My first attempt at finding a bride was to limit myself to one woman.
It seemed the responsible, reasonable thing to do.  My next attempt was
to write many.  Visit many, preferably in the same city.  This is rather
difficult and may get a few women who find out very, very mad.  They may
even throw things at you.  It happened to me!  Never, ever fall in love
with E-mail, letters, pictures or fantasies.  This could, inevitably
lead to chaos and failure. As my good friend and psychotherapist would
say, "Don't create love stories in your head, deal with what is, not
what you want!"  When you visit make the visit as long as possible.  The
longer the better.  ANY dissension, strangeness or coldness should be
regarded as rejection.  I have been on and off RWL since 1998 and will
comment on some of the wisdom.  I want to remind all of you that I was
an agency owner and read thousands of letters from guys like you. Also
read the replies!  Listened in on  ladies conversations and made
suggestions.

1.  Try to write and be attracted to women who can understand English
from the get go.  This avoids problems.
2.  Be sincere do not waste her time and money.
3.   If you think her a viable candidate and expect her to find you
honorable and worthwhile do these things:  Set a day and  date you
propose to meet her.  AND PAY FOR HER CORRESPONDANCE  after you do!
3.  Never pay more than $30 for unlimited correspondence and DO NOT send
stuff you clip, long poems for instance.
4.  Contrary to what many on this list think paying for addresses is
absurd.  Many are no longer available and many more have no actual
contact with the agency in question.  I see women on sites I know who
are married!  4 years ago!  Nothing is wrong with FREE sites use them.
5.  When I was active with an Agency.  I deleted all contact information
from her to you and from you to her.  The only way the man could get
this information was to set a date for a meeting.  Or pay for her
correspondence then we thought him serious enough.  We kept it from her
so YOU COULD NOT BE SCAMMED.  if she asked for money she was out of
there, barred forever!  Our women knew our rules.  If a woman had a
legitimate reason to ask for funds we would do the asking for her.  As I
recall this was done only a few times.
5.  I think one of the very best agencies is  If I were in the market I
would personally use them.  They have a wonderful listing of FREE addresses and contact information at:  Athena Agency
 These ladies are mostly over 45 years .  I even know a few.  
They have been on the net sometimes for years.  The desires of men 
drift to the younger girls.   Yes, I know I am 35 year solder than my
wife but that is a different story as my quest did not start at that
age.  My marriage did start with a single letter sent to a 23 year old whom I accepted at face value! There are enough great wives on Athena's list alone to provide a
wife for nearly everyone on RWL.

Incidentally the woman mentioned above who threw so much stuff at
me..........She is the one who is now my wife!

Hope this comes as a shot in the arm and whatever your stage of quest
is.  I truly hope that you find and succeed in your desire.

Jim Key

abexx@rni.net