The media makes a big deal about virginity. There are religious sites dedicated to it (darn funny ones, if you ask us). It's even kind of trendy right now.

But that's bullshit.

Sex is nothing more and nothing less than sex. A hot, sweating, noisy, bonding of two human beings.

For a lot of people it's recreational. A way to blow off some steam. But for some people it's such an intimate experience that a bad one can scar them for life.
Wake up (Don't just hit Snooze.)

"Saving" your virginity for that special someone is a pipe-dream. No one will ever live up to your knight in shining armor fantasy. You'll only be disappointed and old. But saving your virginity because you are extremely particular about who you interact with isn't a bad idea. For some people.

If you are very empathetic, emotional or cry easily, you might not want to jump into bed with someone who's out for a good time (ie--all men.) So take your time about finding the right person. (But don't get all sanctimonious about your virginity. It's not some "gift" you bestow on someone. Don't blow its importance out of proportion. It's a big moment, yes, but it's not the fucking Second Coming.)

We don't advocate losing your virginity just to get out of The Virgin Club. But, thanks to religion and the media, young people tend to place unrealistic expectations on finally having sex.
It's not that big a deal.

In fact, it's only as big a deal as you make it. If you think it's a huge event, it will be in your mind. And the longer you wait, the more of a big deal it becomes.

This is not to say you should lose it ASAP. To be honest, we don't think people should have sex until they're at least 18.

Why? Because they can't handle the consequences. If they get pregnant or a sexually transmitted disease, they aren't emotionally or financially equipped to deal with it. Seriously, they're not.

Just relax, you'll have plenty of time to screw as an adult.

FOR GIRLS: If some guy pressures you to have sex with him (and trust us, it's only a matter of time before one does), just stick your hands down his pants and give him a handjob. He'll shut up for awhile.