure up to what she's heard from other girls, read in Cosmopolitan or seen in the movies. And, "fer sure," there is the stereotype of older men as knowledgeable, experienced lovers.

She knows there must be more to it. But this is one of her darkest, most closely held secrets, slightly behind masturbating and feeling terribly lonely. She fantasizes what a "real man" would do with her. If she's a bit drunk she talks to her closest girl friend about what it should be like. Don't get this wrong. She's not obsessed with sex but wonders if she's missing something important.

So far her boyfriend's best efforts aren't much. He wants his cock sucked all the time. He's reluctant to give her head and has no idea a clit isn't a miniature dick, if he even knows where it is. He lasts two minutes after entering her. She and her contemporaries know, on some level, there's more to it.

Part of the attraction is your age. It makes you different, plain and simple. You are attracted to her because she's different from 38 year old divorcees. (How's that for an understatement?) Also, your age qualifies you to participate with her in a forbidden romance, a turn on to females of any age.

She wants to experience life. You have the knowledge and money to show her a world she's only seen on television and read about in People. Older lovers have lots to offer says Cosmopolitan. One of her girl friend's acquaintances has one. She's ready to give it a try.

She may want to shame and degrade her parents. This girl plays a game called The Goy Ploy. She picks a male to infuriate and embarrass her parents - a goy if she's Jewish, or a Jew if her parents found Jesus. Others to piss off Mum and Dad - bikers, Mexicans, punks or an older man. Paying attention?

She has to get caught with you so she can make a giant scene(s) to rub her parent's noses in the whole sordid affair. That'll show them they were bad to her. Then they'll see it's their fault she turned out to be a bad girl.

Daughters of the rich sometimes are just bored and want to do something "totally radical." But, poor little rich girls play Goy Ploy, too. Be extra careful. Irate wealthy parents like to prove themselves blameless by threatening legal action or using their connections to punish you "for seducing our sweet, innocent baby girl."

FOOLISH ASSUMPTIONS. As a married man I was able to easily meet and "date" young women. After a few conversations and lunch she'd realize I only wanted to nail her to the mattress, then to the wall at the nearest motel.

After three of these "affairs" I realized it was not necessary to beat around the bush, so to pun. I only had to be discreet and make it tactfully clear what I wanted. She simply chose to participate in some serious fucking or diplomatically passed. She knew from my approach and attitude that if she played "chase me, catch me, fuck me" I'd lose interest and she'd lose "fuck me." Courtship was simpler and faster then. No confusion about long term possibilities, the goal was straightforward.

My foolish assumption - after getting divorced I would be able to meet and have real dates with young women.

WRONG! Married men are toys, nothing to take seriously.

When she "dates" a married man she doesn't feel used. She knows what the score is. If she gets entangled she only blames herself because she reads Dear Abby every day.

Now that I'm single, she's confused about my purpose and goal. "He's kind of a potential husband but he's so old." Everything's muddled. She wants to get married someday but she's been used and lied to by every guy over 26 she's ever been out with. No matter what I say or do she thinks I am primarily interested in her slit.

I'm something she's not encountered before. I don't want to just nail her. I want to have a caring, romantic, fun-filled affair for as long as we enjoy each other. She knows that on some level from my attitude and approach, sometimes she even asks me directly.

"Gosh! An affair? Really? You know, like, I don' know. Jeez. What about my boyfriend?"

To answer that question and to really understand her, you have to be clear on why she almost always has a boyfriend. But first you need to know Which Young Women, otherwise, you'll waste time pursuing the wrong one.

A seven, who will date you three times, is a ten.

This article is written by R. Don Steele.  This is the Part 6 of an excerpt from his book : "How to Date Young Women After Age 35, Volume I"