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Boyfriend's Mom Does not Like Her

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Can't Get Over a Wrestler

How To Go About Having an Affair

Best ways to strip

Scrotum signs of cheating? huh?

Love girlfriend, but not her friends

Kids watching grown up movies

Kids can be cruel

When do you touch the girl

Loss of virginity with a vibrator

Girlfriend maybe ashamed of chest size

Problem reaching orgasm during masturbation

Condoms...and Love

Cousin's Girlfriend's Cousin?? Huh?

Thickening pubic hair...and hairy thighs

If you are truly in love and want this to last, then you are gonna need to stop the sneaking around. Do you think that you can eventually just sneak off and get married to him and her not find out? Of course not. What you have to do is be the grown up in the situation and call her up or go to see her when he is not there, and tell her, straight up, that the rumors are not true and that you are a good kid. Tell her that you really like her son and understand why she is protective, but that you really believe that you love him and want her blessing. She will see how mature you are about it and bless you. You can't approach her in a bitchy or slutty way, or she will just think that of you even more. You must be mature and calm in your approach. Good luck, let us know how it goes.

Stan

I think that it is going to be hard to change her opinion, especially if the two of you are sneaking around behind her back. Being in a relationship where your mates family doesn't like you really leads to a lot of complications. Now, I don't know how old you are, but if you are a teen, I would suggest not pushing the subject and just waiting till he moves out to either a job or college. Then his parents have a little less say in who he sees. If you are older than that, and you love him and he love you then you need to tell your boyfriend to have a talk with his mother. If he really loves you and he sees her treating you badly and doesn't do anything about it then he is only adding to the problem himself. In general, if you are not an adult yet then give it time. If you are adults, then have him talk to her. She won't just change her mind for no reason.

Amy

Well, you need to stay away from her. If you are forced to see her through work, that is one thing, but you should keep it strictly professional. Physical attraction does not equal love on any level. You have to know someone and really be able to share your life with them for it to become love. If you are happy with your family life, then stick to that. You owe it to your wife and especially your children. Don't forget that she has a family too. You made a decision and a vow to your wife, and you also made a commitment to your children. Good luck, and move on with your life.

Stan

You should begin to act in the best interest of your family. You have a responsibility and that is to your wife and child. You shouldn't dump all that because you think you could have made a mistake. You marry out of love, but once you have children you have an obligation too. She also has a family. Think of all the people that you would be hurting if you pursued this. I think that you should do whatever in your power to distance yourself from this woman and to stay loyal to your family. Your kids should not have to suffer because you think you made a mistake all those years ago.

Amy

Hi, i'm 14, in NY. I know what love is, i've been through it, and it has hurt. However, it has never hurt like this. This time i've done it, i've gone and fallen for an older guy. Much older. and famous. Yes, I KNOW that some girls THINk they have fallen in love with a celebrity, but have not. Well, I KNOW I have, 'cause, truth is, i'd love him if he wasn't a star. He is like 26 or 27! I know I will never have him, I won't even come close. I know that this will leave a scar on my heart, forever. His name is Rodney Leinhardt, and I love him. It hurts so bad, please help me. Even if we could be friends i'd be happy, but I know, that too, is impossible. Well, thanks for listening.

Sounds to me like you already know that you will probably not even no this guy...you could have at least picked the champ couldn't ya? I think it's even more sad that I know who you are talking about. Anyway, I know you don't wanna hear this, but I'll say it anyway. You're not in love with him. I know, I know, it's different for you. But, love involves really knowing someone and how they are on the inside and what there deepest thoughts and feelings are. The person he plays on TV is a character. It's not really him. Love or serious crush, I know that it does hurt to come to grips that you will never have anything with him. But you will move on, you have to, and you'll find a wonderful, obtainable, person out there who will love you for you. By the way, try to enjoy life while you are young. Don't worry about 'love' yet. Plenty of time for that. Good luck...

Stan

You are not going to like this, but, you are not in love with this guy. You are infatuated, but not in love. It is pretty much impossible for you to love someone that you do not know. This is something that you will grow out of, I promise. There will be other wrestlers out there to be infatuated with too.

Amy

so my 45 year old neighbor hit one me. He told me he wants to cheat on his wife with me... what do I do?? I'm really destressed...HE told me to think about it. And I have and I decided that it whould be fun.... But he hasn't mentioned it... What do i do I want to do it how do I go about doing it...about to cheat

Well, I'm not gonna advise you on how to have an affair with this guy. He has a wife and you must think of her. He obviously has problems with her and needs to either work them out or move on with his life. You really should avoid him and let him sort out his on problems. If he ever gets a divorce, then he'll be up for grabs, until then he's out of play.

