II. Women are Different Pretend you’re on a street corner, about to cross. Just before the light changes, a strikingly pretty young woman appears beside you. You smile and say, “Hi, I’m Bob. Let’s have sex!” Odds are, that approach won’t work. Neither, likely, will removing your clothes and parading what you’ve got. And no, suddenly pawing her won’t get you anywhere either, except possibly the nearest police station. The thing is, were a pretty woman to approach you and do any of the things above, would you not, at the least, be tempted to have a sudden fling? If she were sincere, wouldn’t there be a fair possibility that you and she would soon adjourn to the nearest motel? Obviously, men and women are different. Different things turn them on. Different approaches engage their engines. Women typically want to wait before sex. Guys want sex NOW. Men often wonder why women seem so indirect and hesitant when it comes to sexuality. In a sense, they really aren’t so terribly hesitant— they’re eagerly waiting to respond to different signals than the ones men feel and usually send. Because women respond so easily to language, and because men don’t usually bother learning how to use language in the very particular (and to men, very bizarre) way that women need and use it, most women are left unsatisfied. They have a built-in, automatic, enormously responsive sexual system of which men rarely avail themselves. This sexual system has a key. It’s as if a man is constantly pounding, pounding, pounding at the side door of a woman’s home, thinking it’s the front door; and the woman waits, despondently, disappointedly, behind her front door, waiting and waiting for someone to ring the bell. Eventually, after she has a few drinks or gets really lonely, or if the guy pounding away is really handsome, rich, or sensitive, she might answer that side door (which is often locked and barred, and something of a hassle to get to), but there’s always the thought—Why doesn’t anyone just come in the right way? This section is about showing you the right way; this section is about giving you The Sexual Key.
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