The Poly Perspective of the Single Male
SWM seeks...
Ever see an add that starts like this? I am sure you have. I know I have. And I know that my eye, like yours, automatically skipped over them knowing that so many of them are from scummy guys who can not get a date. Most of them looking for a couple to share the lady or a single women who wants a lover on the side or some women with a specific kink.
Couple seeks BiFem...
Another familiar one? Not the origin of a Hot Bi Babe but part of the reason that the phrase stuck around.
Where does that leave me? If you have been looking around the site you will have seen that I am a currently single poly male. I was in a poly relationship for many years before I ended up single. My friends insist that I should consider myself a Hot Bi Babe.
I could find a nice normal woman and settle down to have 2.5 kids and a dog.
----But I'm bi and poly.
I could find a nice guy to settle down with and invest in leather.
----But I'm bi and want a family
I could live alone flipping back and forth like some sort of politician. Dating what ever was cutest at the time.
----I think not. Not the life for me. I want a set of relationships that are stable. My preference is to be able to plan for things years or decades in the future.
Poly works! I have lived it. I have seen it in others. When it is bad it is twice as bad than a more normal relationship. But when it is good is hundreds of time better.
Those who know, know. But for those who don't imaging….
-Coming home to more than one set of arms
-Getting to tell that juicy piece of gossip to your lover. And then getting to tell it again to your other lover.
-Piling into bed with who ever to cuddle
-Walking down the street holding two sets of hands, not just one.
-Getting to give birthday presents more than once a year.
-More incomes
-Handing a child off to another parent when you need to.
Poly is a good thing. But for the single male it is tough. It's so easy to slip into either the slimy or weird categories.
Look at me. A perfectly normal white male. Just past 30. Employed. Good income. Ok to look at (or so I am told). Healthy.
I have two kinks. One is that I like to look at people (they are fun to watch). The other is that I sometimes like to get dominate in the bedroom. Other than that I am your normal not very average guy.
So most people latch on to the one or the other and call me a pervert.
Maybe I should post an add.
Hot Bi Babe seeks Couple for LTR.
Non-smoking, no drugs or STDs
Early 30's. Should like people
watching, role playing, and family
What do you think. Would it fly?
Last Updated 7-7-98