The easiest way to take inventory of your true personality is to analyze your own handwriting. Simply look at your own handwriting and compare it with the traits found in this book. You can also use the information found in the Trait Dictionary or a Grapho-Deck®, if you have one. Discover those traits about yourself that a partner would find attractive or repulsive. Check out the trait dictionary and compare the results for a reality check. Before looking at your own writing, how would you describe yourself? You will take an inventory of your own perceptions in a moment.

Be honest. Are you stubborn or domineering? Do you have to have it your way? Are you a loner? Do you prefer to sit in your room and read than be around people? Are you emotionally withdrawn, sarcastic, vindictive, or mean? Are you generous, good at keeping secrets, friendly, enjoy people, or optimistic? Are you ambitious or confident?

Most people's perceptions of themselves vary slightly with reality. Handwriting has always been a good reality check for me. I can't tell you how many times I have looked down at my own handwriting only to cover it up and hope no one was watching!

To make your personality list easy and painless, I have designed a Personality Inventory in which you can just fill in the blanks. This checklist is designed to outline what you think your personality is like and what you want in a relationship. The instructions are very simple. Check any box you feel applies to you or your ideal mate. Check both boxes if it seems right to you. Be sure to include both positive and negative traits. This will give you an inventory of where your strengths and weaknesses lie. After you have completed the Personality Inventory, make a written list of your most prevalent traits and the traits you want in a mate, as you chose in the inventory. Keep this list handy so you will know what to look for when you start looking at handwriting samples of prospective lovers.

When developing a profile of your ideal mate, attempt to structure the list in individual traits, opposed to generalities of behavior. Some men would like to say, "Uh, subservient, good cook, keeps her mouth shut, good in bed, and serves me and the boys beer during the football game!" (No, we won't have any of those vast chauvinistic generalizations!) Instead, break those desires into traits. It is perfectly okay to want a mate that can keep a house organized and clean. In that case look for organizational ability and perfectionism. Be aware that you may be giving up the ability to throw your jeans across the chair when you get home!

No matter what you want in an ideal mate, you are the real issue in this game. The person you attract will only be a reflection of who you are. If you are a loser, you will attract losers. If you are an interesting, sincere, and neat person, once you begin to use neuro-analysis effectively, you will attract more good people like yourself.

Take a look at your own personality and decide what type of person best suits your needs. Be objective. You also may need something completely different than you think you want. If you are a weak, domineering, manipulative, violent scumbag that hits women... you need a woman with a low self-image (low t-bar) and a desire to be punished (pointed backward t-bar). That way, your psychotic criminal behavior complements her insecure, self-castigating weaknesses. (Sick, but true.)

Hopefully, that example doesn't apply to you. Take a good look at yourself before you start looking at others. You might want a strong person because you are passive. You might want someone equally as strong as you. Make this distinction when filling out the Personality Inventory. You may not know what you want. Understanding what you need is a process. It takes practice, learning, and fine-tuning. Use your imagination and best judgement. Remember, you can always change your mind.

"The person you attract will be a reflection of who you are." ...Bart A. Baggett

Much of this book is dedicated to understanding people so you can avoid bad apples and recognize diamonds. However, I strongly believe that you will (and always have) attract to you those people that match your needs on some level or another. Therefore, if you are not completely satisfied at the moment, you need to evaluate carefully all your needs. So, get a writing utensil. Find a place with few distractions. Complete the Personality Inventory on the following pages. The box marked "Me" is your own traits, "Mate" is for what you want in a mate.

• NOTE: Due to its size, the Personality Inventory is not included here. As you now realize the importance of discovering how to find, attract and choose your perfect mate, order your copy of Handwriting Analysis for Love, Sex, and Relationships to complete your own Personality Inventory checklist.

Analyzing the Results
Did you learn anything about yourself? Did you learn anything about the type of person you want to settle down with? Many people who take this Inventory see clearly the type of personality that they dated in the past. When they understand that type of personality leads to misery and failure, they decide to choose a personality which works with their own. I am sure you will do the same. Each trait listed has a corresponding handwriting stroke to assist you in recognizing it in your next romantic prospect. As you read through this book, look for the strokes you have in your own writing as well as those your ideal mate will have.

To make this easier, turn to Appendix B to find the Personality Inventory Chart expanded to include the handwriting stroke which identifies each trait. Therefore, you can use your completed chart to create a list of your ideal traits and know what strokes to look for in someone else's handwriting. It will make your search for the perfect mate perfectly simple. Turn to the appendix now.

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