Meeting Turn Out

#1) MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS...(supporting) M2U: said that the privacy of any D/s relationship needed to be respected. The sub may be in training in some way shape or form, may also be being punished. In other words mind your own business. That's a trust issue between D/s. A submissive may have a Master that is friends with another Master, and it's understoood that pvt conversations aren't detrimental to either's honour... is simply a common sharing. DkTM: you will hear this theme over and over again... trust is the core of BDSM.. that coupled with communication between Master/Mistress and sub/slave.. these are the bedrock of D/s. FiRe: I'd like to mention something that Palinore said at this point...He said that if someone had told Him things, He might not have been hurt so in some of the things that transpired, there is no easy way to turn your head when you see things amiss in a relationship, ie. sub cheating on Master or vs. etc., time to use your best judgement and consider all avenues, debating them in careful deliberation with yourself before approaching the parties involved or a confident.

#2) The Dom/mes of the #BDSM_Dungeon agree that those slaves/submissives who are being troubled and ask for help should be entitled to Their (the Dom/mes) protection as long as those slaves/submissives are an honor to their Dom/mes collars. (supporting) Palinore: we can't protect everyone. We HOPE that those who are serious, who want to be serious... will see enough of the good intentions of our family that they will stay, and grow to trust us, and let us know them well enough to extend our protection to them.. we HOPE.. but it doesn't always happen. CLAUDIA: many subs take their collars off at a whim and do a nick change and fuck in the open room thinking no one knows it is them, those people don't deserve the protection of the Dominants of the room. M2U: U want to have 12,000 nicks - go to Fetish.. this is a dungeon, and we expect ppl not to be lying to us of their real nature.. and they need to be >>>>>banned, period! it can be a place of integrity.. and truth.. but it's only if the community stands up for it.. otherwise we end up with Masters led down devious trails... >>>>>FiRe: I have to agree with M2U and CLAUDIA, this room is filled with D/s who base their relationships on TRUST and INTEGRETY. If you're devious and dishonor your Masters collar, I don't want to protect you when you're in trouble, you don't deserve it. I'd like to let you know that when you change your nick we can see it now and the people in the dungeon don't just stay in the dungeon, they visit other rooms too and they see you changing your nick in there as well. ***The issue was raised of how if subs don't wear collars how can Masters/Mistresses protect their honour, if they don't know whether something will be out of line or not?*** Fire: It is the slaves/submissives responsibility to let interested Dom/mes know that they are exclusive if their Dom/me is not present to do so for them should they wear no collar that would normally distinguish that fact.

#3) A Dom/me should offer protection to a slave/submissive collared by Another Dom/me without invading His/Her domain. (supporting) FiRe: I've seen incidents in which Masters have asked other Masters, hey what if this was Your sub? How would You handle this guy messin with her? I've noted how M2U explains the importance of domain, incorporating the community portraying them as close knit, family oriented. I've witnessed TaskMaster and MasterPhillip defend Their submissives, Others slaves/submissives and uncollared slaves/submissives with ferver. I've seen Sandman comment on the submisive as a whole, all of this giving Me the view that a Dom/me should see EVERY slave/submissive as His/Her own...extending protection as necessary to those, being concerned that they receive the enlightenment they desire, striving to keep "home" a decent place that promotes growth in a nurturing environment for A/all, without stepping over the boundaries of family members.

#4) slaves/submissives are not incapable of handling their own issues, they should be given a chance to deal with problems on their own and aided if they request it. (supporting) FiRe: Submission is an act of personal strength. per TaskMaster in His part of the meeting...that says to Me that slaves/submissives are capable of handling issues, they are responsible enough to know when to ask for help. It's Our responsiblity as Dom/mes to make sure they know that it's ok for them to ask Us for help.