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Tools For Growth Singled Out!	What Went Wrong? Soulful thoughts by Abigail Canton " See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is. And do not be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit." - Ephesians 5: 15-18 NKJV "What went WRONG?!!!?"... a resounding inquiry I constantly hear from my friends who pour out their relationship problems. " It started out so well," " we were doing just fine!", they would declare in between sobs. I would give them a comforting hug or a pat on the back with thoughts running speedily in my head. I too had my own share of experiences which ended in statements similar to Side-A's famous song: " Tell me where did I go wrong?" It struck me as odd when the past few weeks the Lord has been counseling me about nothing but relationship issues. All of a sudden, this column has suddenly turned into a " Dear Abby" section with heart matters here and there. (Sidenote: Yikes! 'Abby' is the last name I want to be called.) Initially, I couldn't put the pieces together. Then just like a bulb that suddenly lights up, it all made sense. The Lord wanted me to be honest in all that I do, even in my writing. This all started up innocently (my writing career) back to the days when I was a professional bum. Thus, the title "Bummed Out". I would write about things that the Lord would reveal to me weekly. However, a couple of issues later and a million of realizations after, it seems like I've finally shed off my past identity and accepted a new one... and that is being SingleD Out! ( get what i mean? hehe.) So, folks from this point on, a new title of the column will be utilized until God knows when. Anyhow, back to the scenario where I lent my shoulder till day break to my heartbroken friends, I really took to heart their question. Indeed, what did go wrong? Hmmm.. somehow, they all had some commonalities I just couldn't ignore. They were too caught up in fulfulling their roles as "girlfriend-boyfriend", that they totally forgot on how to be just a friend. It came to a point where the simplest of things turned out into big debatable issues between their partners. They started to act clingy and self-absorbed, whining on how the other person just doesn't understand. Sounds family? (hehe. i just had to use that line for further emphasis) As I was contemplating on these things, a foolish smile was suddenly evident on my face as I remembered how I acted the same way in my past relationships. What went wrong? Simply this: We stopped looking for ways to please the other person, but instead embarked on a journey of self-gratification. " I have to go first!", was the unsaid motto in most of my heartbroken friends, including yours truly. As I look back on those times where I would listen to unending sniffs and sobs and to those nights where I cried myself to sleep, it's just now that I've realized why the Lord really allowed me to experience such things. He perfectly gave me the opportunity to relate to other people, whether it be a boyfriend or just a close friend. That way, I will learn how to deal with relationships in this world, and ultimately apply it in my relationship with Him. Brilliant, wouldn't you say?! :) I have discovered, that just like a special someone, Jesus definitely wants to be sought after and attended to. For we are rightfully called the bride of Christ and He our bridegroom. (John 3:29) There are so many endearing qualities I've ascertained about my bridegroom. And that makes it all the more comforting to know that you're married to the perfect groom there is. Yes friends, I encourage you to know more about your God. Find out the traits He has and how he deals with various situations. I tell you, you will never fail to be surprised and you will know exactly what pisses Him off and what pleases Him. That way you won't ever have to utter the overused line I started this article with... :) The Lord says, " The wise should not boast of their wisdom, nor the strong of their strength, nor the rich of their wealth. If any want to boast, they should boast that they know and understand me, because my love is constant and I do what is just and right. These are the things that please me. I, the Lord, have spoken. - Jeremiah 9: 23-24 Be proud of the right things!