| I was married at age 26 and had a 9 year old son from a previous
relationship . 3 months before my wedding I became pregnant and new
years eve 1991 I had a beautiful baby boy. After about 3 years of
my marriage things began to change. Nothing I did was good enough,
my older son was put down verbally and punished by being beat with a belt
so hard he urinated himself. I had emergency surgery and was 85 pounds
from the stress of my life. I left... Walked out with one child
and not the other .... the biggest mistake of my life.
My ex-husband was arrested soon after my departure for 13 counts of child
molestation on 11 minor girls where he worked ( he was a counsellor) .
Since then and back and forth to court he still has primary custody of
my now 8 year old son (being that he's a boy, the courts think he's not
at risk) My ex- husband recently remarried, since the woman he married
has a daughter my ex husband has been ordered to move out of her house
until the outcome of the criminal matter is satisfied. BUT MY SON
CAN STAY!
So now the step mom is the primary caregiver, and I the biological mother have visitation every weekend. What is wrong with our courts. I am not unfit , I am capable of taking care of my children. The only assumption I can come to is that the Judge is punishing me for leaving an abusive husband. My visitation is a constant battle, overtime I pick up my son I have to deal with the verbal abuse of my ex husband. I call my son 2 to 3 times a week . If he's at the step mom's house it's OK. If he's at grandma's with Dad, then Dad listens to the phone call, and calls me after I hang up to tell me what I should and should not say to my son ( I simply ask him what he did in the week, nothing out of the ordinary) . I am hoping one day it will all change.. both of my sons are suffering , they cannot be together like normal brothers can, my younger son can't understand why he can't live with his mother or father. If I have one piece of advise to give .... Never , Never under any circumstances walk out without your kids !!!! A mom waiting for justice !! UPDATE 2 - Ex found Guilty **NEW ** UPDATE 3 - Kim is sueing for custody **NEW ** |
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