hmm,funnny how things come out at unusual moments.  Was writing a friend of mine, talking about long distance romances, specifically the kind that start on the internet and then one party moves accross country... which I think is the most rediculous thing, but I know some people do it and I wish them well with it... so anyway... she says she would "go anywhere for love"  so I replied with....

well,I sure wouldn't, nor would I want anyone to do that for me.  I guess that's a part of my baggage.  The first wife and I moved away from our families, but then when the divorce settled she used the distance as a wedge and moved back.  By that time I was already  involved with someone else as was less likely to leave, and in court she said it would be better for the kids to have the extended family support system (which of course she never used, in fact we are still fighting over that to this day).  So now here I am years later with another son, and I guess I kinda feel 'trapped' by distance,  I would love to be much closer to my family.... here I am this week with   back home for the holiday,  I know we will have to leave at the end of the week.  I hate it... would just rather be with my  family all the time.   Which isn't to say that I am unhappy where I live.  I guess it just goes back to the impression on  "love" .   Love is so much easier when you have a support system, people around you who want to help see you suceed.  That is kind of the Ironic thing about marriage #1, I honestly felt and still feel like her family never wanted it to succeed and did what they could to well, nuff said,you get the idea.  That (to me) was why we moved away in the first place, of course hindsight is 20/20 and at the time I may have said other things, but that is not what I am talking about now anyway... the point,and I do have one, I hate being so far away from my family now, even though I am pretty happy with my life... I would hate to be a reason why someone else gave up their family and moved X,ooo,000 miles away and had to go  through this.  I guess that is why distance to me is such an issue...why I don't search for someone more then 25 miles away, and why I don't really answer long distance emails.  

Like she said, we all have our own experiences that thoughts on the issue.  That is mine.   

well, here it wednesday, my family is having our Thanksgiving dinner today...that's what happens when you have multiple families bidding on your time. (another thing I like about being single..no inlaws).  Had the usual BS trying to get the kids....  No matter, I am just happy to be here and see everyone, spent the night at my brothers last night and will go back to mom and dad's today. 

Ya'll have a great holiday .....we'll talk again

wow,a whole post and I didn't even mention ... umm  you know who.