We all live busy lives. With tight schedules. So much to do, and so little time to do it all in.

There are important people we are responsible to: our spouse, children, relatives, church friends, employers, employees, and most of all, The LORD.

Our spouse. . .

Along those lines, we do love our spouses. That is why we got married to them in the first place, of course.

But as we continue on, sexual stimuli of life around us within our polluted hectic environment silently or otherwise invites and entices us to - shall we say - crave more, expand and share our sexual attention and resources either directly with what intentionally or accidently aroused us, or instead indirectly from who diverts us to similar substitutions apart from but related to what deliberately or nondeliberately tantalized us.

In the case of a typical man, some of those titillating entities are benign, like the sight of the lovely face and slenderly-shaped body of an athletically-lively and erotically-eager modestly-dressed teenaged or slightly-older young woman......in stark contrast to our aging, wrinkling, sagging, fattening and flabby, menopause-sterile, been-there/done-that disinterested and busy-with-other-things spouse.

Some, however, are not benign nor harmless - as for example the especially-during-summertime relentless and sexually-harassing imposition of not only loose-long-haired mopheadedness of a number of women, but the inferior-gender weaker sex carelessly or mindlessly exhibiting nonsolicited sleevesless naked arms, non-asked-for slacksless nude legs, and non-requested socksless bare feet under sandals. Such life-sized, in-motion, three-dimensional partial pornography incites the search for logical fulfilment and completion of total exposure of everything else and body parts yet hidden, whether that leads to dignified gawking within a nude bar, keyword pornsite searches on the internet, or whatever.....culminating in mental or physical sexual intercourse of various types, such as striptease-to-total-nakedness nude dancing of attractive and shapely young women, digicam nude photography, quickie penis licking and sucking fellatio, or as-covert-as-possible, well-excused, overnite, mutually-nude-together-in-bed sleep-ins with a compliant legal-age female teen accomodating to prompt but secret erotic gratification questionably termed "love" not lust and not even momentary "romance."

However, our tight schedules with pressing appointments keep us from hasty impulsive moves not thought through as to far-reaching extensive consequences of temporary immorality. Accompanying such are fearful thoughts of blackmail exposure and reputational damage, acquiring venereal diseases of all types, jealousy-based public-identification aggression and assault, motel monetary expenses, and.....Hell hereafter if God deems our actions "immorality."

Moreover, we want to give our spouses the best we have, the cream of the crop, the first fruits of our sexual reserves and capacities. Exhausted and drained limpid flaccidity as leftovers is for any alternate young woman or women in our personal sex lives. And, we expect our spouses to give us the same highest-quality sexual interest, energy, stamina, strength, and affection.

Such a noble attitude is congruent with Scripture. Malachi 2:13-16 reminds us to not be faithless to the covenanted wife of our youth. Saint Paul in First Corinthians chapter 7 goes on to say that neither spouse should [sexually] defraud the other of the [erotic] affection due them. Both Malachi and Paul condemn divorce, of course, as does the Spirit of Christ who inspired both Biblical authors.

In view of patriarchal polygamy of the Old Testament which God never actually condemned, and the admonition of Saint Paul to exclude merely bishops and deacons from having more than one wife, the possibility exists of establishing a permanent common-law marriage with a secondary woman with whom the husband of such can occasionally enjoy imaginative sexual actions in the temporary and relative privacy of motel rooms.

Before seeking, asking, being agreed to, evaluating, covenanting with, and engaging in sensuous activities with the concubine of one's choice, a man must first make sure about several things pertaining to her, such as her genuine singleness with no boyfriend, fiance, or husband belonging to her.....that she is a KJV/RSV/etc. Bible-reading Christian.....and other things.

The very real possibility of child production as a result of one-thing-leads-to-another cannot-stop-now coital connections must be considered, along with realistic plans of where to birth the child, nurture, and care for that child in accord with all the Scriptural duties of responsible fatherhood.

For most men, the downside of what all is involved far outweighs the upside, and so they continue on irritated and frustrated with non-satisfying circumstance-based abstinence.

Of no help is the thought of monastery monks eternally deprived of sexual intimacies with convent nuns equally deprived. In their cases, the sex-is-dirty immentality of ecclesiastical prudes demanding and enforcing sadistic and demented "saintly self-control" and "marriage to the Church of Jesus (or Jesus Himself) only" takes precedence over God-thru-Paul's command for bishops and deacons to [at least] be "the husband of one wife" (see Timothy and Titus in the New Testament).

There is hope, and light at the end of the tunnel. Those who continue in the Word of God, and authentically apply such in detail in their public and private lives, will find ways to circumvent self-righteous anti-secondary-marriage deviates and heretics, and thankfully accomplish the as-much-as-they-can-handle sexually-fulfilled lives God intended for them.