| Beethoven asks: ? Sherry listens Lavicka says: if you or someone/something gets blamed for every little thing that makes your partner upset, there is something wrong. Lavicka says: nobody is THAT bad. Lavicka says: nobody can 'make' someone do something negative against their will. Lavicka says: take responsibility for your actions and ONLY your actions. Lavicka says: also, don't let someone make you feel guilty for your thoughts, opinions or actions. they are yours to have and state freely. Shadowman asks: is this BDSM or Taliban? Lavicka says: guilt plays a big part in abusive relationships and is sometimes hard to catch. Lavicka says: if you constantly feel guilty for your thoughts and needs, then you may want to take a look at what is making you feel that way. Lavicka grins at Shadowman Lavicka asks: yes, beethoven? Shadowman says: sorry... Beethoven asks: Isnt Gorean lifestyle like the beforementioned? Lavicka says: it can be... Beethoven nods Lavicka says: the important thing to remember when it comes to gor is its roleplay... very important Beethoven says: Ohh ok. Lavicka says: as a roleplay relationship, we will assume that those who are involved in gor are working from a consensual base... theyve worked that out already Lavicka asks: does that answer your question? Lavicka doesnt know that much about gor... and you probably wouldnt like my answers on what i do know :) Beethoven says: Thats ok Lavicka says: ok :) Beethoven says: I dont know much either Lavicka says: next question: Beethoven says: bout Gor Lavicka asks: do you lie or leave out important information to protect your partner? Lavicka asks: can you be honest with those involved in bdsm about marks left on your by your partner? Lavicka exclaims: now thats a biggie! Beethoven says: ooh Beethoven says: hmmm Lavicka says: if you cant even discuss your bumps and bruises with those INVOLVED with bdsm, then that should be a big warning sign right there. Lavicka says: if you find yourself covering up for marks you have, making excuses for your partner, or hiding things from loved ones, you may have a problem. Lavicka says: its very common for abuse victims to hide things or lie to others in their life to 'protect' their abuser or 'make it easier' on themselves. Lavicka says: the fact is you should never have to lie to anyone about someone to 'protect' them. |
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