Hello everyone! First let me welcome everyone to this part of the world-wide-web. I am so very sorry that you have to visit this site. As some of you know I am the perinatal bereavement couns. for Meadows Regional Medical Center, Vidalia Georgia. I have done this since the loss of my last baby due to stillbirth @ 8 months in utero. As I laid in the hospital bed for both of my stillbirth deliveries, not once did I have any type of volunter or couns. to come into my room and say, "hey I know what you are going through!" No one came and said those simple words to me...and now I do that for you. I am not employeed at the hospital, nor do I receive any type of funds from them. I am in the process of getting funds and items from the hospital, but none at the moment. I compile all of the packetts that I give out to family members and I am always here, when-ever you need me. I wanted to make this page as a place for you to visit and to get poems, articles, etc. The grief that you are experiencing right now is the most difficult and lonely grief possible. You may find now that you have lost your baby that even your best-friend is really no longer your best friend. During this time, people say things to comfort you, not knowing that some of the words they are saying-really cut deep.
Some people, even families and spouse's will stay away from you because they are scared they will break down and in turn you will do the same. As my motto goes, "don't hold the tears back to be strong for me, to me you are stronger if you will cry and let me know that you loved my baby as I did." It makes since to those of us who has lost or child, but to those that have never experienced it-they think they can protect you. It is all innocent behavior on their part, because they know no different. I have had several questions about becoming a PNBC, but the main one is- 'did you go to school and get certified?' Let me be blunt with you and I also would like feed back, would you rather me be book smart or know what it is all like? I have experience in the loss of my two precious babies, and if that is not certificate enough-I have no idea what is. I will always be here for you to assist you and hold your hand through the lonely road you are headed down, I am only a phone call or an email away, please don't hessitate to call on me.
Your Friend,
Melissa Ward Finnerty
303 Currie Street
Vidalia, GA.30474 |
