Psychology offers a rich source of information on relationships. Research areas include mate selection, marital success, and dysfunctional relationships. I will be brief in relating the appropriate results of psychological research to your life. Two helpful approaches regarding relationships are: 1) similarity and 2) complementary.

The theory of similarity states that the more like a person you are, the more likely you are to like each other. In other words, the more similar another person is to you, the more likely you are to choose him or her and to enjoy success in a relationship. Think about the question, "What do we have in common?" Similarity includes such factors as attractiveness, values, wealth, culture, religion, education, and even geography. An example of such a couple would be my friends Edward and Lori. They both are conservative, religious, quiet, reserved, and kind. An analysis of their handwriting reveals that they are both at the middle of the road emotionally, each exhibits a good self-image, and both are stubborn. Both of them have very similar basic dispositions. Based on the similarity theory, their relationship has a higher probability of long-term success.

Using neuro-analysis, you can identify individual personality traits between two people and then predict their compatibility from their writing. The most common example of incompatibility is an extreme extrovert trying to date and relate to an introvert. The extrovert openly expresses her feelings and requests that her partner be emotionally expressive as well. The introvert, a person who rarely expresses feelings, could go weeks without ever saying, "I love you." Since the extrovert needs to give and receive emotional expression more often than the introvert, conflict arises. Thus, it becomes a case of different emotional outlays giving rise to relationship problems. Once identified and understood, the conflict can be resolved using various techniques. Compatibility profiles become much more complicated when all the traits are added together.

The second theory is complementary. One trait of one person complements a strength or weakness of the other one. An example of compatible personality traits are a very sensitive insecure woman that dates a very expressive, talkative, generous man. He constantly reassures her and tells her how much he approves of her. Because she is happy receiving this kind of attention, she works very hard to please him in return. Their two personalities complement each other.

Here is another example that is quite common. A man with a highly sarcastic tendency (sharp pointed t-bar), impulsiveness (hard right hand slant) and a temper (t-bar on the right side of stem) would hurt a woman with a high degree of sensitivity to criticism (large looped d stem) and a low self-image (low t-bar) because she is overly sensitive and he is overly caustic. Although he may feel that he loves her, she will be walking around with her ego bruised most of the time because his expressions of frustration are often mean and caustic. If he would choose a girlfriend with a good self-image, sarcasm, and a lack of sensitivity, she could fight back and not be hurt as easily.

The problem with using these traditional psychological theories is that it is difficult for you to pinpoint which personality traits a prospective lover possesses. You could ask your next date to take a 600 question written personality test, but that method has its drawbacks. Traditional personality tests are impractical for you and me to use. Some are accurate, but they are time consuming, costly, and confusing. What you need is a fast, accurate, simple, and covert method of analyzing each other's personalities. As you now know, neuro-analysis is that method. Simply look at the handwriting, ask a few questions, and observe. You will get the answers you need.

Although it may seem complicated, it is actually quite simple once you practice. You don't have to know about all the traits in someone's personality. You don't need to be an expert on all types of people. All you need to know is how to recognize the personality traits that you want in a mate. Every time you meet a potential mate, you look at his/her personality traits and compare them to yours. If the next prospect you meet has two personalities, lies pathologically, and is paranoid, you simply ask yourself if those qualities will be compatible with your qualities. In this case, I hope you say no. But, if you have two people living inside of you, believe that the whole world is against you, and enjoy making up lies for the fun of it.... you two probably have a lot in common. I wish you the best of luck and the four of you should be very happy together.

Therefore, just look at the individual traits of someone you are interested in and ask yourself how similar or complementary they are to your own. Yes, it's that simple. When you doubt how the traits will reveal themselves in the context of your life, analyze your past relationships. Did any of your ex's have certain traits that drove you nuts? I know I've developed a list of specific traits in other people I call "Hell Traits!" I'll share them with you later in the book. Your list may be completely different. So get out those old love letters and analyze those past mistakes for a roadway to a better tomorrow!

Excerpt from his book : "Handwriting Analysis for Love, Sex, and Relationships"
Used with Permission