Subs Control vs Topping from the Bottom

There is a very thin line between subs who control a relationship and topping from the bottom...It is true that a sub/slave has "power" in arelationship..however it is equal power to the dominant although from a different perspective to make the union into One. A Dominant only has as much power as the sub/slave will allow him to have...on the other hand...a sub/slave will give up herself the ammount the dominant accepts to control. It is a mutual agreement..not only does the sub/slave choose who they will give themsleves over to..but the Dominant has to accept this responsibility, "gift", as well.

One problem though is a very serious thing that occurs in a relationship..and that is the simple fact of "love"..yes that four letter word which means so much yet blinds a soul completely.....many times a Masters love for a sub/slave is so strong..that they may not realize that the sub slave is totally taking advantage of the situation and "top from the bottom"...does that mean that the Master is not dominant?..Of course not it just means he allowed his/her emotions to get in the way of knowing in that particular situation wich his/her sub/slave. ON the other hand..a sub/slave's love may be so strong that they themselves dont realise to that they could be topping from the bottom. By believing in themselves a false sense of submission that they are truly submitting, and endlessly repeating to themselves that they are submitting...they will begin to believe it rather then actually doing the submission.

If one can look at a relationship from the outside..and truly reflect on the actions that each side takes...her question is..once they come to terms with what each individual has been doing can it be fixed..In other words..for sub/slaves who do top from the bottom...and know they are doing so..is there a way to "fix" that situation..or has the damage been done...for the sub/slave who does top from the bottom..is doing so on a force of habbit..and conditioned..that they can get away with it...Is it not true..that not only the sub/slave would have to change..but also the Master as well?

As for the issue of power..it is an equal power exchanging relationship...the Dominant has the power to control, care, and set the guidelines for a relationship..however..he can only do that..if the sub gives him the power to do so....the sub/slave on the other hand..has the power to set limits..although it is the Dominants duty to extend them...but even if one is a sub or slave..EVERYONE has limits..even a doormat slave who "yes Master's" to death..they have their own limits as well..whether they could admit it or not.

so who has the power...BOTH DO....just it is different forms of power...almost like both sides to a coin..

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