Getting Them Interested In You
An important
distinction that I’ve made which attracts women is to
never act too happy.
Women are intrigued by men who are calm and almost unaffected.
The real hotties are used to having men get nervous when talking to
them, and they can sense that you’re different when you stay very
cool, and calmly talk to them.
NEVER let them sense that you’re too interested in the beginning.
I just read tonight in a book about cats that a cat will approach the
person in the room that is least interested in it. Somehow, cats can
detect when someone is paying no attention, and this is what attracts
them. WOMEN ARE THE SAME.
I know that this one doesn't make any sense, but if you will start
acting uninterested, you'll see that women will start giving you the
"What's wrong? You don't like me?" response. Now, you may think this
is manipulation, but I think of it as having fun, teasing, and
challenging. And by the way, I've told several women about this stuff
later on, after I got to know them better... and they ALL told me that it
worked and they're glad that I did it in one way or another.
Getting
Phone Numbers And Email Addresses
I've personally
stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers.
I've found that email addresses are far better.
Let me explain.
I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.
If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about
a minute. I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this
that numbers don’t equal success.
You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their
phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men call
them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But
the universal feedback that I get from men, and in my personal
experience, women act different on the phone than they do in person.
When you call a woman for the first time, they'll often start acting
stand offish or even worse, just plain rude.
I've found that getting an email address is not only easier, but it
gets more positive responses later on.
It's almost like women appreciate it that you've taken the time to
think about what you're going to say when you write an email to them.
The other benefit of email is that it can be written and answered
anytime.
If you call, you have to actually reach them.
But an email can be answered anytime.
And I've found that emails are answered far more often than
voicemail messages.
Here's the how to:
After I’ve talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I’ll often say
something like “Well, it was nice meeting you. I’m going to get back to
my friends.” They usually don’t know what to do, as they’re used to
guys clinging. Then, just as I’m turning to walk away… and we kind of
disconnect… I turn back and say “Do you have email?”
If they say yes, I take out a pen and paper and have them write it
down. (This is great, as I just treat the ‘yes’ that they give me as a
yes to get it from them as well. And they’ve ALL gone along with it so
far) Then I say “Write your number down there too.” I won’t go into all
of it, but this move is a powerhouse. When you ask for email, it’s very
low risk for them… so they think “Fine, I’ll do that”… and then when
they’re already writing, I get the phone number too… which is more
natural.
If they say no, then I bust on them and say “Well, do you have
electricity?” Then I say “Well, OK then… I like email better, but I’ll take
your regular phone number… it’s so damn hard to reach people on the
phone these days.”
I hope you get what just happened… OK, then, as they’re writing I
say “Is this a number that you actually answer?” If not, then I say
“Look, write your real number down… it’s going to be OK, I’ll only call
you nine times a day.” They laugh, and give me their real number.
Just realize that all you have to do is ask.
Like I said, I've tried all kinds of things. Many guys say "But what
do I tell her as a reason why I want her number or email?" I've never
had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows
why you asked. If she doesn't give it to you, then she also knew why
you asked. Just assume that this is the case.
If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm
way, you'll get a lot of emails and phone numbers.
Note: Carry a pen on you at all times.
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