When You Meet

A good friend of mine points out that it's better to ask a women to
come to your house for the first meeting so you can leave from there
(On the phone you can say "Well, there's a great coffee shop right
near my place. Why don't you just ring my doorbell, and I'll come out
and we can leave together. This way, in case you're a few minutes
behind I won't have to wait...")
When they arrive, say hi, invite them in for a minute while you get
your coat or shoes. Then walk out, and seem like YOU'RE IN A HURRY
TO LEAVE. Most guys would try to get them to stay and get cozy with
them. You want them to think that you're not overly interested, and
that you want some coffee.
Total indifference.
At coffee, just sit and be funny and cocky self, make jokes, and in
general lean back and make ‘friends.’
I used to analyze handwriting, do palmistry, do hand massages,
and touch women when I first met them. Not anymore (I save these
things for later).
Also, I used to be more touchy 'feely' with women at the very
beginning. As I mentioned, I’d massage their hands, and touch them a
lot, etc. leading to kissing etc. early on.
I’ve now learned that if I lean back and kind of almost don’t touch
them at all on purpose, it creates this tension, so that when I do
actually touch them, they respond powerfully. In communication they
call this ‘Building Response Potential.’
Sometimes I'll massage hands or touch, but I don't overdo it.
I’m just sitting there ACTING LIKE WE’RE BEST FRIENDS. When
you act like a they’re a best friend, they will rapidly get comfortable
with you. I make fun of people, whatever. I just totally lean back and
relax. I’m cool and relaxed, but at the same time making comments
about how we’re going to be friends, etc.
I’ve learned never to compliment a hot woman on her looks,
period. I still mess up and forget, and I’m always reminded why I don’t
do it. I try to find one thing that she’s insecure about, and talk to her
about it like ‘a friend’… no overly critical, but not saying ‘no, you
shouldn’t be insecure’… I just keep bringing it up, and even making
jokes about it.

Places To Go

I've learned that it's more interesting to GO somewhere and DO
something with a woman than it is to go on a 'date.'
If you want to do more than just have coffee with a woman,
consider going somewhere fun to shop. I prefer funky, eclectic
neighborhoods and shops. These are places full of wacky and fun
items. It will give you an ongoing, changing set of things to talk about.
And the best part is that you don't have to buy anything.
When you go to these types of places, you can just have fun and
talk. Make sure you wander away from her a few times while you're
out. This keeps the "I'm not needy" thing going on.
Remember, you don't have to spend money to have fun.

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