An intriguing title, you must admit.
A similar disclaimer applies here as to my politics page - the opinions and feelings expressed herein are far simpler than my actual feelings, which would take significantly more than 10000 characters to describe. If you have further questions, do ask. I'm always happy to get email. (Well, near enough always).
Okay, this is a topic to which my attention has been brought quite recently. Once my mind was on the subject, I realised that it's probable that less than half of the people I enjoy talking to are 'straight'.
For the attention-focussing, Alice could easily be blamed. For some quite interesting views on bisexuality, there are good links from her page, and from that of Maxi. I'd point to interesting pages about homosexuality from each side too, but none of my internet-capable friends apply that title to themselves. And for interesting pages about heterosexuality... Well... It depends what you mean by interesting. I'm sure you'd have no difficulty finding one sort, and quite a lot of difficulty finding real opinion sort of interesting stuff.
Okay, my opinions on sexuality in general... Skip ahead a few paragraphs if you're only here to check up on mine. (Or leave, possibly. Tsk, some people, not caring what I think...)
The attitude I find hardest to accept is that of the simple 'straight' person. "I just don't fancy people of my sex" is too much of a blanket statement for me. I really don't like blanket statements. I'm much more accepting of the mindframe of the heterosexual who has at least considered the possibility that they might not be, then rejected it. Even more sense, to me, in testing. I'm not advocating penetrative sex between same-gendered couples, mind, nor condemning it. Nor, indeed, any sort of sex. I'm writing of emotions and attractions.
Carefully avoiding comment on my own sexuality yet, I move on to speak of the homosexual. While some may think this is as close-minded as the heterosexual, to my mind it isn't. To have become homosexual, against society's pressures, it's quite obvious that either much though has gone into the decision, or (and I'm sure this isn't very common) it's a decision made just to 'get at' society or certain members thereof.
Bisexuality. To my mind the only true sexuality, as it's the only one that isn't, in itself, a declaration that might later turn out to be wrong. "I don't fancy men" is better replaced with "I haven't met a man I've fancied". The other choices that really fit in with the way I think are "Heterosexual as yet", "Homosexual as far as I know", and variants thereof.
Monogamy. Up until somewhere in late 1996, I've always considered monogamy to be the only sensible option. Jealousy and possessiveness, both in my mind and the minds of most other people, make that so. Since then I've been slowly becoming a far less jealous or possessive person. Which leads nicely into the subject of myself.
Physically and historically I'm heterosexual. Mentally, I'm sure, I must be bisexual, given my attitudes above. I rarely think a man attractive, and rarer still do I think one attractive to myself, but it's not unknown.
At time of writing, I did have a girlfriend. Her bisexuality is a large part of what lead me to consider the subject more deeply than I previously had. I realised something about myself, the day she apologised for, at a gathering of some sort, having kissed a friend of hers. Had it been a male friend I would have been upset, but because it was a female I didn't mind, and have said so to the point of no restrictions at all, on that front. (kissing and beyond, I mind not)
To me, at first glance, that seemed normal, then it seemed both sexist and unfair. But I also realise why I feel that way. Sexual activity with a male seems an insult (he's better than me?), but with a female it's more like a complement. (No, not a compliment, a complement - an addition to me, rather than a replacement.)
It's probably also because it makes more sense to me - after all, if I think the girl is more attractive than me (which I almost invariably do), why shouldn't she? (That said, I often think men are more attractive than me too...)
So, on the subject of polyamorosity, three that way is a perfectly acceptable concept to me, as is female - bisexual male - male. I feel that a three-person polyamour in which one party gets two the same, and the other two have to share that one, is slightly beneath acceptable. I'd draw a table by way of explanation, but I suspect it would have to be three-dimensional...
A summary of three-person relationships and my opinions thereof, then...
Any combination of gender and sexuality in a triangle form (all attracted to each other, so each have effectively two partners) seems good.
A linear form with a bisexual centrepiece, a homosexual at one end and a heterosexual at the other is alright.
Any other linear form, whereby the two end members have to share the middle one is unfair.
Slightly more attractive is the even polyamour. Four members for example, two of each sex, but presumably it could work equally well with six, eight, whatever. Heinlein, the author, seems to have an attraction for this sort of relationship. In many of his books there are four or six characters whose intimacies extend in most if not all possible directions. The form of even polyamorosity that strikes my mind in the most pleasant way (possibly just left over from my monogammed mind) is one in which the group is made up of couples who are the most suited pairings of the group. Every individual would have to find every other individual attractive (including same-gender, I think. Not necessarily _sexually_ attractive, mind). It sounds rather like partner-swapping, but the attraction between every member would make jealousy far less likely. And there is, of course, the other obvious difference from partner-swapping - the group needn't always be divided into couples.
I suspect I'd find most sorts of relationship entertaining, interesting, and probably pleasant as well. So, if you're anyone who I might find attractive (male, female, half-a-couple, segment-of-polyamour, whatever), feel free to email. Don't expect a positive reply, mind.
Ah, further points of interest, sadism and masochism... While both striking my mind as quite nasty concepts, I have noticed that the latter strikes my body rather differently. A particular fondness for the tooth and the claw is mine, both of which I'm more than happy to apply or have applied to me. My aptitude for causing pain is rather less than my liking for taking it. Some coercion is necessary to prevent me from restraining my sharper extremities. Much to my surprise, the concept of the whip has taken a more pleasant turning in my mind than it ever has before. This has yet to be verified, but for now, thanks, disbelief and wonderment must be directed to a certain Dr Pepper lover (who also has an astonishing aptitude with knots).
And if you're shocked or disgusted by this page... Well, you didn't have to read it. And how the heck did you get here anyway? I don't think any of my friends would have that reaction, nor people who'd follow any of the links here... Hey, email me or post on the guestbook or something. Tell me you're shocked. It's nice to have some reaction, regardless of what it is.
Sorry about this just being a big lump of text - but what do you expect, pictures?
(This is not a personal ad. It's not entirely serious, either. Pinch of salt, please.)
(And please note (in case someone I really like reads this), I'd be happy being monogamous with the right person, if that was their desire.)