Always keep in mind that just because you’re approaching a woman, it doesn’t give her the right to be rude to you. If she rejects you gracefully, eject gracefully. But if she blows you off with an insult, then it’s open season on her ego! Smile at her like she’s funny and use some condescending comment like "That’s cute" or "You had a hard childhood, didn’t you?" Whatever you do, DON’T get mad and call her a bitch. First, this is what every guy does, and it just makes you look like another insecure loser bitter at rejection. Second, never forget that your next target may be watching! If you deal with a cold rejection in a cocky way and don’t let it faze you, it says a lot about you, in a good way.

If you’re having a lot of trouble approaching, the Deliberate Rejection Exercise is the quickest way to get over your fear of approaching hot women. With the DRE, you GO IN WITH THE *INTENTION* OF GETTING REJECTED! Be totally honest and ASK FOR IT! I call this the Deliberate Rejection Exercise (DRE). Here's what I mean: Go somewhere for an afternoon, somewhere far from what would be a future regular pickup ground for you (like a mall on the other side of town). Go at a time when you know there will be a lot of hot women there. With a smile, walk up to a 9 or 10 and say the following: "Hi, I have this FEAR of rejection that I really need to get over. So I need you to just REJECT ME as hard and as cold as possible, so I can get used to it. Go ahead, REJECT ME!" If she ignores you, go C&F: "Is that the BEST you can do? Ignore me? Come on, you can do better than that! Say something MEAN!" If she just giggles or thinks you’re putting her on: "What are you laughing for? I mean it!! Be cruel!" When she finally does blow you off badly, thank her and tell her "Only 36 more rejections to go, I have a target of 50". This routine has two beneficial effects:

First, it doesn't matter if you're nervous when you're approaching since your whole point is to get rejected anyway. If you look nervous and blow it, THAT’S THE POINT! Just add it to your "rejection target" of 50 or whatever number you have as a goal. It doesn't matter because after a few times your nervousness will go away, you'll be enjoying the game, and you'll have no fear at all approaching a hot woman cold. On top of this, you'll see that rejection by a 10 isn't that bad, and you can actually make fun of it. Now, contrast this with approaching while trying NOT to get rejected: You get all nervous worrying about getting rejected, and since you're nervous you creep the girl out and she rejects you anyway, which really doesn't help your nervousness the next time you try.

Second, it conditions you to approach total female strangers (attractive ones) with a cocky & funny attitude. Throughout the entire routine above, you’re being playful. Too many men are afraid to look stupid and thus stay serious and "smooth" around attractive women. Without a base of experience horsing around with hotties, C&F approaches and routines, when eventually used, will seem forced. The woman will pick up that you're uncomfortable and you'll blow it.

When you do the DRE, don't be surprised when half the women you say it to are speechless. You'll see some of them with the look of a deer caught in the headlights, since they've probably NEVER been approached by a guy ASKING to get blown out. It's just so far outside their reality. If you're lucky she might even find it cute, and you'll have yourself a 10-friend! Not a bad thing considering she could introduce you to all her hot friends.

The DRE can be used a couple times as a great warm-up before actual serious PU sessions as well, no matter how experienced you are.

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