"Safety & Security within the Dungeon" ?

Dear A/all,

it has been noticed that recently certain undesirables have been coming into the Dungeon, either being violent or pretending to be Masters and having violent tendencies.

This is obviously a worrying trend in the light of the SlaveMaster problem, and this email is intended to address some of the safety and security issues for people within the Dungeon, and what we can ALL do, regardless of Dom/me/sub/switch/none of the above status.

[for those of you who do not know of the SlaveMaster problem.... a man was recently arrested in the US for the murder of five women.. women he met in cyber rooms such as this one, and who he later persuaded them to meet him in RL... and he did indeed hang out in this very room.]

if you are targeted by someone who is being violent towards you, there are a number of options you can take:

ONE:

You can hit the x in the top right hand corner. LEAVE. there is NOTHING making you stay here. this is just cyber after all.

However... Some of you may feel.. WHY should I have to leave my friends because of some SHIT who is harrassing me? Others may feel that hang on.. no this is NOT just cyber.. some subs can give their Masters a great deal of control over them.. as they are SO willing to serve, to please their Masters.. they may put their life in danger.. in the "safety" of their own homes, because of a Master that does not know what he is doing or is being deliberately vicious, KNOWING what he is doing.

TWO:

The Masters.. the REAL Masters in here.. are VERY concerned about this alarming development.. and they can.. and will help, if you call for help. Not just the Masters.. but a lot of good men who hang out in here who wouldn't classify themselves as Masters but who have a good sense of honour.. and can and will assist if necessary. It is rare that there isnt at least ONE in here.. CALL for help. PLEASE.

The Masters are commendably currently working together to share information on problem persons.. "wannabe Doms".. either to warn subs or to try to educate the "wannabe Doms"... or people who simply come in to be violent. IPs are being passed around, nicks are being shared... and so on.

Something ALL of us can do is to take newcomers who ask questions seriously. I know it's difficult sometimes when the room is moving fast.. but if they seem to be genuine seekers.. give them the information they need to be SAFE... and if they need information you do not have... try to find out who DOES have the info.. or direct them to one of the BDSM websites - there are a few on the links page of the Dungeon website.

Without sounding holier than thou... there are far too many who brush off newcomers.. we need to be more caring... to care about their safety.. it is a strange, frightening world many of them are wandering into.. where they do not have the experience to tell the diff between genuine BDSM and Masters/Mistresses and those who are absusive.. and we have ALL.. unfortunately... known someone who fell through the net.

Please.. if you are with a partner who won't accept no for an answer.. WALK AWAY. You ALWAYS have the right to say no, to call safeword.. to stop a scene that you are not happy with. Any REAL Dom/me will stop instantly and examine what you are unhappy with. If they insist you continue then they are NOT REAL DOM/MES and you should GET OUT. FAST. Go and seek help.. no one will laugh at you or make you feel like shit or say you are stupid.. just do it.. for your own safety.

If you know of a newcomer to the Dungeon or to BDSM that may NOT have received this email, please forward it to them. Alternatively you can direct them to either FiRe (aka FIREBITCH or DommeLisa) or Keth{r}y (aka Kethry or Keth), if they have not received this mail, if they have questions you cannot answer, or problems similar to what this mail entails.

Others not listed have and will offer to help.. is up to them to say who they are if they wish to do so.

You can also send them to the following links:

http://www.castlerealm.com
http://www.cuffs.com
http://informed.consent.co.uk

thank you for your time and attention..

regards,

Fire & LadyKethry