Stan

Don't do it...how can you, or anyone for that matter knowingly destroy a marriage. If he doesn't love his wife and wants to start something with you then let him end it with his wife first, but DO NOT have an affair with him. It is bad that he brought this up to you, but its even worse that you are even considering it.

Amy

I want to strip for my boyfriend. What's the best music and outfit for this occasion?

Wow, its different for every guy, you just need to get an idea of what he likes. I would try something with a good beat that you can dance to, but try to make it sexual too. As for the clothes, where something with plenty of clothes a business type suit or a uniform or something and have some kind of sexy underwear on too. You'll do just fine.

Stan

It all depends on what he likes. Dance to music he likes and wear the outfit that fulfills his fantasies. Lots of men like the maid, or school girl, or leather. And not to make this sound like a commercial, but we have a banner on the front page of our website where you can discreetly purchase outfits to wear for a strip tease. no pressure to use it though : )

Amy

Hi Stan & Amy - I there any physical way to tell if my guy is cheating on me? This may sound silly but my girlfriend said she has this theory that if a guy's bag hangs really low or loose, it means he's recently had sex, because then he's relaxed.

So to check thi out the last time he didn't want to have sex, which i thought guys wanted all the time, i got him naked to check him out. Well he was a looser and it did hang down lower than the times we do have sex. Then he is all bunched up, really hard. So is this true or what do you think.

Sorry, I've never heard that before. When a guy is having sex, the scrotum is gonna be tucked away a lot more than usual, this would explain why it was looser than what you were use to looking at. You should just trust your instincts and other signs such as if he's staying late to work or is acting funny. But don't just assume he's cheating. If you really want to know and really think he is, then...ask him.

Stan

I think that is just an old wives tale. I don't think that that would hold up in court. Do you have any other proof that he is having an affair rather than just his lack of sex drive? If it is just lack of sex drive than I don't think you should be worried just yet. Despite popular belief guys don't always want to have sex. Yes, they do want it a lot, but they don't have to have it all the time. I would wait for more evidence before jumping in and breaking up.

Amy

I have a little bit of a problem. I love my girlfriend, but I don't like any of her friends. In fact, I can barely tolerate them. My girlfriend has known this for a long time, but recently its become a big issue. Right now she's mad at me and not really talking to me. I've tried being nice to her friends, but I can't do it sincerely. What should I do?

All you can do is suck it up and be polite. If they are rude to you, then your girlfriend should realize that and talk to them about it. If you just don't like them, then just be a man when you are with them and be polite to them. Talk to your girlfriend and tell her that her friends get on your nerves. Tell her that you have trouble getting along with them, but that you are going to try your best to get along with them. But, she has to understand this and support him. You can't ask her to lose her friends, sometimes there are baggage's with girlfriends. Good luck, I hope it works out.

Stan

This may end up being a problem or not. I think it is better if you can get along with her friends, but not completely necessary. But just to let you know friends usually win out in this situation. Often it is a thing where she has known her friends longer, and may even feel closer to them still. Usually once you get into a serious relationship you tend to move away from your friends and toward your significant other. I would say if she is getting mad at you for not liking her friends then you may be asked to move on just because she has known them longer. One thing that could change this is if you could just try to suck it up and deal with her friends and keep your opinions to yourself. You don't have to like them, just kind of ignore them.

Amy

Hi I'm a 44 year old on my daughters s.name.One day she asked me "Why can't 13 and up can't watch the movies we watch".Then she said "that later on in life that they be seeing a guys private parts and that they'll be having sex later on in the future and why can't we see the women's parts when we teenagers are the same, so why can't I watch the sex scens."What should I do, should I let her? Please help me. Thank you.

This is really your decision, but personally I believe that you have to be able to obtain a certain level of maturity before you can be able to watch those kinds of movies. Watching a lot of violence or sex in movies or television at an early age can warp and desensitize a child so that think that having sex with everyone you meet is common practice in the world and so forth, or that every problem can be solved by beating someone up. The reason kids have to wait until they are more mature is so that they can already understand the difference between right and wrong. Kids at a young age are so very easy to manipulate, especially with 'cool' curse words and nudity. I suggest waiting until you feel that she is mature enough to watch a love scene without laughing at it or feeling embarrassed by it. You have to decide when that is. In addition to this, if you do let her watch a racy movie, make sure you watch it first. Not all R and pg. 13 rated movies are the same. Also, make sure in the mean time you explain to her the usual rules about life and stuff. Whatever your personal values are concerning sex, violence and that sort of thing. Good luck, and feel free to respond.

