3. Knowing What You Want Before you can work towards a goal, you have to properly define what that goal is. So if you’re looking for your ideal woman, you have to decide what qualities and values she’s going to have to have to be the one. You have to come up with your own, but these are mine. KNOW what you want and you'll be more likely to get it.
HOWEVER, no matter how much a woman fits your "criteria", DON’T think about her as a girlfriend. Start by thinking of her as a fun, beautiful, but temporary addition to your life. In other words, just have fun with her, give her no restrictions, don't box her in, don't demand anything of her, don't take anything too seriously, etc. Just laugh with her and have sex with her, take her to movies, be cool around town with her on your arm, etc. If it’s going to get serious, it’ll happen on its own if you just TAKE IT EASY. Most relationships fail because people get too serious too fast, and build up fantasies of the other person that they can’t live up to. The ones that last are the ones where the two parties were at the very least "flirting friends" for a while, or had a physical fling that grew into something more with time. Beware of women in the "gimme" category, i.e. commitment, amount of time spent, emotional support, talking about what they want to talk about, etc. In other words, THEIR agenda, without considering what you could want. It's as if they assume that just because they give you sex or attention, somehow you as a man now are getting everything you could want and must give them what they want. A woman who’ll respect your other needs as well as her own, has the potential to be a long-term match.
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