Re: female self bondage (Re: Female Supremacy and Supremacists Author: Nicole Date: 1998/11/11 Forum: soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Philip the Foole wrote: : > > Obligatory sexual dimorphism-related BDSM: Any female self-bondage : > > enthusiasts out there? I admittedly haven't read every post on every : > > topic, but all of the self-bondagers I recall reading have been male. *pickmepickmepickme* There most certianly are avid female self bondage type people as this thread has indicated. I was/am one of them. Little Red-Haired Girl said: : > Um. I'm female and was a self-bondage enthusiast in my youth. I : > haven't done too much in the way of self-bondage since I've been old : > enough to have partners. :) felicity wrote: :Me too. : In fact, Philip's mention of youthful water play (in the 16 yr. old : thread) brought up fond memories of bathroom play from my early teen : years. The bathroom was the only place I could be for an extended period : of time without my parents wondering what the heck was going on. : "I was just *really* dirty, mom." Well, sort of. ::grin:: *grin* I remember there was a time in my life when I couldn't sleep properly at night unless I bound my feet together. Some sort of security blanket thing I guess. I've done such incredibly stupid things too. I look back, and I wonder where on earth my common sense went. I suppose that sometimes sexual release can be more important than anything, especially if there is no one you can talk to about this. I wasn't ashamed of my sexuality, but I wasn't flaunting it either. In my world, sex is a private thing that I only talk about with my partners (and 250 000 of my closest newsgroup friends !!! ), so if you don't have a partner, you don't tell anyone about it. *shrug* I used to bind my ankles together, first around the both of them, and then between them, making a sort of cloth handcuff. I'd then have a length of rope/sock/cloth that would attach to a set of toy handcuffs, the ones that come with stupid pick fluffy protectors (which of course I removed). I'd blindfold and gag myself, insert whatever stimulation was needed, and put my hands behind my back and lock myself in. When I wanted to release myself, I would reach around to the quick release switch on the handcuffs, and presto - I'd be out. As I got more confident and comfortable about doing this, I increased the strigency of my bondage. I'd add a home made lockable collar, and attach another rope/length of cloth to the bond ankles and secure them to the end of the bed. After a time, I'd also start attaching the collar to the head of the bed, the length of rope would get progressively shorter as I experimented more with breath err... restriction. *hothothothothot*. I never once had a safety backup and, with the exception of the handcuffs, all the material I used to bind myself was stuff you would find around the house anyway. I only had a scary experience once, when the safety release on the handcuffs stuck, and I started to panic. Writhing around not being able to breathe didn't help the situation much. *sigh* But it didn't stop me. My risk/benefit analysis always came down in favour of me doing it. Until I got a partner, and my now fiance made me promise I would never do anything stupid like that again. Every now and again I just want to tie myself up, when I'm alone, because then I can relax and enjoy it rather than be concerned about who else I'm pleasing. I find it peaceful. But had I had SSB or *anyone* as a resource, I don't think I would have gone as far as I did. I would have had enough information to change the risk/benefit analysis. I probably still would have done the self bondage, but taken more precautions. Nicole.