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girls look for in a guy? I am only 19 and have not had an extreme
amount of experience with dating, being a girl, and also living with 7 other
girls for nine months out of the year while I am attending college, I figured
I may be of some assistance.
I stumbled on to your website today while trying to pass the time at
work. (I am home from school for the summer and am working as a receptionist
at my father's office...it's extrememly boring!!)
Anyway, in response to your question I would like to tell you a true
story:
Well, my current boyfriend, jason, seems a lot like you. He is a nice
guy that couldn't seem to catch a break. Jason had shown interest in me
for the first time about 3 years ago. (We have been dating for a little
over a year now.) At the time he was the best friend of my best friend's
brother. We are all about the same age so we usually hung out together. (this
was back in my junior year of high school, so the "hanging out" usually
consisted of things like playing basketball, or going to the mall.)
Anyway, I developed a thing for my best friends brother.(he has a really
strange name, so, for all intensive purposes, his name is Mike.) So, Mike and I
would hang out a lot, this hurt Jason's feelings because he liked me
and also because Mike was not a "nice guy" like jason was. But, no matter
how hard jason tried, I stayed with Mike. Well, this went on for the
remainder of junior year and some of senior year. Around May, My feelings for
Mike started to change because I found myself falling in love with Jason.
Now, this is where your question comes into play. Why did I fall for
Jason, the "nice guy"? Well, I think it had a lot to do with my mom.
She did not like Mike because he was rude and he treated me poorly. She
did however like Jason. He had a job, he was responsible and polite, he
had some very adorable dimples, and he always treated me like a princess.
What more could I ask for?! So, after being in an unrewarding relationship,
and the approval by my mom, I began to see jason in a new light. Finally
around march we were seeing each other every day and by April, we were
dating. And the rest, as they say, is history.
However, I don't think I've helped you very much because it sounds to
me like you've already tried the nice guy thing. Well, my advice...and
this is kind of what happened with Jason and I...ignore her a little. Now,
I know this doesn't sound like a very good strategy, but just listen:
Jason had expressed interest in me, but I said that I just wanted to be
friends. So, we were friends, he provided the emotional support that Mike
lacked...and as long as he was always there to give me the emotional
support I needed, I didn't need him to be anything more. He always
wanted to know why I didn't like him and when, if ever I would come around. I
didn't want to lose the attention that I got from him, so I always told
hime to wait and be patient, because things change, and so people.
However, in May, he started doing a lot of extra things...and didn't
have as much time to spend with me. When he was suddenly gone I realized
that I missed him a lot more than I thought I would. Then is when I realized
that I could loose him. If I made him wait too long, he was going to leave
and I would be either stuck with Mike, or alone. That's when I realized
that for two and a half years, I had been falling in love with him. Well,
we were dating soon after that and we plan on getting married after college.
Well, I hope that helped you out a little...I'm sorry if I totally
wasted
your time!! Good Luck with the Ladies!!!
~~Amy