This story is based on a true event concerning a woman
receiving end-of-life care at an assisted living facility. I saw with
my mind's eye a picture of the woman and an angel having tea. The
story came out in a single chunk, written in about thirty minutes.
The angel enjoyed dressing up for tea.
Her roommate helped her button up the back of her white, linen
dress, and she piled her long, curly, golden hair up on top of
her head and held it with pins. She smoothed her long, white
skirts and arranged them. Compared to her usual light,
rumpled, comfortable clothes, something about the heavy, crisp
fabric made her feel prim and special. Before she began having
this regular tea, she had never wanted to dress up for
anything, but now she could see why some people enjoyed it.
The only thing missing was the high, uncomfortable shoes with
long heels that buttoned up the side all the way above her
knees; she never wore those. The long, flowing skirts covered
her feet, so she did not worry too much about that small
breach in costume. She left her room, and passed by many
people who noticed her with smiles and compliments along the
long colonnade of strong white marble along the front of her
building, and the open sward that led to the outlying, private
bungalow where she was going.
An open, airy sitting room with a window
overlooking a wildflower garden had been reserved for tea with
her visitor. A warm, bright sunlight flooded the room’s
cheerfully light blue walls and removed all traces of shadows.
Deep blue wingback chairs with soft velvet upholstery and
comfortably worn wooden arms had a table between them. She
liked the feel of the deep pile of the dark green carpet on
her toes. The room was a perfect place to spend the afternoon.
The angel went over and opened the window, letting a fresh
breeze waft into the room.
The angel was punctilious by nature, and
enjoyed setting out the tea service. She went into the small
kitchenette and brought some water to boil, and selected a
flavor of tea she hoped would delight her visitor. She
carefully arranged some finger foods on a small plate. She did
not exactly have to eat, but it was fun to nibble as they
talked. The kettle whistled, and she got the tray ready. Two
pure white china teacups, on two saucers, with all of the
accoutrements necessary for enjoying tea. All the preparation
was just in time, for the door to the sunny room opened.
Her visitor had arrived, a human being of
indeterminate but advanced years. As the angel had been told,
the woman was weary down on earth, and just needed some
relaxation and refreshment occasionally. Since the woman did
not get around as well as she used to on earth, the general
consensus was that she might as well have some relaxation
here, and begin the slow transition she was about to make.
“It’s so good to see you, dear.”
The woman came over and warmly hugged the angel, and then
patted her cheek. That always caused the angel to smile. The
woman was much shorter, even in her patent leather pumps, than
the barefoot but tall angel, and seemed somewhat frail. Yet
she was immaculate in her dark brown wool suit, with a white
linen [read: silk] blouse held closed at the throat by a porcelain cameo.
Her short white hair was neatly curled. The angel wistfully
wondered what being old felt like. Surely, being frail and
needing to rest frequently would not be enjoyable, certainly
not for someone as active and energetic as the angel, but age
bestowed a certain dignity and depth that could be attained in
no other way. The angel realized this was something she could
never experience for herself.
“You too,” the angel said with a
musical smile in her voice. She helped the woman to one of the
chairs, and poured her a cup of tea. After that, the angel
poured her own, and sat down, carefully arranging her skirts
with one hand while holding the tea with another. She paid
much attention to her movements, not wanting to spill tea on
her beautiful white dress. She took a sip of the beverage,
enjoying the warm, spicy flavor.
The woman looked over at her and smiled.
“You’re such a nice young lady,” she said. “Well
dressed. You should see how most kids dress these days.” The
angel hid a smile behind her tea cup, glad the woman wasn’t
aware of the angel’s normal habit. The high neck of the
dress made her itch, but she supposed that was part of the fun
of dressing up.
They conversed about nothing in
particular for a few minutes, remarking on the garden and the
fine weather of the day. The garden buzzed with life outside
of the open window. Bees industriously harvested pollen from
the flowers, and two squirrels cavorted rambunctiously on the
ground. A goldfinch flew down and tried to perch on a tall
flower, causing both the flower and the bird to list
alarmingly, the bobbing almost capsizing them both.
“How are you getting along?” the
angel asked, after the woman had sampled the tea and found it
to her liking.
The woman slowly added a dab of honey to
her tea, using a tiny silver spoon that made a musical noise
when it touched the china. She stirred the honey into the tea.
Then, she said, “Somehow, it seems wrong to burden you with
my problems, here. Everything is so peaceful.” She looked
down into the cup in her hands, not drinking.
“I want to listen,” the angel said
softly. “It’s no burden.”
“That place, you know, where I am, I
suppose they do the best they can, but I don’t think they
take care of me very well. Everyone rushes around all the
time, but no one ever does anything. Hard to understand. I
miss my old house. The place just isn’t the same. I don’t
have any of my old, familiar things, and don’t have anything
to do.” The woman stared out into the garden, watching a
butterfly sample draughts of nectar from a variety of flowers.
Her voice was low, but her face was not tense as she viewed
that scene. In fact, here in this room, the weathered lines on
her face relaxed and she looked much younger.