Stan

I think 13 is a little young to be watching the things that are in some of the movies. The reason not being what they show, but how they portray it. Sex, making love in movies is often portrayed in an unrealistic way. Also sometimes there is nudity and no real reason for it. Children should learn about sex and sexuality, but there is a place for that and that either in a sex education class or at home from their parents. Its not important that a 13 year old see other parts in preparation for sex because that 13 year old should not even be close to having sex. I hope this helps.

Amy

ok hey my name is R and i get pick on and no one alse will help me out so i wanted to come on line and find a plce to help me so what i wanted to ask was how can i get all the people at school to stop picking on me and have all the girls want to go out with me if u can tell me emall me back if u can help me out thanks

The number one way to get people to stop picking on you is to just get a little self confidence. Understand that they are stupid for picking on you, that is a childish and ridiculous thing. There is no guarantee that they will stop, because children can be cruel. We've all faced something like that in our lives, be strong, it will be over someday I promise. As for getting girls to like you, just be yourself and be nice to them and they will come around. Good luck. Let us know how it goes.

Stan

Unfortunately this is a problem that everyone goes through believe it or not. The kids that are picking on you are being picked on by someone else. The best thing to do is be yourself and realize that it doesn't matter what others think of you, but what you think of yourself. When I was growing up everyone used to tell me, when I asked this question, wait till you get older it will get better, and guess what they were right. Kids are cruel, and most of them grow out of it by the time they are 20. It is just one of life's little test, and you will be all the better for it when you come out on the other side. Good luck.

Amy

I have been going out with my girlfriend for several months. She often tells me it is "okay" to touch her breasts. I was wondering what the best way to caress her is and if she is suggesting at anything else. She seems uncomfortable going any farther than this and I dont want to push her into anything.

Thanks for the help.

Its hard to say if she wants you to do more, but you can always ask her. Believe it or not, it is very sweet to ask for permission to touch a girl. As for how you touch her breasts, I'm sure amy can come up with something for that. But remember that they are sensitive, don't hurt them. Go slow, this will naturally lead to more fondling, but just go at her pace. She'll lead the way most likely.

Stan

I think the only thing that she is suggesting is touching her breasts. I wouldn't go any further than that until the two of you agree on it. Now, on how to touch them, just touch them. She will let you know what feels good and what doesn't. That's how communication helps a relationship. Good luck.

Amy

hiiiiiii

thanx u Stan&Amy u r really very helpfull guys

i'm 21 m and my girlfriend is 18 we r in terms of long distance and long term relationship she lives in mexico and i live in egypt. well u know things didn't go as i planned my gf came up one day telling me that she brough a vaibraitor and she had used it because she was really hot and didn't want to sleep with anyone but me (she lives in mexico and i live in egypt)she is coming to egypt in july . well i don't know what to do i feel like she had cheated me :( .well i had told her that i forgive her cuz she kept saying that i love her only cuz she is a virgin but that's not true i REALLY love her so much but i want her to remain a virgin cuz it would be really special for both of us to lose verginaty together which will never happen :(.

well after that with a while we started masturbating together on the phone cuz we were so horny well we have done it 3 times but i think we should quit it cuz i think doing get will make us more horni y and will distroy our relationship which i would do anything to keep really love her so much and i don't want to ever lose her .

so plz tell me what do u think of her way of losing virganity and what should i do, tell me what u think about masturbating on the phone . i really thank u both for what u r doing u r so gr8 u know :) bye bye i hope i'll hear from u soon

In my opinion (and a lot of other people's), you lose your virginity when you are with another person, not when you have an orgasm. The thing that is special about virginity is that no person has ever touched you. You should want to be the first person your girlfriend ever makes love to. A vibrator did not take her virginity away, only a person can do that. There's nothing wrong with phone sex, it can be very intimate and bring you closer together. In my opinion sir, you are being overprotective. Also, are you saying that you'd never had an orgasm before you did it on the phone with her? Unlikely, and that is the same as her getting a vibrator. Let us know what you think or if you have any other questions.

Stan

I don't think using a vibrator is losing virginity. I think there needs to be another person involved to do that. I think if you think that you don't want to do these things anymore you should tell her how you feel. Tell her just what you just told us. If she doesn't respect how you feel about it then she doesn't respect you. I hope we have helped with you situation.

