Internal States

Finally, I'm going to address the idea of your 'states.' By 'state' I
mean the feeling that you have in your body.
Can you remember a time when you felt happy and excited?
Can you remember a time when you felt powerful and energetic?
If you can, then you can HAVE THESE FEELINGS ANY TIME YOU
WANT THEM. Most people don't use their memories to help them feel
good because they say "Well, that's not really how I'm feeling, I'm just
imagining it." Well, I have news for you: You're ALWAYS just
imagining it. You might as well imagine it at times when you need it
instead of having it happen on accident!
Here's how to use this:
Write down three states that you'd like to be able to put yourself
into anytime you'd like. Then, write down three times in your life when
you felt each of those states. Finally, close your eyes, and put yourself
into each of the three situations that made you feel the state that you
want, and do SOMETHING UNIQUE with your body as you're
remembering. For instance, if you'd like to feel powerful and confident,
while you're remembering times when you felt this way, breath out
quickly while puckering your lips. If you do this process of
remembering the states and breathing out quickly at the same time,
all you have to do in the future is close your eyes, breath out quickly
while remembering the feelings, and you'll have the states that you
want. It's like having a push button for feeling good on your body.
Next, you have to practice putting yourself into your three powerful
states when you're in different environments. So go different places,
and practice getting yourself into your states with distractions, etc.
This might take some doing, but once you have it mastered, you'll be
able to get yourself into a positive state when you're not feeling it to
begin with (Could this be useful when you're feeling shy or afraid to
meet someone? Maybe...)
I also started keeping a personal journal of everything that I was
learning and doing, so I could reflect on it.

Find Others

MOST IMPORTANTLY I found and started to hang around with guys
that WERE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN. This was the biggie. I owe
much of my success to the guys who showed me in the real world
what they did. It wasn’t the books and the people selling tapes and
seminars. It was the real world guys that were successful in the real
world. What I do now resembles nothing that I’ve really read in a book
or learned from an author.
So the BEST advice I can give you is to find about 5 guys in your
area that know what they’re doing, and say “Hey, I really want to get
this part of my life handled… can I take you to dinner (no kissing) and
pick your brain man?” Be humble and cool, and you’ll make some
friends. Like I said, find about 5 different guys so you can get different
perspectives and see how it all fits together.
By the way, go read the chapter in Think and Grow Rich about the
Mastermind as well. IF YOU DO NOTHING ELSE, DO THIS ONE THING.
IT WILL MAKE THE DIFFERENCE.

What Outcome Are You Looking For?

Most men that I talk to about this topic really can't explain the
EXACT outcome that they're looking for.
So let me ask you...
Are you looking for a one night stands?
Are you looking for a girlfriend?
Are you looking for a wife?
Are you looking to get this part of my life called 'confidence with
women' handled?
What is it that you'd like to do?
Once you choose an outcome for yourself, you can apply what
you're learning to that outcome. If you have no outcome, then you're
going to be like a ship in the ocean with no particular port as your
destination. With no target, there is a very small chance that you'll
ever be successful.
Take a moment and write down your goal as it relates to women.
Then think about that goal as you read the rest of this book.
The idea here is to give yourself a framework to work within and
that you have to plan. Failing to plan is planning to fail.

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