The angel injected a cheerful note into
her voice. “At least you can come here.” She waved her
free hand, careful not to slosh the tea, indicating the room
and the garden.
The woman did not return the cheerful
tone, and in fact darkened. “Yes. That’s true. It’s such
a relief to come here and talk to you. But, I must be doing
worse than I realized. Do you remember my son?”
“Yes,” the angel said with a certain
forced cheerfulness. He was her son, and that counted for
something. At the same time, a chill went up the angel’s
back when she remembered the last visit by the woman, and her
description of her little, growing boy that caused her to gush
with pride, only to reduce her to sadness a few minutes later
when she talked about the grown man. This angel had never been
the kind to be drawn to flaming swords, but on that occasion
she wished she had one to grip in her hands. She tried to
focus on the little boy taking his first steps, not the grown
man taking his last.
“I had not seen him in many years, like
I told you.” A pause, for a long drink of tea. “Do you
know what power of attorney is, young lady?”
“That means someone else can manage
your affairs,” the angel said, remembering the information
they had given her before she began these visits. Not
something she had ever had any direct experience with, true,
but she understood the concept intellectually.
“I let my son have it, before he put me
in the place. Now, he is trying to use that power and say I am
incompetent to manage my own affairs. He thinks I am too
addled to manage my money.” The deep frown caused the age to
show on the woman’s face.
The angel selected the words in her reply
carefully, because she did not want to say something bad about
the woman’s son to her face. “He is not using the power as
he was meant to.” She wanted to say something much
different, but firmly bit down on her tongue with her teeth to
prevent anything further from coming out.
The woman looked around the room. “When
I’m here, everything is much clearer. I don’t think I’m
that addled. Not so that I can’t write a check, or do sums.
I even watch that new television channel that talks about
finances all the time, and it’s so funny how these young
people think they invented investments in their generation. I
survived the Great Depression, you know. We knew how to manage
our money back then. But no one listens to me.” She looked
directly at the angel, and asked: “Am I that addled? Tell me
the truth, now, young lady. Don’t spare an old woman’s
feelings.”
The angel felt a moisture in her eyes.
She told the truth. “No. You are not that addled.” The
angel almost would rather that have been a lie to cheer the
woman up, but it wasn’t. The truth. Normally, an angel like
her would never be told the intimate details of another
human’s life besides the one she ministered to, but in this
case they had told her, to get her ready for these visits, the
outline of how the son’s life had intersected with this
woman’s during her last, fading years. The angel knew,
factually, that the woman was not into her dotage, and not
suffering from dementia. Her only real change, mentally, was
that she was more cautious and thoughtful in almost
everything, and the angel could not see that as bad.
“I’m not?” The woman seemed
surprised that the angel would confirm her suspicions that she
was not as addled as they made her out to be. “Why does he
treat me this way?”
The angel had practiced and practiced not
wearing every emotion on her sleeve, something she had always
done, just to get ready for these visits. They’d told her
that there would be a few times when she would have to
maintain composure for the sake of her visitor. This was one
of those times. She was not going to start crying. “Your son
has much different priorities now, than he used to when you
raised him.” The angel thought it funny that she, of all
people, would be explaining human behavior to a human. What
did an angel know of sons who moved off to big cities and
began to live a life concerned with spending and acquiring?
How could she possibly tell this woman that her son had not
thought about his mother in thirty years other than as a
dollar amount he could get his hands on? “He sees things
differently now.” Once a little boy, sitting beside his
mother on the pew. Now a man, concerned with his stock broker
and the contractor enlarging his house.
“I don’t understand.” The woman
stared into the distance, looking lost and confused. Not about
money. “Why would he do that to me? I’m his mother. I love
him. I would have given him all the money he wanted. I just
wanted to see him more often.”
“It’s about time to go,” the angel
said gently, dabbing at the corner of her mouth with a napkin.
She knew her mouth wasn’t dirty, but wanted something to do.
There was nothing more to be said. Each visit for tea seemed
to be more painful than the last. Events had to run their
course, and all the angel could do was to be a friend and
listen, giving the woman the personal attention that no one on
earth would spare the time to give. The angel knew one thing
she could not tell the woman, that there would be two more of
these visits. She wondered if she would make it through two
more visits.
“Already? Doesn’t seem like we’ve
been here very long.” Nevertheless, the woman placed her tea
cup and saucer down onto the tray, and stood up.
The angel, too, stood. “You’ll be
able to stay, soon.” After two more visits.
“Longer, next time?” A hopeful look
came over the woman’s face. She smiled up at the angel, who
had moved beside her, with wet eyes.
The angel whispered: “Forever.” She
took the elbow of the woman and led her towards the door.
The woman patted her arm affectionately.
“That’s nice, dear. I rather like it here.” One last
hug, a promise to come back again, and the woman went off
through the door, back to the place, back to everything from
which she had just experienced a respite.
The angel stood and looked at the closed
door for a moment. She still had a napkin in her hand, and she
pressed it to her eyes as she went back through the room and
cleaned up after them. She couldn’t figure out what had made
her cry, whether it was the pathos of woman’s current
situation, or the happy thought that it would all be over
soon.
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