| This website was begun because I was at one time a mother who did
not have custody of her child. During that time I suddenly found myself
subject to terrible accusations, name calling, and disdain. All of a sudden
I was in a very small minority. A mother without custody of her precious
child. It didn't matter that I had agonized over the decision for days,
or that I came became suicidal and highly depressed due to the pain of
not having my daughter with me. That I took up smoking rather than become
an alcoholic as I knew that would hurt my daughter even more. Or even that
I had lost everything dear to me...my marriage, my family, my friends,
my home, and, mainly, my only child. Thankfully she was the reason my thoughts
of suicide went no further than my mind. After a year I finally began to
see light at the end of the tunnel, and my depression improved.
After three years without my child, I noticed non-custodial mothers were rarely mentioned in the media, so I wrote to "That's Life" magazine. They ran my story, and a flood of similar stories flooded in. I had felt my daughter, Zoë, was getting to the age where she really needed me - she was approaching teenagehood. But the issue of custody never had time to develop as her father, Doug, was diagnosed with brain tumours and died shortly after Easter 1999. So now I'm a single mum, and it's much easier to explain my situation to people. But sometimes I still run across people who judge quickly based on fear and misconceptions. As a result of a recent verbal attack I didn't want others to feel as alone. So here we are. |
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