"A few months before I was born, my dad met a stranger who was new to
our
small Tennessee town. From the beginning, Dad was fascinated with this
enchanting newcomer, and soon invited him to live with our family.
The stranger was quickly accepted and was around to welcome me into
the
world a few months later. As I grew up I never questioned his place in
our
family. In my young mind, each member had a special niche. My brother,
Bill,
five years my senior, was my example. Fran, my younger sister, gave me
an
opportunity to play 'big brother' and develop the art of teasing. My
parents
were complementary instructors -Mom taught me to love the word of God,
and Dad
taught me to obey it. But the stranger was our storyteller. He could
weave
the most fascinating tales.
Adventures, mysteries and comedies were daily conversations. He
could hold
our whole family spell-bound for hours each evening. If I wanted to
know
about politics, history, or science, he knew it all. He knew about the
past,
understood the present, and seemingly could predict the future. The
pictures
he could draw were so life like that I: would often laugh or cry as I
watched.
He was like a friend to the whole family. He took Dad, Bill and me
to our
first major league baseball game. He was always encouraging us to see
the
movies and he even made arrangements to introduce us to several movie
stars.
My brother and I were deeply impressed by John Wayne in particular. The
stranger was an incessant talker Dad didn't seem to mind-but sometimes
Mom
would quietly get up- while the rest of us were enthralled with one of
his
stories of faraway places- go to her room, read her Bible and pray.
I wonder now if she ever prayed that the stranger would leave. You
see, my dad ruled our household with certain moral convictions. But
this
stranger never felt obligation to honor them. Profanity, for example,
was not
allowed in our house-not from us, from our friends, or adults.
Our longtime visitor, however, used occasional four letter words that
burned my ears and made Dad squirm. To my knowledge the stranger was
never
confronted. My dad was a teetotaler who didn't permit alcohol in his
home -
not even for cooking. But the stranger felt like we needed exposure and
enlightened us to other ways of life. He offered us beer and other
alcoholic
beverages often. He made cigarettes look tasty, cigars manly, and pipes
distinguished.
He talked freely (probably much too freely) about sex. His comments
were sometimes blatant, sometimes suggestive, and generally
embarrassing. I know now that my early concepts of the man - woman
relationship were influenced by the stranger. As I look back, I
believe it was the grace of God that the stranger did not influence us
more. Time after time he opposed the values of my parents. Yet he was
seldom
rebuked and never asked to leave. More than thirty years have passed
since the
stranger moved in with the young family on Morningside Drive. He is not
nearly so intriguing to my Dad as he was in those early years. But if
I were
to walk into my parents' den today, you would still see him sitting over
in a
corner, waiting for someone to listen to him talk and watch him draw his
pictures.
His name? We always just called him TV."