VALENTINE IDEAS FOR COUPLES AND SINGLES
© Rinatta Paries

Whether you are in a relationship or single, rarely will Valentines day pass by without your notice. If you are single and even if you tell everyone the day has no significance, on Valentines day you will think about and want a relationship more than usual. If you are in a relationship where Valentines day is not celebrated, as it goes unnoticed by one or both partners it leaves hurt and resentment in it's wake.

Valentines day is a great opportunity to focus on love. Think of Valentines day as Focus on Love day, as opposed to Hurt About or Ignore Love day. Below you will find 10 ways to make your Focus on Love Day extraordinarily romantic, whether you are single or in a relationship.

The Perfect Day

Couples: Subtly question your lover about what they picture as the perfect valentines day - then create it for him or her.

Singles: If you had a partner, what would you have them do to create your perfect valentines day? Create it for yourself - love yourself that much.

The Perfect Card + One Perfect Rose

Couples: Buy or make a lovely card and then fill it to the brim with words of love, admiration and appreciation. When I say fill it to the brim, I mean leave no white space untouched. Present it with one perfect rose.

Singles: Buy or make a lovely card for yourself, and just as above, fill it to the brim with words you want to hear from your future lover. Seal the envelope, so that you can open it on Valentines day. Present it to yourself with one perfect rose.

Treat Valentines Day as the Lover's Day and not as Woman's Day

Couples: Ladies, I have it on good authority that guys want to be celebrated too. So, get him flowers and candy and cards, too.

Singles: Guys, give yourself that same wonderful valentines day as a relationship partner would give you. You may feel silly, but you will also feel good.

Say Goodbye to Obligation, Say Hello to Open Heart

Couples:: Don't give or do anything from obligation this valentines day. Give only from your heart, from love and treasuring your partner.

Singles: Don't beat yourself up for not having a partner yet. You have not failed. You are not bad. Valentines can be Focus on Love for Yourself day as well as Focus on Love for Another day.

The Gift of Undivided Attention

Couples: Give your partner the gift of undivided attention and see if she or he doesn't find that the most romantic thing going.

Singles: Give yourself the gift of your own undivided attention. Take away all of the distractions and be with yourself the way you would want your partner to be with you.

Gift of Communication I

Couples: Men, allow your woman to talk about whatever her heart desires, and listen with out fixing at all. Ladies, let your man talk or answer your question with out finishing his sentences for him, interrupting him, or moving on to the next topic. See if this doesn't make sparks fly.

Singles: Either find a person who will listen to you the way you need to be heard, or give yourself space and time to listen to your own thoughts and feelings.

Gift of Communication II

Couples: Ladies, give your man the gift of sitting down next to him in silence. No talking allowed. Men, give your lady the gift of talking and sharing from your heart. No closing down, walling of or running away allowed.

Singles: Either silence or open heart, give yourself which ever one you need.

A Gift with Interest

Couples: Is your partner into computers, and you don't know a mouse from a monitor? Or is she into gardening, but to you a rose is just a rose? Give your partner the gift of your interest in something that is important to him or her. Go ahead, ask him or her a question about it and see the smile light up his or her face.

Singles: Give yourself the gift of time to pursue your important interest. Take the time to do something that nourishes you and makes you happy.

The Trust

Couples: Ladies, give the man in your life the gift of trusting him to know how and when to take care of himself and you. Learn how to be subtle. Gentlemen, hold her trust sacred, and learn to listen for subtle requests.

Singles: Today trust your process and your fate. Today trust that you too will be loved and cherished.

A Shower of Words

Couples: Write your loved one a love letter or poem and read it to them on Valentines day. Here come the tears.

Singles: Write yourself a love letter or poem, exactly the way you would want it written by a lover. Read it to yourself out loud and have Kleenex ready.

Plan to have a happy Valentine's Day!