jealousy2

Lavicka says: remembering were talking about real life tonight... do you think theres a reason to be jealous, ever, if your S.O. is talking with someone? even if you have a so called open relationship?

smaid says: i agree

Rebecca says: Either someone will be faithful, truthful, etc. or they won't.

Prophet nods and agrees

Rebecca says: If I can't trust someone, they are not worth my time.

Crimson says: Bingo

mouse says: the more you hold onto someone the more you push them away.

Lavicka asks: ok.. so its wasted... but we know people still go through it... how do we make them understand their feelings arent justified?

Rebecca says: Jealousy also says to me the person is insecure.

Rebecca says: and for me, it is the fastest way for me to give someone their walking papers.

xaveria says: okay... but there are different types of jealousy

mouse says: Let them work through it.

Crimson nods vigorously

Lavicka says to mouse: so youre saying its all their problem?

xaveria says: when you're younger... you might be jealous of someone who is able to get dates, etc easily

Lavicka asks: even though this is someone you have a relationship with, they should deal with it themselves?

Rebecca says: Age has nothing to do with it.

mouse says: Nope, I'm saying give the person a chance to work through it themselves before you tell them it's unjustified.

Lavicka gets the feeling shes in a room full of people who have neverdealt with their own jealousy

Lavicka says: interesting.. i hadnt expected this

Crimson says: Oh, I can be jealous

Prophet doesn't have time to be jealous

Crimson says: I hate it when I do

Lavicka asks: and what do you do tho change it, crimson?

Crimson says: It's morelikely to happen when I don't really *have* a relationship to the person ... ie, I'm not secure

Crimson says: I have to remind myself that I cant control how another person feels

Lavicka asks: so what youre saying is once you have established a relationship with a person, you can relax and just let them be... theyve already chosen you so you dont have any worries?

Redrose says: no you can't but you can help them through it

Crimson says: Yep

Lavicka says to Crimson: but youre married.. youve been chosen... does that mean you dont have to worry about ever being jealous again?

xaveria says: but you are assuming that it is a good relationship...

Crimson says:At least they've chosen to share some part of themselves...

xaveria says: and that the other person is also committed to it

xaveria says: let me ask this... there are some doms who have more than 1 sub...

Rebecca says: I'm saying that if I'm not worthy of trust and I can't trust the other person, Lavicka, that I'm not willing to spend time in that situation.