Amy

Hello

I desperately need some help. I am a 17 year old guy, and recently started going out with this girl a few weeks ago and things are going well. Our feelings for each other are growing. The problem is that when we are making out, and I try to make a move to go further, it seems as though she is uncomfortable. She did tell me once that she is self-conscious about her chest (it is average sized), but I don't know if it is me that is the problem. She said she has never gone any further with a guy before than making out, which I believe because she seems rather inexperienced. I myself am only slightly more experienced than she is. I really like her and don't want to do anything to make her uncomfortable, but I want to know if I should talk to her about it or what other approach I can take? Thank you in advance for answering my question.

If she doesn't want to take it any further then don't push her, you two are young, you don't need to rush into a more physical relationship. Try developing a more intimate intellectual relationship and then maybe she will feel more comfortable to move on to other things with you. If you love her you will let her move at her own speed. Good luck.

Amy

Amy has a point in that just because she doesn't want to move any further, doesn't really mean that anything is 'wrong.' Be patient and take things slowly, and yes, by all means talk to her. Tell her that you understand her needs and her pace, and you're supportive of her. When she is ready to take it further she will tell you, I assure you. In the meantime, be patient and tender and loving all the same.

Stan

My name's Anna and I'm a Swedish girl, 18 years old. I have always masturbated a lot and I love it but the last couple of months I am experiencing difficulties reaching my orgasm. I do not take any medication and I do not drink much alcohol and of course I am not taking drugs. Am I using bad techniques? I have always used two fingers, circling the clitoris in different speed and intensity. Other ways?

Last year I had a girlfriend but she broke our relation in late January and since then I am single and only had sex once (with a guy). Hope I've given you all necessary facts for you to answer my question. Grateful for help.

Well, unfortunately masturbation is not one of my strong points. It may be that too much is the problem or too much of the same thing is the problem. Maybe you need to change you technique, or go for a long time without doing it, to build desire. Sorry I couldn't help you anymore than that, but I'm sure Stan will have some better advice on masturbation : )

Amy

I think that you should vary it up a little bit, I'm sorry that amy didn't help more cause I'm sure that she knows this better than I. Just don't be afraid to experiment with different techniques, touching different places, at different paces. Have you ever tried to use anything, made for this purpose or otherwise, to try to help you obtain deeper penetration or better pleasure in general? I hope this helps a little bit, tell us if you have any other questions or an update.

Stan

The first one, how do you know what love is? or when it happens? The other one is how do you put a condum on right? also how bad will it hurt when I first have sex?

Thank YOu

That's the hard part about love, you don't know what it is or when it happens to you most of the time, you just end up right in the middle of it. For me being in love, was knowing that there was this person I had lived my whole life without, and now seeing that without him I wouldn't be complete. About condoms, when he becomes erect, and you are ready for intercourse you take it and just roll it down he penis starting at the tip. You want to leave a little space at the top and pinch the extra so there is no air in the tip. When you are done take it out right away and take the condom off, tie it up and throw it away. Sex will be a little painful the first time, but its nothing horrible, there will probably be blood, that's the scariest part, but the pain and the bleeding wont last long. I would urge you to stay away for having sex if you aren't sure that you love the other person. Good luck.

Amy

Anyone can define love differently. I think that love is when you care about someone so much that you would be willing to take pain, injury, or even death upon yourself so that they wouldn't have to suffer it. Also, imagine your life without that person, if it's not right, then maybe you're in love. Amy about covered the other stuff, but I'd like to stress that sex is a very emotional thing. Do not have sex until you are absolutely sure that you are with someone that you love and plan to be with forever. You'll regret it if you're not. Good luck, keep in touch.

Stan

Hi! My cousin is dating this girl for 6 yrs and will get married in the future.I have deep feeling for her 1st cousin and I always think about him alot is it possible for me and him to get married? Thank you! Aloha!

OK, he's you cousin, and by marrying this girl she will be your cousin by marriage, her first cousin will be no relation to you, so no, it would not be inbreeding to marry him. It would be confusing but it would be OK : ). Good luck.

Amy

I am going to be completely frank with you. You are the guy that mothers warn their daughters about. You are not in love with your wife, if you were, then you would not being thinking of throwing out your wedding commitments. You are an insensitive man, and I think your wife would be better off without you.

Amy

Well, Amy was pretty frank, and those are pretty much what you could expect from any woman who you told this to. And a lot of men as well. As for the hairy thighs and thick pubic hair, tell her that it bothers you. It is better to be honest than to cheat. Maybe you can have fun with it, shave it together. It can make foreplay and sex very pleasurable. As for other flaws of your wife, you can encourage her to fix them, but in the long run she will never be perfect. And you will have to learn to accept her for who she is, and not reject her for who she is not. And this is something you should have realized before you married her. Good luck to you, and I hope it works out. Keep us updated.

Stan

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